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I just can't see myself getting past this.
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bunnies
(15,859 posts)
Thats horrible!! Im so sorry, marble. SO sorry. 
LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)There isn't anything to say to make it better. I'm so sorry.
You don't get past it. You just live through it.
Bigmack
(8,020 posts)I can't imagine what life would be like without him.
Hang in there. Lots of us out here feel your loss.
Nite Owl
(11,303 posts)I'm so sorry.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)I've been there and I think I know how you are feeling. Awful, just no words to describe.
But it gets better eventually, I know that will not be much comfort right now to you, but it does. And you will remember your little loved one in the fondest and most loving way, and he/she will somewhere, somehow remember how they loved you.
I'm soooooo sorry. Hang in there. Grieve, cry, throw things, if you must, but hang in there.
Cleita
(75,480 posts)You need to grieve first, as long as it takes.
mike_c
(36,524 posts) 
diabeticman
(3,121 posts) 
I am here if you need anything.
Tippy
(4,610 posts)A neighbor shot one of ours...he is just a mean nasty person Kaddie was in my son's yard at the time. It gets easier, and you will have those memories.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)My southside neighbor has threatened my 2 little dogs because they're not permanently silent the way he wants the rest of the world to be. He's a bitter old man. My 1/4 acre is entirely fenced, but I still fear for Molly Maguire and Brigid. He used to lean over the fence and wave his arms and cuss at my old chows to stir them up, then go indoors and call his police chief buddy to complain about them. They say he keeps a lot of guns and I'm afraid he'll go postal someday.
srican69
(1,426 posts)I am so sorry for you ....
dkf
(37,305 posts)backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)That's one of the hardest
Hugs for you
Xyzse
(8,217 posts)
winter is coming
(11,785 posts) 
City Lights
(25,577 posts)
I am so very sorry to hear this.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)I know it helped me to talk about him for a long time after - that may not work for you but it did me.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)Whisp
(24,096 posts)marble falls
(64,707 posts)adult son ended up here. We've only half jokingly said he had to leave, the dog could stay. He found a way into our hearts and we heart broken. He was so loving to us and afraid James.
He would look so worried about anything left on our plates. He just loved my wife and me and he let us know it in so many ways every single day.
I saw him run over and I felt like my heart was punched. I never wanted another animal in my life and this one got into my heart like no other before.
All good dogs go to heaven and this one should have his place there, too.
alsame
(7,784 posts) Junkdrawer
(27,993 posts)All I can say is allow yourself to feel the loss and let the "getting past this" take care of itself.
So sorry to hear this.
dipsydoodle
(42,239 posts)Pet chums are special.
randome
(34,845 posts)You'll get over it.
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Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)Tell us about your friend, it might help. And I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you will heal.
otohara
(24,135 posts)years ago...it's heartbreaking.
So very sorry for your loss.
Liberalynn
(7,549 posts) 
dorkzilla
(5,141 posts)I don't have kids so my doggies are my babies. I also have 3 cats that think they pay the mortgage.
When I was a kid my dog--my ever-present shadow from the time I was 6 years old--was hit by a car right in front of me when I was 12. I was so hard hit that my mother allowed me to stay home for a week, as I couldn't do anything but sob uncontrollably.
You have my deepest and most heartfelt sympathies. You'll get past this, but you must allow yourself time to grieve. And grieve you will.
In time, you will honor your dog by giving a new one a wonderful, loving home. God knows there are too many unwanted ones and not enough love to go around.
Art_from_Ark
(27,247 posts)on the same day that Robert Kennedy died. It was tough to deal with that, especially since so many bad things seemed to be happening that summer-- but as you noted, the poster can honor the dog by giving a new one a wonderful, loving home.
villager
(26,001 posts)There are no words for a searing, profound, and wrenching loss like this.
But -- know that DU is here for you.
Take care.
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)Last edited Mon Sep 30, 2013, 06:18 PM - Edit history (1)
I understand. My Anya and Tessa were both killed at the same time on December 13, 2006. (Yes, I remember it vividly still, and it was MY FAULT -- I posted about it here: http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=364x2915102).
I am so very, very sorry!!!
chillfactor
(7,694 posts)I am so sorry to hear of your loss...I have been a dog lover my entire life.....my little puppy is my link to sanity..she loves unconditionally....I do not know what I would do without her......
strive to keep the memories of your dog alive in you heart...your dog will always hold a special place there
leveymg
(36,418 posts) 
Not Me
(3,408 posts)My older dog hasn't got a lot of time left, and I know I will be in pieces when he goes. I can't imagine how this sudden tragedy must feel.
hugs to you.
