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maxrandb

(16,503 posts)
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 03:47 PM Feb 9

I think we may need to relax a little bit

I am going to try. Yes, it's horrible, disgusting, deplorable, fascist, racist and relentless, but life is a marathon, NOT a sprint.

I just talked to my children. One a member of the LGBT community, and one a female PHD working in a STEM field. They were upset, as can be expected, but I simply asked them to keep some perspective. I asked them to imagine what life was like for a gay person, or a minority, or a professional female scientist 40 to 50 years ago. At least in 2025, they have a large segment of the population that are their allies. I'd imagine that wasn't true 40 to 50 years ago.

I would also like to point out that this is what Donnie Dipshit has done his entire, miserable life. Whether in business, politics, or whatever fucking scam/con he is running, he comes in and steamrolls shit around like a monkey flinging poop. Eventually, the stuff he's bragadociously peddling as "the greatest, bestest, most beautiful shit ever seen", turns out to be as successful as Donnie Dipshit Steaks, or Vodka.

All he has done so far by EO can be overturned in a heartbeat. His only success so far has been to get people running around like the sky is falling. We won't survive a year, or two, or four, if we keep running at this pace.

I will take comfort in knowing that he will fail, and at a minimum, I am on the right side of history.

I am not going to ignore the harm he is doing, or the destruction he is capable of, but I won't let him live in my head.

Let's take action where we can (limiting our spending and ensuring we aren't supporting businesses that support fascism is probably the best tool we have).

Let's vow to take one post we were going to make on DU, and turn it into a letter, or phone call to our local and national reps. Or, take that one post and turn it into a Letter to the Editor.

EDITED TO ADD: This is 2025, so maybe less Letters to the Editor and more Blue-Sky, Tik-Tok, Instagram and You Tube messaging.

BTW - How many of you have shared DU with your friends, family, neighbors and co-workers?

Let's find our local Democratic Party office and volunteer in any way we can.

Let's engage with like minded folks.

Let's be ready to respond to idiot MAGAs at our grocery stores, churches, gas stations, malls and neighborhood block parties. You don't have to allow MAGAs into your life, I sure won't! But, you can push back when you hear them retreading fascist talking points.

If any have read some of my posts, you know I am not a Pollyanna, but....

We are going to get thru this. We are about at the Wedding Scene in The Godfather Part I point of this Donnie Dipshit misadministration. There is a long way to go to the part in Godfather III where Michael is alone clutching at his chest.

Let's save some popcorn for the end.

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I think we may need to relax a little bit (Original Post) maxrandb Feb 9 OP
K & R................. Lovie777 Feb 9 #1
I needed these wise words today Easterncedar Feb 9 #2
Thanks, Max UpInArms Feb 9 #3
Well said Arthur_Frain Feb 9 #4
Thanks for that. bif Feb 9 #5
You almost brought me to tears. phylny Feb 9 #6
Thank you mzmolly Feb 9 #7
I'm afraid I won't be able to relax until he's dead or in prison. groundloop Feb 9 #8
Maybe "relax" is the wrong word. Maybe "refocus" is better maxrandb Feb 9 #9
If one can be posthumously pardoned... dickthegrouch Feb 9 #10
For your wonderful, thoughtful and optimistic post, I just gave you another heart PLUS a rec! CaliforniaPeggy Feb 9 #11
Big problem with that is dickthegrouch Feb 9 #12
We've disincentivized most of the world from helping us. Pax Romana is Maru Kitteh Feb 9 #35
Both Thomas and Alito will retire before the end of MFer's term. maxsolomon Feb 10 #42
Yep malaise Feb 9 #13
Thank you Duncanpup Feb 9 #14
I am taking a political vacation soon RainCaster Feb 9 #15
How fortunate for you. Maru Kitteh Feb 9 #31
Sounds fun hibbing Feb 9 #37
I'd also recommend some non-political volunteering EdmondDantes_ Feb 9 #16
There was a time when I kept a couple of blank pieces Tanuki Feb 9 #17
Yes, pacing ourselves is very important LymphocyteLover Feb 9 #18
If it were just Donald, maybe, but I think we need to consider that we really TBF Feb 9 #19
Excellent Post! ProfessorGAC Feb 9 #20
I've been feeling the same way the past two days. Nt Quixote1818 Feb 9 #21
Sorry, but I disagree. FoggyLake Feb 9 #22
I'm mellowing out listening to my old tunes IrishBubbaLiberal Feb 9 #23
You are correct mr715 Feb 9 #24
You are right Pris Feb 9 #25
Recommended. H2O Man Feb 9 #26
I wish I could.... usedtobedemgurl Feb 9 #27
No. This needs to be stopped now! Legal minds, get the lawsuits going. His gang is shooting up our town. The Wielding Truth Feb 9 #28
Trying to finally exhale on this. Thank you, Alice B. Feb 9 #29
I fear that overturning the damage in a heartbeat is overly optimistic whopis01 Feb 9 #30
Well done townie Feb 9 #32
Much easier said than done, when family members are affected. This is another full-on coup Evolve Dammit Feb 9 #33
I'm hoping to escape stillcool Feb 9 #34
Thank you Keepthesoulalive Feb 9 #36
You and your kids can relax if you want, but he's harming my kid, so no. Jerryatric Feb 10 #38
maxrandb.......... Upthevibe Feb 10 #39
To be honest, I am keeping my perspective - while also simultaneously freaking the eff out ms liberty Feb 10 #40
Most here don't involve themselves in the MAGAots lives, DENVERPOPS Feb 10 #41

