Public reaction to domestic violence

[Major Nikon]

[bettyellen]

1. are we supposed to believe that went on and no one intervened? I sure don't.

[Major Nikon]

2. Believe whatever you want

Public violence against women gets the appropriate response. Violence perpetrated by women against men is a joke even on a progressive site like DU and even if it involves mutilation. Do you actually think it's going to be any different anywhere else?

[bettyellen]

3. I didn't realize men were being killed in great numbers by women that it was some sort of crises...

Oh yeah, that's men killing. Women and each other. Ooops. You gotta work on that shit, seriously.

[Major Nikon]

4. Which simply provides proof that you should better educate yourself

...in spouse murders, women represented 41% of killers.

Among black marital partners, wives were just about as likely to kill their husbands as husbands were to kill their wives: 47% of the victims of a spouse were husbands and 53% were wives.

http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/mf.pdf

[bettyellen]

7. break out the real numbers why don't you? for all partners, or add the stats for whites...

62% vs 38%. And intimate partners- 3 out of 4! You left that out by accident?

This is laughable, you trying to deny that men are much more violent in harmful ways. Guess what? No one buys this horsehit.

[Major Nikon]

8. I'm going to give you your first and only warning here

Nobody is claiming women don't get killed and injured by domestic violence in greater numbers. However you want to spin it you are still left with the reality that there's still a lot of men out there who are victims of domestic violence.

I'm not denying anything and you're being argumentative and frankly quite shitty with your tone.

If you want to start your own thread on some other domestic violence subject, be my guest, but you will not continue to disrupt this one without getting a time out for bad behavior. This isn't GD, and it isn't moderated like GD. You can either be civil or you can be show the door. Your choice.

[bettyellen]

9. Oh, I forgot we're not in GD......where derailing like an asshole is de rigueur.

[Major Nikon]

10. So just don't derail like an asshole

That's pretty much the only rule here. Other than that you can disagree all you want and you'll get the same respect you afford others.

[bettyellen]

11. I forget, it is so commonplace in GD and I don't even know how I ended up out of GD. I usually

don't- my apologies.

[Major Nikon]

12. Not a problem

We actually invite and encourage respectful disagreements here and it's actually a bigger problem for someone who might have a dissenting opinion. That way the 'protect' in the protected group works both ways.

[rrneck]

5. It's real.

http://www.thedrum.com/news/2014/05/23/ad-day-mankind-violenceisviolence

http://www.buzzfeed.com/candacelowry/watch-how-people-react-when-they-see-a-woman-abuse-a-man-in

DareLondon set up a hidden camera experiment to see how strangers would react to seeing domestic abuse for ManKind’s #ViolenceIsViolence campaign.

Public perceptions of violence differ depending on the aggressor. People intervened when the woman was abused, not a few found it entertaining when the man is subjected to the same abuse.

I seem to recall any number of hidden camera youtube videos revealing abuse of women in public places. Is this any different?

[troublesome_mind]

6. WOW!

I have to say, this struck a major chord with me. I'm against any form of domestic violence, but I agree that violence against men by women is not taken as seriously as it should be. I have witnessed it first hand, some played out just like the video but mostly verbal and emotional abuse. I have seen so many good men beaten down continuously by women verbally hammering at them and often times leading to physical attacks because the woman is not receiving the response she wants, be it submission or confrontation.

[Behind the Aegis]

13. Apparently 40% is not enough.

It was interesting to see all the laughs when the roles were reversed; not all that unfamiliar (see GD). There have been similar situations on the TV show "What Would You Do?". It is amazing how drilled into our collective heads that some kinds of violence are "acceptable."

[Inkfreak]

14. It's amazing watching people fall over themselves dismissing any problems a male may have.

Just because it's not as large a problem as others in their mind. It's real liberal of them.

[opiate69]

15. Yup. It's like saying...

"your congenital heart disease doesn't matter, because I have cancer."

[troublesome_mind]

16. Personally I find the statistics and number crunching in these situations to be irrelevant.

None of it is ok regardless of gender or age. Fact IS it exists and I do not believe female-on-male abuse is shown the same attention as male-on-female abuse.

[Major Nikon]

17. It's worse than not receiving the same attention

Female-on-male violence is a running joke, even on DU.

Personally I don't believe rape jokes of any kind are funny, and it seems as if people are starting to wake up to the idea that male rape jokes are equally as unfunny as female rape jokes. However, some of the same people who are convinced such jokes lead to rape culture, are ambivalent at best on the subject of female-on-male violence jokes. One has to wonder if it's just a serious case of the doublethink, or they simply believe in some warped idea that it's social justice.

Promoting the myth that domestic violence is almost exclusively one sided does neither men nor women any good when one considers the statistics on reciprocal IPV.

[uppityperson]

19. fail

[greatauntoftriplets]

20. Ka-boom!

[uppityperson]

21. intercede no matter what the genders are, violence is wrong no matter who is doing it.

[Darkhawk32]

22. Thank you so much for posting this.

Although this is just make-believe, right? Right?