TBF
(35,078 posts)it hurts so much no matter how we lose them ... whether it's after years w/illness or a freak accident like this. ((Hugs))
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)LordGlenconner
(1,348 posts)One after a valiant 2 year battle with cancer that was filled with almost exclusively good days until the very end. The other to a sudden bout with congestive heart failure.
What I want through is different than what you are going through. You are dealing with shock and a sudden loss. There was no time to prepare yourself. You are going to be emotionally raw for many days to come, and there will be darkness, but you will come out of it on the other end strong and with the cherished memory of your pup. It gets better. I promise. Never be afraid to talk to others or to a professional therapist. That's why they're for.
Wish I could give you a big hug....
marble falls
(64,707 posts)way. The emotional investment is so pure and sweet and returned so many times over from them.
LordGlenconner
(1,348 posts)Hang in there. It gets better.
applegrove
(125,694 posts)I got another kitten. But you do get over it.
bullwinkle428
(20,649 posts)
Scuba
(53,475 posts)
titaniumsalute
(4,742 posts)SugarShack
(1,635 posts)closeupready
(29,503 posts) 
Harmony Blue
(3,978 posts)This is hardest way to say goodbye to a beloved member of the family.
derby378
(30,262 posts)I am hurting for you.
Stinky The Clown
(68,562 posts)Losing a pet is, for those of us devoted to them, nearly as difficult as losing a human family member.
This is for you and all who loved your dog:
marble falls
(64,707 posts)
benld74
(10,089 posts)time will heal, it may not feel like it now,,,,
To honor your buddy check out rainbowbridge.com
funds collected go to shelters across the country
Honoring him will allow you to grieve with others who have lost pets, and set up memorial for him as well
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)Dogs and cars just don't mix. My mother's dog was run over by a car, that little dog just loved chasing those wheels.
RIP 
Scout
(8,625 posts)how was it he was running around in the road?
Are_grits_groceries
(17,111 posts)marble falls
(64,707 posts)and I got to see him run over.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)
Raine1967
(11,637 posts)I am so sorry. I am so very sorry that you and your furbaby went through this.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)
2theleft
(1,137 posts)All I can offer is hugs and kind thoughts. This is a horrible and sudden thing to go through. Hang in there, cry, get mad, be sad, whatever it takes to get your through it. Your pup will always be in your heart.
Wilms
(26,795 posts)And knew it.
It's what matters most.
TuxedoKat
(3,826 posts)to hear this. I never lost a pet this way and it must be just awful. Major hugs for you.
sinkingfeeling
(55,048 posts)
appleannie1
(5,251 posts)compounded by the What ifs. The I should have been more careful. I should have watched the gate more closely etc. etc. Sending hugs and good vibes your way.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)several times but James wouldn't take of him and he just weinied his way into our hearts and became and important part of our lives.
He got past us at the door and was gone like a flash, I got close enough to see him get run over. He was afraid sometimes when she and I would leave together that he'd be left alone. I think maybe he though we might bring him along if he got outside first. And we are just heart broken.
I have never felt to sad in my life.
I am afraid when James gets home. He's been in jail three times over violence and I think there is a good chance of more tonight.
renate
(13,776 posts)Something like that can happen in the blink of an eye. I do hope you aren't blaming yourself in any way whatsoever... a dog that quick and that determined is pretty much an unstoppable force. Even if you keep him from running out 99.9% of the time--a pretty high success rate by any standard--that 0.1% can end up breaking your heart.
And then to actually see your beloved dog get hit--I cannot imagine the horror. One thing that I hope might comfort you is to keep in mind that, while you are reliving that moment a million times and will keep reliving it for months or years, Bradley only went through it once. Just once. And then it was over. It is much, much, much harder for you than it was for him.
I don't know what to say about being afraid of your son's reaction. Can you call the police's non-emergency number and ask to have a patrol car drive by a few times tonight?
You have my absolute and heartfelt sympathy. I am so sorry for your loss.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)of folks here.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)Your son is troubled, but I'm sure you love him. I'm glad he brought Bradley into your lives at least for a short time, and I'll be praying for an understanding resolution.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)on top of his enlistment where he was shot in the chest (he was armored but still took a tremendous thump), had his humvee blown up and because he wasn't forth coming to his mom(we found out about those two incidents from others so we don't know what else has happened - I think he has more honor and integrity than any of those who sent him there. I respect him tremendously. He never whines or complains about "poor little me". Ever.
