Many years ago my husband asked me, "Why do so many women cut their hair short when they get older?"
Finally, I have an answer for him, hot flashes.
Yesterday hubby saw Hillary Clinton on TV & commented, "Hillary's grown her hair out." I replied, "She's clearly past the hot flash stage!"
I've been dealing with these for three months & this looks to be one of the most miserable winters I'll go through. One moment I'm burning up, sweaty on my head, neck & chest, & the next moment I'm chilled to the bone. I'm going to the natural foods store today to check on some homeopathic remedies. I heard yams & miso are good. Any other suggestions?
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I cut mine *shorter* because my long long golden poker-straight locks just looked a little out of place on a woman of my age - but I guess that's your question! Why did they look out of place?
Well, women of my age tend to not look like aging hippies slopping around in whatever they found on the hook that morning. When we do look like that, the image conveys poverty more than coolness. And there are times when I need to look definitely not poor. (Mind you, in situations where it doesn't have any effect on me, I find it amusing to look poor, like when art retailer clerks look at me in my non-label discount store duds and makeup-less visage and non-styled hair and non-designer shoulder bag and patronize me with the "if you have to ask then you can't afford it you fish out of water" look, and then I drop 5 grand on one of their items. Okay, I've only done that once, but it sure was amusing.)
Also, with age, one's face tends to get kind of dragged down, and one's neck looks even shorter (one having a short neck and long face to start with), so one realizes, in one's own case anyway, that one looks livelier with it chopped off at the shoulders. As I do for myself a few times a year, not having darkened a hairdresser's door since I was 16 and was devastated by what one of them did to me for my high school graduation ceremony (which I immediately undid to the extent possible).
So shorter hair, and some lipstick when called for, and my grandma's heavy gold chain necklace and a spiffy coat over a black top and trousers, are my defences against being treated like trailer trash.
I think Hilary Clinton's hair is absolutely dreadful, btw. Does nothing for her, and the flip is really kind of silly.
What I really wanted to do was boast. Never had one hot flash ever. 
You won't be impressed if I say I'm jealous -- just because after all those years of hearing about the whole rigamarole, it passed me completely by and I missed out on the experience.
So unfortunately, I have no advice to offer. Except that "homeopathic", specifically, is woo nonsense, but there may be herbal/food type estrogen sources that could help. I did buy some kind of supplement once, thinking that I might be having related depression/anxiety symptoms that could be helped, but I just find those things scary and I stuck them in a drawer.
This is a much better look:
She looks fab! Confident, strong, in control.
You said: "but I guess that's your question! Why did they look out of place?"
I'm 54 & my hair is long. I don't feel like I look out of place. My grandmother wore long hair until she was 70, so maybe that's why? If you're around it & see it, it's no big deal. ???
Now, when I put on the skirts I wore in my 20's & 30's, I definitely feel out of place in skirts that short.
And I included the winkie intentionally.
But seriously - I do feel I missed out on a womanly experience. I simply have no idea what a hot flash feels like, and it's something I was supposed to get as part of the deal. And as you can see, it leaves me empathyless. .
I can pretty confidently say I got the depression/anxiety though ... but with endemic depression in the family and ups and downs of it of my own, and a good dose of ptsd, it can be hard to distinguish.
I recall reading some about estrogen/progesterone, and I am going to act on your advice and take a look. My doctor, a woman my age at a community clinic, is actually really good on just about everything going.
I have an 80 year old friend who still has them. Mine started about 5 years before menopause and I am now 6 years past that and I still have them although they have lessened in frequency.
Miserable aren't they? No suggestions, nothing seemed to work for me.
When I was growing up my mother and grandmother both told me that proper women did not have long hair unless it was very long and pulled back and up as in a bun. Well I am 58 and my hair is now long again. 
I don't wear it back or up and I AM a proper woman!