Easterncedar

(4,247 posts)
2. I needed these wise words today
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 03:56 PM
Feb 9

Thank you! Our anxiety is a weapon against us that they are manipulating. Hope is the counter attack.

bif

(25,160 posts)
5. Thanks for that.
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 04:03 PM
Feb 9

I think limiting the visits to GD and Late Breaking News helps too. Way too many Gloom & Doom and The Sky is Falling posts.

maxrandb

(16,503 posts)
9. Maybe "relax" is the wrong word. Maybe "refocus" is better
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 04:52 PM
Feb 9

Turning that anxiety into action is probably what I meant.

dickthegrouch

(3,981 posts)
10. If one can be posthumously pardoned...
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 04:55 PM
Feb 9

Can they be posthumously convicted in any other arena than history books or public opinion?
And all their assets seized?

dickthegrouch

(3,981 posts)
12. Big problem with that is
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:00 PM
Feb 9

It will take decades to undo the damage.
Any more SCOTUS picks and we are doomed for generations.
We’ll need rescuing just like Europe did in 1944, but there won’t be as powerful a coalition to mount or achieve it.

Maru Kitteh

(29,995 posts)
35. We've disincentivized most of the world from helping us. Pax Romana is
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 06:28 PM
Feb 9

slumping away with a diseased whimper.

maxsolomon

(36,333 posts)
42. Both Thomas and Alito will retire before the end of MFer's term.
Mon Feb 10, 2025, 03:45 PM
Feb 10

They'll be replaced by Leonard Leo picks. Dems won't be able to stop it. The 6-3 Majority will probably last for decades.

Steel yourself.

RainCaster

(12,639 posts)
15. I am taking a political vacation soon
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:12 PM
Feb 9

I will spend several weeks in Australia and New Zealand. During that time I will try to isolate myself from all the BS that is TSF. I'm looking forward to that time.

EdmondDantes_

(405 posts)
16. I'd also recommend some non-political volunteering
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:12 PM
Feb 9

Find something meaningful to you, in your community where you can see the impact in the short term. It provides the immediate feedback that politics lacks.

Tanuki

(15,803 posts)
17. There was a time when I kept a couple of blank pieces
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:13 PM
Feb 9

of poster board and a Sharpie in the trunk of my car in case I came upon protest I wanted to join. I'm going to do that again, and also thinking about getting a bullhorn. Not kidding. I'm not "shocked" or "awed" by the firehose of fascism, just disgusted and pissed off, and I don't want to miss an opportunity to have my say. Already calling my worthless Senate and Congressional offices and will keep doing so.

TBF

(35,078 posts)
19. If it were just Donald, maybe, but I think we need to consider that we really
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:17 PM
Feb 9

have no idea what Musk is doing. Donny is just doing his blubbering thing, but Musk means business. They're not going to slow down for court orders, they are going to keep at it until they dismantled the entire government.