I think he's earned a pass if he hasn't quite acclimated to being home.
He's working through and its not easy. The dog getting away from me was not helpful. But he seems to be taking this with some grace.
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Faygo Kid
(21,487 posts)All wonderful, beloved dogs, most recently Sasha, in 2001. I'm sorry to say you're right - you'll never get fully past this. Hang in there and be good to yourself - rough months ahead.
Stuart G
(38,726 posts)duffyduff
(3,251 posts)The death of a pet is one of the worst things imaginable, and a sudden death like this is even worse.
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)SHRED
(28,136 posts)Took him to the vet and had told put him down. Broken spine.
You'll get over it but it's tough.
Sorry for your loss.
Remember ... time heals all wounds.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)WilliamPitt
(58,179 posts)I'm so sorry.
sarge43
(29,169 posts)So very hard to lose a friend.
polly7
(20,582 posts)Doubly traumatic when you see it happen, I'm really sorry.
gademocrat7
(11,412 posts)Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts) TrogL
(32,825 posts)I didn't know she'd been hit by a car. I found her on the sidewalk bleeding from the mouth. The news had been going on about animals getting heatstroke and one of the symptoms they described was bleeding from the mouth. Took her to the emergency vet and they STILL didn't confirm she'd been hit but started pumping her up with oxygen. A day later they finally got around to wiring her jaw but it was pointless because she had a punctured lung that I'd seen on the X-ray and they missed.
Finally had her put down and threatened to sue unless they refunded on all the unnecessary procedures they'd done, especially since there was a do not resuscitate in place. I'm never going back.
tofuandbeer
(1,314 posts)
cui bono
(19,926 posts)So sorry to hear it. It will be hard but you'll make it in time.
frogmarch
(12,243 posts)I don't know what else to say except that my heart goes out to you.
Randomthought
(906 posts)when my wonderful cat was run over I couldn't talk about it for 6 weeks. I could only communicate online as you are. My heart aches for you.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)from my life. And I am so grateful and amazed how many people stopped to help me and my wife and carry our wonderful dog to the vet.
Its been three hours and I don't think I'll ever be as happy as I was four hours ago again.
CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)You will be happy again. This happened to our family. We were all so devastated. The kids stayed home from school that day. We were all in shock, and stricken with such horrible loss, sadness and pain. I know what you are feeling. You are not alone. Please know that this is a tragedy and a trauma, and it s a fresh wound. It is ok to feel horrible and devastated, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to process this shock. I promise you that you will get through this. So many here understand your pain. You are not alone!
ChoppinBroccoli
(3,899 posts)..............to a driver who hit him on the road and just kept right on going. Didn't even bother to stop and ask the people who lived in the house if it was their dog or if they knew whose dog it was. This whole "Me First" attitude that has become accepted and even applauded in this country really pisses me off sometimes.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)When I grew up the classic line was, "Did anyone get the number of that truck?"
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)a passing driver swerved and tried to hit her, then drove past me laughing his fool head off. If not for a ditch she jumped into, she'd have wound up like poor Marble's Bradley.
Granny M
(1,395 posts)So very sorry, Marble. Sending you comforting thoughts.
KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)Taken away in an instant.
Myrina
(12,296 posts) Know that us 4-legged parents grieve with you. qanda
(10,428 posts)There are no words that can explain the feeling of loss when our beloved pets pass away, especially under those circumstances. I just want you to know that I am thinking of you and I feel for you.
nolabear
(43,661 posts)Dogs are such amazing creatures. They open us up and yes, they break our hearts. I hope that as yours mends it will carry the good things about Bradley in it, and that you'll use your love for him to help you love others, both people and animals.
And I hope the same for your son. Pain is so much easier when you can bear it together rather than letting it tear you apart.
Peace to you all.
James48
(4,804 posts)I am so sorry for your loss.
pnwmom
(109,823 posts) 
get the red out
(13,711 posts)So horrible. I love my dog so much, I would feel the same way. They are so much more than some people give them credit for. Sweet angels is what they are. I am so sorry and my thoughts go out to you.
