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sl8

(16,245 posts)
Tue May 7, 2024, 06:31 AM May 2024

'The truth was just too painful': the highs and lows of Mama Cass

https://www.theguardian.com/music/article/2024/may/07/mama-cass-elliot-book

‘The truth was just too painful’: the highs and lows of Mama Cass

The daughter of ‘Mama’ Cass Elliot has written a book to explore the tragically short life of her mother, from relentless fat-shaming to a myth about her death

Jim Farber
Tue 7 May 2024 04.04 EDT

One of the most famous stories ever told about “Mama” Cass Elliot was a complete lie. It didn’t help that the singer herself repeated it in scores of interviews. As the spiel goes, Cass became the last singer hired for the Mamas and Papas only after she got smacked on the head by a pipe during a construction project at a local club where they all hung out. “It’s true,” she insisted to Rolling Stone in 1968. “I had a concussion and went to the hospital. I had a bad headache for about two weeks and then, all of a sudden, I was singing higher.”

The “new” sound she supposedly produced was what allegedly convinced group’s leader John Phillips to finally bring her into the fold, creating what became one of the most famous four-way harmony groups in pop history. In fact, the real reason Phillips didn’t initially want to hire the clearly gifted Cass was simply because he thought she was too overweight to be part of a viable pop group. “The fact that she felt she had to perpetuate a false story shows the depth of what she felt she had to hide,” said Owen Elliot-Kugell, the singer’s daughter who has written a new book titled My Mama, Cass. “The truth was just too painful.”

Even with that cover story to shield her, Cass experienced relentless fat-shaming throughout the group’s career, highlighted by the main refrain in their seminal hit Creeque Alley that read “no one’s getting fat except Mama Cass”. The snarky references continued into their legacy years when, in an acceptance speech for their induction into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, fellow “Mama” Michelle Phillips said: “I have personal knowledge that Cass is looking down on these proceedings wearing a size six Thierry Mugler dress.” The swipes about her weight even played into a widely believed, but false, story about the cause of her death. (The infamous choking-on-a-ham-sandwich bit). The poignancy of it all forms a central motif in Elliot-Kugell’s book though it doesn’t overwhelm the main reason we care to begin with. The book also celebrates the singularity of Cass’ singing, the range of her creative talent, and the warmth of her character. The primary inspiration for writing the book came from a foundational trauma: Elliot-Kugell was only seven when her mother died. “When you lose somebody that young, they become a mystery to you,” she said. “Writing the book allowed me to put the pieces of the puzzle of my mom together in a way I hadn’t previously been able to do.”

Elliot-Kugell, now 57, began thinking about writing a book about her mother nearly two decades ago but, because her own experience with her was scant, she had to go on an extended journalistic mission to mine the memories of people with a far greater understanding of her life and history. “I was always asking people about her,” she said. “This book is a compilation of everything I’ve been told over the years.”

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'The truth was just too painful': the highs and lows of Mama Cass (Original Post) sl8 May 2024 OP
Thank you for the music and memories, Cass Elliot. niyad May 2024 #1
Thank you for posting this. CBHagman May 2024 #2
I remember it, too, and Cass Elliott's daughter seemed to like it LisaM May 2024 #5
That was my reaction, too. ShazzieB May 2024 #8
Mama Cass was such a talented singer with great range in her voice! Omnipresent May 2024 #3
great vocals- et tu May 2024 #4
She was a wonderful talent. Rest in peace, beautiful soul. Joinfortmill May 2024 #6
Her voice BonnieJW May 2024 #7
I just hope she found peace world wide wally May 2024 #9
Everyone cool hung at Mama Cass' house. JohnnyRingo May 2024 #10
Why can't we simply enjoy someones talent? BarbD May 2024 #11

niyad

(119,931 posts)
1. Thank you for the music and memories, Cass Elliot.
Tue May 7, 2024, 07:05 AM
May 2024

I was stunned to realize she died 50 years ago. Looking forward to reading her daughter's book.

CBHagman

(17,137 posts)
2. Thank you for posting this.
Tue May 7, 2024, 07:31 AM
May 2024

I hadn't heard about the book.

Also, it is striking to be confronted with attitudes we all took for granted back in the day. I remember that comment from Michelle Phillips, and at the time I didn't read it as a dig.

LisaM

(28,601 posts)
5. I remember it, too, and Cass Elliott's daughter seemed to like it
Tue May 7, 2024, 07:59 AM
May 2024

I saw it more of a comment that she (Mama Cass) was in a place where her struggles, including the yoyo dieting, were over. I don't think it was meant to be mean.

et tu

(1,883 posts)
4. great vocals-
Tue May 7, 2024, 07:43 AM
May 2024

it's a zigzagging path the way we humans try to work
around life's traumas. be it by stress eating, alcohol numbing
escapism, drug addiction and other 'coping mechanisms', most
of which are harmful but allow a semblance of functionality. we are
judgemental and there are still to many stigmas associated with mental
health problems. the problems harm us as do the 'work arounds' and the lack of
of compassion and affordable services compound our complex problems and they grow.
so be kind to others and to yourself- basic human care~

BonnieJW

(2,550 posts)
7. Her voice
Tue May 7, 2024, 08:43 AM
May 2024

was like coffee with cream. So rich and mellow. Who can forget Dream a Little Dream? I have several of her songs on my playlist.

JohnnyRingo

(19,313 posts)
10. Everyone cool hung at Mama Cass' house.
Tue May 7, 2024, 09:35 AM
May 2024

I've read so many stories from everyone from Crosby, Stills. and Nash, to John Sebastion and Donovan, and they all centered around Mama's parties in Malibu. So many connections were made in those days that it was wise to stay on her good side. She could be a king or queen maker and people in the industry loved her.

BarbD

(1,221 posts)
11. Why can't we simply enjoy someones talent?
Tue May 7, 2024, 09:44 AM
May 2024

As a society, why do we tsk tsk about weight? Maria Callas among others was also a victim.

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