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Related: About this forumLetter to Melania
https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029703710Sometimes I forget that there are different shades of white. Melania is one shade. A high class mail-order bride from the Eastern Bloc, where blond haired, blue eyed sex workers cross to the Western world in droves, to be taken in by white men, sick of gender equality, eager to have a trophy wife who they can show off, dominate, control, and possibly beat and rape at their leisure. And these women, knowing where they have come from, knowing the poverty they escaped, will stay silent and submissive, even as Western women implore them to be something more than they can be.
A mail-order bride, a high class sex worker, a grown up kid from an impoverished country, cannot be the kind of First Lady who champions causes, speaks with purpose, blazes trails and carves her name in stone as a woman to be remembered.
It is no wonder she did not want to be First Lady. She knows who she is, what she can be, and what she is not cut out for.
This letter was truly eye-opening, reminding me that some men cannot be happy unless they are dominating women, and so there will always be a market for such women.
I'm really not trying to call Melania a whore. But she comes from a culture where women prostituted themselves in order to carve a place for themselves in the Western world.
So, I will not expect more of her than she can be. She is Trump's trophy wife. Nothing less, and nothing more.
Alpeduez21
(1,861 posts)pretty sure you did call her a whore.
we can do it
(12,775 posts)BigmanPigman
(52,259 posts)I saw 45 doing some sort interview on a stage to a very large audience while he was not married to her yet. She was in that audience and stood up and without being coaxed she said how much she would love 45 to run and she would love to be the first lady. She knows what she is doing. She has no self respect and no one respects her either.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)I really doubt that
I think she hoped to grift more while in the WH but then that's probably true for the entire family IMO
qwlauren35
(6,278 posts)I just don't think she sees it as an opportunity to do something good for the American people.
And I don't think that's in her nature.
I think it is in her nature to exploit opportunities, but I also think it is in her nature to support every aspect of her husband, and accept that he is in charge, and that everything she now is is because of who he is. She rides on his coat-tails and she would not dream of getting off and standing on her own two feet.
But I think this because of the letter, and what the letter says about where she came from, more than any knowledge of her. I have not seen her seek to make a personal statement...
On the other hand, she did stay in New York for 6 months. That suggested to me that she didn't want to be FLOTUS.
Maybe I should do more research before I speak further.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)prayin4rain
(2,065 posts)...be the kind of First Lady who champions causes, speaks with purpose, blazes trails and carves her name in stone as a woman to be remembered.
I disagree with that sentence and that sentiment. She or another man or woman from those circumstances can find their voice and do a lot of good in the world. Their history of abuse is a lot to overcome, but I think it's unfair to say they have no chance of doing so.
I hope Melania and every person who has suffered is able to find a better way.
qwlauren35
(6,278 posts)I figured Wikipedia would be a fairly unbiased source, so I went there to try to understand who she is. She is a supermodel. Who speaks four languages, and spent a year in college - which means she had what it took to get to college - but above all, she has been modeling her entire life. She knows how to market, how to sell. That is what she knows how to do.
She has said that she wants to be a "traditional First Lady". Lord knows what that means. She wants to champion women and children. That could mean anything. And she wants to go after cyberbullies, like the one who called her a whore and had the potential to ruin her brand, so she sued, and accidentally claimed that it would hurt her when she was "the most photographed woman in the world" - I guess she thought people would like her as much as they liked Michelle - and then backtracked 'cause it made her sound too greedy.
So yes, having read that, I think she hoped to exploit being in the White House.
As for the letter, I retract any thought that she sold herself to Trump. I would say that they are a good match. But as for her actually doing something positive for the American people, I still don't think she has it in her.