PatrynXX
(5,668 posts)Spent about 25 yrs now and every time I hear about a dog getting run over I think of Savannah It wasn't my dog. It was the Pastors families dog. bout 88 or 89 (I'll leave her name out of it) the pastors daughter had gone out to answer the phone (that was the chore for certain years at the school and we were right on a highway. She answered and came running back crying into the classroom. Savannah had been run over during class. Won't ever forget that. I don't know why that is. I'm still getting over ours. That seemed easier. I wish you luck and some good soul searching.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)It hurts when this kind of thing happens. I hope your dog didn't suffer.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)we let my stepson stay here. That dog became a treasured member of the family and very important to my wife's and my day. We are just so sad.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)marble falls
(64,707 posts)Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)marble falls
(64,707 posts)we both know violence is a strong possibility. After his last arrest he got rid of his firearms, and we are prepared for the worst at all times. Even while we look forward for the best at all times.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)to see Bradley at the vet's office.
No Vested Interest
(5,232 posts)in his own way, even if that way is inappropriate.
So sorry for all three of you.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)so much. He came home early, he has counseling tonight at the VA. He took it well but I saw some emotion. He just went over to the Vet to see Bradley. I feel bad for him and I feel guilty for not keeping my responsibility safe. Wonderful dog.
No Vested Interest
(5,232 posts)At any given time, we're doing the best we can.
You're good people hurting at this time.
Be kind to yourselves, in Bradley's memory.
atreides1
(16,617 posts)We had to let our Freya go, a little over a month ago...we had her for 15 1/2 years, from when she was 7 weeks old.
Here's something that helped us in our grief:
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... - Author unknown
I hope that it can help you as well.
B Calm
(28,762 posts)She was an old dog (16 years old) and she would always greet me when I pulled into the driveway. She was slow and when I was backing up to the garage I felt a thump. I stopped and jumped out and found her laying there still alive with her guts spilled out. But, the hardest thing was then I had to get back in my vehicle and drive over her again to put her out of her misery. I feel for you. . .
marble falls
(64,707 posts)B Calm
(28,762 posts)named Dusty and only 3 years old. I loved that dog probably more than any other dog I ever had. He would always want to go with me when ever I started up my old jeep. I was cutting firewood in some woods two miles from home. Dusty took off running through the woods chasing a squirrel when I started up the chainsaw. I downed a huge red oak tree and was busy cutting it up into logs. That's when I discovered Dusty had been squashed by the tree when it fell. Broke the whole family's heart, but it literally tore me up. I haven't had another dog since.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)TorchTheWitch
(11,065 posts)When you're grief stricken is the worst time to make big decisions like this. Personally, the only thing that HAS helped me when I've lost one of my fur babies was to get another one. The love needs somewhere to go, and why would you want to deprive yourself of the love and devotion they give back?
Put that decision on a shelf for now. After some time has gone by revisit it again. Somewhere there's a doggie that wants you for it's wonderful forever home. Of course you aren't ready now, but in time you may feel differently. After I lost my first doggie I also thought no other one could have compared to him until I got Boo, and after his loss I thought that I was just the most lucky person in the world to have had two doggies that were the light of my life, and then I got Yoshi who is the light of my life now. Had I never gotten Boo or Yoshi after Kato died I would have spent the last decade and more in absolute misery pining after a beloved dog that was gone.
The only thing that stinks about having a pet is that we're going to outlive them. That's just a given. But I would never trade that eventual loss over the years of love and devotion and laughter and hugs they gave me for the years that I had them for the whole world.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)how we get so emotionally connected to other animals that live such short lives. If I would ever consider another 'family member', he/she needs to out live me. Nope. I just cannot go thru this again.
shireen
(8,339 posts)you did the right thing, but it must have hurt like hell.
Blue Owl
(55,903 posts)What a cruel, horrible thing to happen. I know I'd be distraught...
rustydog
(9,186 posts)I still miss my Rusty. You're in my thoughts
GreenPartyVoter
(73,273 posts)what helped was time, and knowing that at some point there was another furbaby out there who would need a good home when I was ready.
I really am so sorry!
unionthug777
(740 posts)you have my sympathies !!
Tien1985
(921 posts)That's terrible we'll keep your family in our thoughts
OmahaBlueDog
(10,000 posts)It's all right, children. Life is made up of meetings and partings. That is the way of it.
Kermit the Frog
Under medical advice, I can no longer have friends who are furry. Were I able to, and I were in your position, I would mourn, and then I would go visit an organization like 100+ ABANDONED DOGS OF EVERGLADES FLORIDA
http://100plusabandoneddogsofevergladesflorida.com/
You have parted from one friend. Now go meet another one.