FoggyLake

(239 posts)
22. Sorry, but I disagree.
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:34 PM
Feb 9

Limiting our spending? C'mon. I think now is the time for real action. We should be organizing. Having town halls. Soliciting donations for the legal fights. Contacting our reps in government.

To be honest, I'm an old disabled woman with limited mobility so am not much use in this fight. But FFS when will the populace grow a spine????

IrishBubbaLiberal

(1,380 posts)
23. I'm mellowing out listening to my old tunes
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:44 PM
Feb 9

Been listening to lots of my favorites

From 1960s 1970s

Been posting a few here on DU Music Appreciation

Pris

(103 posts)
25. You are right
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:46 PM
Feb 9

WE wil have to go through this and it will end. Engaging with others is essential.

The MAGAS are the people the founders warned us about.

usedtobedemgurl

(1,644 posts)
27. I wish I could....
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:53 PM
Feb 9

I am glad and perplexed others can relax as Democracy circles the drain. It is the end of a huge era. As a woman, my rights are threatened and/or have been taken away. I am afraid of high food prices and shortages. The only reason my hubby is alive today is because of ongoing cancer treatments. The tariffs threatened against outside medicine coming into our country, as I read here the other day, could mean shortages on cancer meds. That means people, including my husband, could end up dying. These facts may be cause for others to relax. The possibility of losing my soul mate has given me more than anxiety. Not to worry makes me feel like an uncaring person - to my husband and others.

The Wielding Truth

(11,428 posts)
28. No. This needs to be stopped now! Legal minds, get the lawsuits going. His gang is shooting up our town.
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 05:56 PM
Feb 9

whopis01

(3,814 posts)
30. I fear that overturning the damage in a heartbeat is overly optimistic
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 06:07 PM
Feb 9

Yes, the executive orders themselves can be overturned. But that will not overturn all he has done. It won’t fix the damage quickly.

The loss of employees with years of knowledge and experience.

The loss of trust on the international stage.

The business relationships that countries like Canada and Mexico are going to back out of in search of more stability.

The loss and exfiltration of sensitive data by Musk and his people.

All of those are going to take years and years to fix even after Trump is gone. It will get fixed. But it will be long and painful.

I do agree that he will fail. But he isn’t the biggest problem we face. The people that take advantage of him to manipulate our country (Project 2025 for example) are the threat. He is just the enabling force. Or the useful idiot.

Keepthesoulalive

(1,172 posts)
36. Thank you
Sun Feb 9, 2025, 06:35 PM
Feb 9

We went through this his last coup. Being constantly fixated on his crazy is bad for our health and sanity. He adores the attention, let’s try to give him less of it. I am working to change what I can but having a fit over everything he says and does just wears you out and causes you to lose focus on the important things. Volunteer, donate to worthy causes, hold our representatives accountable and take care of your emotional health.

Jerryatric

(2,475 posts)
38. You and your kids can relax if you want, but he's harming my kid, so no.
Mon Feb 10, 2025, 02:47 PM
Feb 10

My son, who has had a very hard life up to this point and seems to lose everything every time something good happens (like he finally got engaged and then she died) works for the gov't. He is depressed and angry and scared and cannot figure out how he became the enemy of the people suddenly when all he does is try to help people get the benefits they've earned. He is truly suffering, as is every federal employee, so there is no rest or relaxing to be done in this family until this shit stops.

Upthevibe

(9,480 posts)
39. maxrandb..........
Mon Feb 10, 2025, 02:50 PM
Feb 10

Thank you so much for your well thought out and insightful words.

It's just what I needed today....

ms liberty

(10,145 posts)
40. To be honest, I am keeping my perspective - while also simultaneously freaking the eff out
Mon Feb 10, 2025, 02:51 PM
Feb 10


It's why I'm not watching news, just reading it. And limiting my daily intake. And taking up new hobbies.

DENVERPOPS

(11,771 posts)
41. Most here don't involve themselves in the MAGAots lives,
Mon Feb 10, 2025, 03:17 PM
Feb 10

THE MAGAots, often aggressively, involve themselves in Our Lives.

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