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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy husband died today
Back when covid started he was set to begin a new cancer trial. It did not happen so for his safety he continued on an oral chemo at home. I have no doubt that this shortened his life. I am not stupid nor am I kidding myself he lived a very long time beyond his projected life span and I am grateful for it. I also know that Covid was not helpful. Video appointments are not optimal when dealing with cancer but going in would have been worse. Because he had cancer in his lungs we needed to protect him. We did the best we could.
I am sure there are many like us who lost precious time because of the unaccounted for ramifications of covid.

CentralMass
(15,881 posts)cate94
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SoCalDavidS
(10,599 posts)Glad you could be together in the final months.
skylucy
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Pepsidog
(6,326 posts)pandr32
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KT2000
(21,160 posts)Covid has made medical care and safety even more difficult. Peace to you.
Desert grandma
(1,060 posts)I hope you have friends or family near by that will offer support to you. (( hugs)) from your friends here at DU.
sunflowerseed
(376 posts)Karadeniz
(23,710 posts)In some places, a different protocol was put into effect due to covid. My deepest sympathy on your loss.
sprinkleeninow
(20,670 posts)"Blessed be his eternal memory."
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SheltieLover
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UpInArms
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somaticexperiencing
(552 posts)My heart goes out to you and hoping that memories and friends and families and support from all sides make these times a little easier.
progressoid
(50,951 posts)She was waiting for approval for an experimental treatment but covid put the brakes on that.
Tender hopper
(62 posts)When times are bad , remember that it will get better and the biting grief will turn into warm remembrance with time.
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virgdem
(2,236 posts)NNadir
(35,125 posts)True Blue American
(18,361 posts)You and your family. May you share the Happy times together!
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,459 posts)Paz.
Celerity
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Steven Maurer
(498 posts)Please take care of yourself the way that your husband would want you to.
Snackshack
(2,541 posts)barbtries
(30,162 posts)that takes untold tolls upon so many. I am so sorry for your loss.
jmbar2
(6,534 posts)I'm glad that you could reach out to your DU family. We are here when you need to talk. Peace be unto you and your family.
Solly Mack
(93,895 posts)renate
(13,776 posts)What a terrible, shattering loss. There are no words.
Duncanpup
(14,032 posts)LiberalLoner
(10,558 posts)I hope and pray you will be surrounded by loved ones during this time who will support you through this period of grieving. 🙏
GPV
(73,190 posts)zanana1
(6,339 posts)Let people do for you for awhile. You've been through so much. Give yourself time to grieve and recover. That's what I did.
underpants
(188,569 posts)Im very sorry to hear this.
murielm99
(31,659 posts)janterry
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snowybirdie
(5,844 posts)A difficult time. Keep his memory close and be at peace.
brer cat
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Scrivener7
(53,938 posts)badhair77
(4,746 posts)I am very sorry for your loss but grateful you had some extra time, although its never enough. I wish you peace.
mnhtnbb
(32,272 posts)There's never enough time with loved ones.
Damn COVID. Damn Cancer. And damn COVID again.
Be good to yourself. You are going to need your strength to deal with all the paperwork and bureaucracy surrounding death in the next few months. Please remember there is always someone here at DU and there are quite a few of us widows--and widowers--too. Sometimes it helps to talk with someone who's been through it.
YoshidaYui
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area51
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malaise
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Stuart G
(38,726 posts)JudyM
(29,537 posts)You were both valiant. Wishing you peaceful moments during this time of sorrow. 🙏
Ocelot II
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Maraya1969
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Mad_Dem_X
(9,856 posts)mia
(8,439 posts)May loving memories carry you through this difficult time.
Tikki
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Tikki
Nululu
(999 posts)Laffy Kat
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Nevilledog
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Niagara
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Harker
(15,542 posts)He will live on in the hearts of those who love him.
sinkingfeeling
(54,011 posts)Delphinus
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iemanja
(55,524 posts)My heart goes out to you.
MLAA
(18,871 posts)IbogaProject
(4,050 posts)And I am doubly angry this wasn't contained early on as the former administration thought letting the blue states have it bad would be something to run a successful campaign with.
3catwoman3
(26,136 posts)...a very sturdy and resilient person. I hope you have people you can lean on so you don't have to be strong all the time.
AKwannabe
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WVreaper
(650 posts)Dwell on your good memories. Death of a loved one always hurts, whether it be a death that can be somewhat anticipated, or a sudden event. End result is still the same.
When you wake up tomorrow morning, think about all the good times and good memories and smile.
Tree Lady
(12,222 posts)Sending a hug 🫂
tavernier
(13,412 posts)Im presently out on a boat in the ocean where we spent many of our happiest days, and I can feel him next to me now, even four years later.
These early days will be difficult. Stay strong.
sarge43
(29,169 posts)I lost my husband earlier this year. The DU kindness and messages of comfort and support meant so very much. You're not alone. Lean on us.
Time will bring peace, but will never erase your loving memories.
beaglelover
(4,184 posts)Mazeltov Cocktail
(569 posts)BlueNProud
(1,048 posts)sdfernando
(5,538 posts)I'm grateful he had your love and support throughout this ordeal.
Its so terrible what COVID and TFG have wrought on this country and on you and your family personally.
yardwork
(65,421 posts)ancianita
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markie
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Blue Owl
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onecaliberal
(36,594 posts)I'm sure you did the very best you could possibly do.
Beacool
(30,352 posts)My deepest condolences to you and your family. This has been such a tough time for the world. COVID has brought so much pain directly and indirectly You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
bucolic_frolic
(48,569 posts)You are so brave to face it all with him. The time surrounding a loved one's passing was the most jumbled, distorted time of my life. Be kind to yourself, get some rest. You did all you could.
Tom Yossarian Joad
(19,275 posts)Generic Brad
(14,374 posts)We are all here for you.
OldBaldy1701E
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PatrickforB
(15,162 posts)May he dwell in eternal rest surrounded by perpetual light, and may you be genuinely comforted in your grief.
luvtheGWN
(1,343 posts)I can truly appreciate your deep sense of loss. My husband had lymphoma and, while I knew the end was probably near, he was actually fortunate to die of a sudden massive stroke, in the middle of the night in his own bed. I was numb (some would call it shock) and my darling nieces (like daughters to us) helped me through.
Let others help YOU! Collect your favourite photos of your husband and put them in every room of your house. He will always be with you and you will treasure the memories those photos evoke.
With my sincere sympathy.
mercuryblues
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StarryNite
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