Bearheim
(29 posts)A loss like this, so sudden and so close to the family is always hard. You will be in my thoughts. Hang in there.
murielm99
(31,836 posts)We have had that happen. It does continue to hurt, but you will remember the good times, not the tragic ending.
greatlaurel
(2,012 posts)So very sorry for this. You are in my thoughts, take care.
uppityperson
(115,920 posts)Swede Atlanta
(3,596 posts)I used to have that fear with my two when they were young pups and very lively. I would have been devastated both at the loss but also asking myself what I could have done to prevent the dog from being in the road.
My two are now so old they are too slow to get away from me so for that I am thankful.
My most sincere condolences to you on this loss. I couldn't imagine my life without my two little angels by my side. I know the day will come when they will pass on but for now I cannot envision a day without the sunshine they bring into my life.
Lizzie Poppet
(10,164 posts)My condolences...it's just devastating to lose a family member (and that's what our pets really are). Wishing you strength...
OneGrassRoot
(23,701 posts)
tortie
(39 posts)I am so sorry. The loss of a beloved pet is very difficult. There are some good pet loss forums out there if you need someone to talk to that really understands what you are going through. They helped me through the loss of my dog and my cat in a two month period a couple of summers ago. My heart goes out to you.. Be kind to yourself. Tortie.
cry baby
(6,804 posts)dogindia
(1,345 posts)My heart is with you. How I got thru my dog's death. who was with me for 15 years and we were never apart. She was the sweetest smartest most beautiful dog ever.
I imagined her still with me. I talked to her all the time. I imagined what she would do at each place we would go. It never suffered deep loss and I have alot of loss in my life and family.
Do it. Talk to him or her. She is still with you. It just may work or help in some way.
It worked for me and as I said it was almost intolerable to loose my India.
great love to you.
Meg
ismnotwasm
(42,628 posts) Egalitarian Thug
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HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)Recriminations will ask about the contribution of your potential neglect to restrain the movement of the canine.
lastlib
(25,731 posts)Never easy to lose a dear friend! Sending the good vibes your way! You may find this consoling:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/101871517
cali
(114,904 posts)you are in my thoughts, marble falls.
mnhtnbb
(32,433 posts)It was one of the saddest days of my life.
Just hugs. Sending you hugs.
Mira
(22,515 posts)It's a pain that seems unbearable, so grieve and let it out. This wound needs a chance to heal, which it will.
I fully understand that you can't see it getting better. I could not when the same thing happened to my dog, in front of my eyes.
Today there is always a scar - and I can think of the lost pet with love and gratitude.
You will, too. In time.
mike dub
(541 posts)Biiiiig hug and good thoughts coming your way
gejohnston
(17,502 posts)sorry for your loss
tblue
(16,350 posts)I never cried so hard. I am so sorry, sweetie. Sending you hugs. Poor puppy!!!!!
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)shireen
(8,339 posts)Dogs become a part of who you are, and losing him must feel like losing a little bit of yourself. That void inside ...
I'm so so sorry for your loss.
Roy Rolling
(7,273 posts)Our old cat fell in the pool and drowned 3 weeks ago. I fished him out and spent an hour doing CPR but it was too late. I was crushed and said the same thing as you. But over a few days the good memories of "Franky" started to crowd out the horrible memory of our last time together.
I am still brought to tears, but I am not as crushed as I was. So IT WILL GET BETTER. But for now, I know it is almost unbearable. You have a right to be upset, that only demonstrates what a loving person you are.
I hope and pray you have some comfort very soon.
matt819
(10,749 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. That's awful.
Now for the platitudes. You will get past this instant in time. You won't forget, of course, and you'll always feel the loss, but the horror of this moment will pass, and you'll remember the good stuff.
One of our dogs was also killed by a car a few years ago. She was a sweetheart, but she had a wild streak. Of all of our dogs, she was the one who got quilled, who was sprayed by skunks, and who managed to get stuck digging in the ground after who know what. And getting her in at night was a challenge. One night, she was right at the door, which I opened, and she promptly turned tail and ran. Fun game. A while later - it was close to 1 in the morning, we heard a truck braking hard, then stopping, and then moving on. It could mean only one thing, and it did. That was 2 1/2 years ago. We miss her still, but the awfulness of the moment is past.
matt819
(10,749 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. That's awful.
Now for the platitudes. You will get past this instant in time. You won't forget, of course, and you'll always feel the loss, but the horror of this moment will pass, and you'll remember the good stuff.
