Up to 75% of abused women who are murdered are killed after they leave their partner

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http://www.theguardian.com/money/us-money-blog/2014/oct/20/domestic-private-violence-women-men-abuse-hbo-ray-rice

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“The thing that I did not know that was so revealing to me was that anywhere between 50% and 75% of domestic violence homicides happen at the point of separation or after [the victim] has already left [her abuser],” says Cynthia Hill, director of HBO’s Private Violence.

“When I met Kit Gruelle, she would always point out: ‘Estranged husband. Ex-husband. Ex-boyfriend. Estranged boyfriend.’ It was always that she had tried to leave. She had done exactly what we think they’re supposed to do and she dies. And her children die.”

Gruelle, the center of Hill’s documentary, is a survivor of domestic violence herself, and is now an advocate for battered and broken women. It’s a job that requires constant vigilance. About one in four women will at one point in their lives be beaten or abused by someone they know. Each year about 4,000 women die because of domestic violence.

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http://www.privateviolence.com

Just watched this. Everyone should.

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1. Good Lord

[LeftyMom]

2. That was almost me. Twice.

He never did a day of time. The cops finished their halfassed investigation before I was even out of the hospital. They spent more time scolding me for not having a restraining order (I'd made a very calculated decision that it was likely to make things worse by giving him one more grievance to want to punish me for) than they did interviewing him. They never looked at any physical evidence.

Oh, and I signed out of the hospital AMA after four days because the hospital didn't have a security guard anywhere near my room and wouldn't let me have somebody stay in my room overnight. Somebody had tried to kill me twice and was walking free. They wouldn't even lock the door to my room or keep my name under a folder or something.

For obvious reasons I'm going to take your word for what a great doc it is. :/

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3. Jesus fuck. x(

You probably could have written the doc--the gist being that laws about domestic violence are antiquated and totally inadequate. Which you know already.

[LeftyMom]

4. All too well.

But I'd also say that a big part of the problem is that cops DO NOT take this problem even slightly seriously.

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5. I got that impression from the cases in the film.

I'm pretty cynical about law enforcement, but even I was shocked at the indifference shown.

I don't want to get too much into the triggering gorey details, but if these women had been the victims of these crimes by someone they were *not* involved with, we'd be into serial killer territory, with feds called in.

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6. I think that's typical tho.

and my guess is, had you grabbed a gun and waved it around a bit, you'd be in jail too, right along with marissa alexander. because domestic violence.

by the way, it's totally your fault for being in the relationship with him in the first place. you probably provoked him too.