One of our dogs was also killed by a car a few years ago. She was a sweetheart, but she had a wild streak. Of all of our dogs, she was the one who got quilled, who was sprayed by skunks, and who managed to get stuck digging in the ground after who know what. And getting her in at night was a challenge. One night, she was right at the door, which I opened, and she promptly turned tail and ran. Fun game. A while later - it was close to 1 in the morning, we heard a truck braking hard, then stopping, and then moving on. It could mean only one thing, and it did. That was 2 1/2 years ago. We miss her still, but the awfulness of the moment is past.
AndreaCG
(2,331 posts)Here's wishing you and your family stength and solidarity to get through this sd event.
SoutherDem
(2,307 posts)As a pet lover (cats and dogs) I know they are a members of our families and I am shedding a tear for you. You are in my thoughts.
oldhippie
(3,249 posts)The loss of a loved pet can be just devastating. I lost my last one a few years ago and the pain was so great that I haven't been able to even think about getting another pet and going through it again. I think being older makes it hurt even more.
I just drove through Marble Falls on Saturday coming back from Fredericksburg and the Renewable Energy Roundup. I was thinking as I drove across the bridge "I know a DUer from here!"
The pain will subside, given time. Try to remember the good times.
MissDeeds
(7,499 posts)I am so very, very sorry! I know it hurts like hell. I hope your buddy went quickly and didn't suffer. In December, we had to have one of our 12 and a half year old bichons euthanized due to liver failure. It nearly killed me, and I still feel the pain of his loss. On the day we had him put to sleep, my husband had to go to the post office. One of the ladies who works there asked him why he was at the post office in the middle of the day instead of at work. My husband explained that we had had to put our dog down. An older gentleman in line behind him said "I'm sorry. I've lost a lot of family in my time, and a lot of friends too, but there is nothing like losing your dog." At that point, everyone in the post office grew quiet as if they too knew the truth of his words. Although I wasn't there, I'll always remember that. For many of us, our dogs are not only members of the family, but our best friends as well.
I will keep you in my thoughts and send lots of good vibes your way. And again, I am so very sorry for the loss of your buddy.
Miss Deeds
marble falls
(64,707 posts)I've had to put down two dogs that my parents had and it was hard for me and very hard on my parents.
They aren't things. They are family. Thankyou for your kind words and insight.
Herb and Joy
MissDeeds
(7,499 posts)Much love and healing to you.
dembotoz
(16,922 posts)i remember the pain
my heart goes out to you
Barack_America
(28,876 posts) 
Paper Roses
(7,541 posts)Several years ago, my kitty did a swift sneak out the screen door and ran right in front of a car. I saw it happen and the sight still comes back to haunt me.
Remember the fun times with your special friend. My sympathy and understanding to you.
no_hypocrisy
(51,157 posts)The same thing happened to us and just before we were going to sit down for Thanksgiving. There are no words.
Are_grits_groceries
(17,111 posts)Cry all you want and need.
My Mama would always say "This too shall pass."
I always answered, " Maybe. But have does it have to pass like a kidney stone."
Sigh......
marble falls
(64,707 posts)cried for my grandparents - we are a long lived group and we know where this road ends, I never cried for my dad - he lived good and he lived hard and died with grace. I cannot imagine what losing my children would do to me, it was my biggest fear as they grew up - that they were too perfect and I in no way deserved the blessing they were in my life.
But this dog has me feeling so sad, I just don't see the path.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)But you will.
Give your stepson my loving thoughts as well. If he got rid of his weapons, he really does want to get better. You need each other more than ever right now.
LibertyLover
(4,788 posts)That just plain sucks donkey butt. I know it's difficult to think beyond the pain and loss right now, but as someone who has lost eight dogs so far, the thing that really helps is getting another dog as soon as possible so that all the love you have has some place to go and to help another dog. I hope you will find yourself open to rescuing a new dog soon, and you can tell him or her all about the dog you've lost - they are very good at listening and licking.
TorchTheWitch
(11,065 posts)Getting another dog keeps you from wallowing in the pain of loss. That love in our hearts needs somewhere to go, and we don't even often realize how much we need the love that a pet gives to us. You never forget the ones that went before, but having another fur baby is like getting a new lease on life. I think it keeps you from spending ages heaping ashes on your head and wallowing in the pain and misery of the loss.
AtomicKitten
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Mz Pip
(28,055 posts)There are no words. Just know you are in our thoughts.
Coyote_Bandit
(6,783 posts)When I was a kid living out on a farm.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Cha
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Buns_of_Fire
(18,336 posts)You'll carry on, but you'll never forget. Perhaps that's the best tribute.
redwitch
(15,150 posts)I am more sorry than words can say.
TDale313
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PeteSelman
(1,508 posts)Poor doggy.
I'd wish you the best but what would that even be at a time like this?
ColesCountyDem
(6,944 posts)My fur kids are, well, my kids. I can only imagine your grief.
Emit
(11,234 posts)I am so very sorry for your loss, marble falls.
If it is any consolation I have had this happen - I had a dog that was run over right in front of me in a hit and run situation one dark night back when I was in college. It was terrible. So, so terrible.
Greybnk48
(10,517 posts)99Forever
(14,524 posts)If there is anything on this Earth that compares to the selfless love that our dogs give us, I've yet to find it. I cry with you.
marble falls
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MrScorpio
(73,759 posts)May your doggie rest in power.
ZombieHorde
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BarbaRosa
(2,699 posts)Losing a fur baby is so hard.
AngryOldDem
(14,180 posts)
You are in shock and deep grief right now. Please take comfort in knowing that a lot of people are helping you bear the pain right now.
And you wondered upthread if dogs went to heaven...I certainly hope so...it would be a lot less of a special place without them.
Peace.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)Partly because they have perfect souls, and if flawed humans are welcomed in, how could dogs not be?
Besides, every dog I've ever lost has returned to me at least once in a dream soon after, in a way to let me know he or she is well. I know dreams are not always real, but sometimes they are. Some close sense of the other side runs strong in my family line anyway. I had a son that if he warned you of danger ahead, you ignored him at your own peril. So I feel confident in the matter of our furkids, and besides I worked in hospice for enough years to have seen and heard and felt the most marvelous things. Who knows but what our guardian angels are sometimes our departed pets? And I've been saved from potential deadly harm too many times not to realize that somewhere, somebody's watching out for me.
AngryOldDem
(14,180 posts)Thanks!
opiate69
(10,129 posts)We just lost both of our dogs in a 14 day span recently, so I'm all too familiar with what you and your family are dealing with. I wish I had some grand words of wisdom that would make you feel better, but alas, the best I can do right now is this
gopiscrap
(24,320 posts)I know how special pets can be...may you find comfort and happy memories of the specialness your dog brought to you in your life!
ecstatic
(34,732 posts)virgdem
(2,252 posts)We are all here for you and know how difficult the loss of a beloved animal companion can be. May you find peace as you grieve the untimely and tragic loss of your dog.
cynannmarie
(113 posts)My sweet dog darted out as I opened the door and ran right for the road. Driver who hit him didn't even stop. It was a horror and I felt terrible guilt and regret for a long time. But it did help to get another dog a month later--there are so many who need homes. Got a younger one that we could train to not go near the door and built a different set up for his outdoor potty space that was foolproof so as to eliminate any opportunity of it happening again, although there is always an outside chance of a determined dog getting out. We can only try our best, that's all.
Wishing you a healing heart, in time.
baldguy
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LisaLynne
(14,554 posts)All you can do right now is just take it moment by moment. I wish there was more I could say or do.
bigwillq
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Danmel
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SirRevolutionary
(579 posts)That must have been awful to witness let alone come to grips with after the fact. Every time I've lost a pet, I felt like I lost a member of my family. I hope you and your family pull together and realize you did a wonderful thing loving your dog for so long and no love is ever lost.
marble falls
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kentauros
(29,414 posts)You will be able to get through it, as others have said. You must give yourself time to grieve, just as you would for any human family member. Our "pets" are our family members with attachments at least as deep.
Just let out your grief, and you'll heal. Time truly heals injuries like this.
marble falls
(64,707 posts)look that doesn't have connection. From his ropey toy to the trash can we'd have to put up so he wouldn't graze. This is just plain one of the worst days of my life.
kentauros
(29,414 posts)My cat annoys the hell out of me sometimes (his meow is the loudest I've ever heard from a cat!) but I can't imagine him being gone. I don't want to visit those feelings.
Yes, it is a worst day. Yet, it's not the only day. Things will get better. And telling us about it while writing all your thoughts and feelings helps as well. Keep the memories intact and the Love you got from him. He's still with you, whatever your beliefs in such things. Seeing those familiar things and places associated with him will be strong memories for years to come. Remembering that Love from him will help you cope, too.
RosieS57
(41 posts)....healing wishes and good vibes.
You will meet again over the Rainbow Bridge.
Regards from Rosie
CitizenLeft
(2,791 posts)I wish there was something I could say or do... I'm so sorry.
undeterred
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Tigress DEM
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Sparkly
(24,560 posts)I'm so sorry. It can't take your pain away, but please know that many of us understand.
thucythucy
(8,853 posts)two years ago come next January, and despite the fact that I have a wonderful new canine friend, I'm STILL not over it.
I'm so sad for you. Hang in there. The pain will be less sharp over time, and hopefully you might be able to share your love and your home with a new canine companion.
Best wishes.
williesgirl
(4,033 posts)nadinbrzezinski
(154,021 posts)Hugs
roody
(10,849 posts)So so sorry.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)
MrMickeysMom
(20,453 posts)I hope someone is helping you through this awful thing, marble falls. We virtually there for you. Please hang in there.
TorchTheWitch
(11,065 posts)I just can't even imagine it.
Bryn
(3,621 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. I have 2 dogs and 9 cats that are members of this family. I lost my very much beloved dog 6 years ago so I know how much it hurts. Hugs for you
cristianmarie533
(51 posts)I've lost 2 dogs due to careless drivers who didn't bother to pay attention while they were driving. In the 2nd instance, I was lucky enough to take a photo of the hit-and-run driver's license plates, and immediately called the authorities. In the end, I was awarded $10000 in damages. But that certainly won't bring back my poor dogs from the dead. Sigh.
Lil Missy
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Kablooie
(18,881 posts)My dog Kira has kidney failure and a limited time to live but at least we have time to prepare.
I grieve for your painful loss.
steve2470
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Jamastiene
(38,198 posts)I'm so sorry to hear you lost your baby like that.
There is really nothing anyone can say to take that kind of pain away. So, I will just offer all I have
Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)Many of us have been through similar losses but it is always hard.
Samantha
(9,314 posts)I have no words but I am so so sorry.
Sam
Silver Gaia
(5,050 posts)My heart goes out to you.
LWolf
(46,179 posts) 
malaise
(283,028 posts)My suggestion - get a puppy as quickly as you can
marble falls
(64,707 posts)malaise
(283,028 posts)Trust me on that
aikoaiko
(34,210 posts)Raffi Ella
(4,465 posts)From one dog lover to another, my heart truly goes out to you. *hug*
haele
(14,124 posts)for you and your family. Dogs are such innocent, loving therapy, and when they are hurting or killed, it hurts so bad. The shock and guilt from seeing that is not something to take lightly - it will ease up as the good memories start taking precedence.
I hope your stepson will be okay, I've known a lot of vets who need that unconditional love of their dogs to keep them out of the dark places.
to you and your family.
Haele
marble falls
(64,707 posts)made a report to a police officer this morning. Honestly, even if we could "pin it" on someone - what would be the gain? It would reduce Bradley to price-able commodity and he was family. James has told me he doesn't feel its anyone's fault. That was good of him but of course I know Bradley broke for it past me.
I am sad. Going to work was good for me. I almost lost it for about five minutes. But it was good to be busy and around nice folk.
Its been an astounding experience with all the folks who stopped by here on DU. I am deeply deeply grateful for what has happened here with the outpouring of concern. Joy and I are both pleasantly surprised with the response.
Bertha Venation
(21,484 posts)I am so, so sorry.
arthritisR_US
(7,766 posts)pets are my children so I can appreciate how broken hearted you must be. Please take care, the only thing I found to heal is time
progressivebydesign
(19,458 posts)I know how much our dogs mean to us. You will heal from this, I promise. It won't be immediate, but it will get better. I do believe in rescuing another dog as soon as possible, as I know our dogs would want us to save another life. When you're ready, perhaps you can do that.
Years ago one of my dogs escaped out of the yard and was hit, by someone that didn't stop. I was my fault for not making sure the gate was latched completely... but the person should have stopped. After 1,000s in surgery, the dog was saved. I've been so paranoid ever since then. My dogs never leave the fenced yard without a leash, and I'm obsessed now with checking the gate.
YarnAddict
(1,850 posts)I'm so sorry. I truly believe we will all see our beloved pets again. We all cross the rainbow bridge.
In the meantime, and only when you are ready, please consider saving a life by adopting a shelter dog.