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My son who is 29 just celebrated his 10 years of sobriety this week. (Original Post) flying_wahini Apr 2023 OP
Congrats to your son, my dear flying_wahini! CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2023 #1
Give him our heartfelt congratulations!!! Karadeniz Apr 2023 #2
👏👏👏👏👏 irisblue Apr 2023 #3
I have not heard of recovery at such an age before Tetrachloride Apr 2023 #4
I was in rehab with a kid who was still high school age bif Apr 2023 #5
A friend of mine got sober around 22-27 Tetrachloride Apr 2023 #7
A relative of mine who's 35 has been sober since he was 20. pnwmom Apr 2023 #12
I was (and still am) a hard-nosed atheist when I hit the rooms. Iggo Apr 2023 #16
We also know people who benefited from the AA approach, so we had been worried pnwmom Apr 2023 #17
That's great! Whatever works is the right way. Iggo Apr 2023 #19
Congratulations to him and you. I am rooting for him for the next ten. LoisB Apr 2023 #6
Please always continue-to-care as that-urge lingers-long (n/t) Ahna KneeMoose Apr 2023 #8
Congratulations to your son wendyb-NC Apr 2023 #9
flying_wahini........ Upthevibe Apr 2023 #10
Congratulations to your son and you too. K and R Stuart G Apr 2023 #11
Beautiful. cilla4progress Apr 2023 #13
Thank you for a message of hope... Thunderbeast Apr 2023 #14
I have to say that HE WANTED to be free of it all. That was most of the battle right there. flying_wahini Apr 2023 #21
Damn! Wish I had that figured out at 19...lol. Iggo Apr 2023 #15
Congratulations LetMyPeopleVote Apr 2023 #18
Kudos to your son! That is extraordinarily impressive! Rhiannon12866 Apr 2023 #20

Tetrachloride

(8,448 posts)
4. I have not heard of recovery at such an age before
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 03:02 PM
Apr 2023

major congratulations

( more evidence that i am out of the loop of society)

Tetrachloride

(8,448 posts)
7. A friend of mine got sober around 22-27
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 03:06 PM
Apr 2023

and he voluntarily checked himself into rehabilitation in college. so he was the youngest success that i know personally.

pnwmom

(109,562 posts)
12. A relative of mine who's 35 has been sober since he was 20.
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 03:48 PM
Apr 2023

I remember him saying that AA was an awkward fit because of the huge age gap between him and the rest of the people there -- and the emphasis on spirituality and powerlessness.

Eventually, he found a non-AA path that has been working for him.

Iggo

(48,268 posts)
16. I was (and still am) a hard-nosed atheist when I hit the rooms.
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 04:23 PM
Apr 2023

The key for me was that there was nothing wrong with hanging out with 40 or 50 sober people every day instead of staying home and crying about their emphasis on god this and god that. Take what you can use and leave the rest. I was there to save my life and so were they and that became good enough for me.

That was my way, anyway.

pnwmom

(109,562 posts)
17. We also know people who benefited from the AA approach, so we had been worried
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 04:34 PM
Apr 2023

when it didn't work for the 20 year old. But he found another path that worked better for him.

Iggo

(48,268 posts)
19. That's great! Whatever works is the right way.
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 06:13 PM
Apr 2023

And I do sometimes wonder how I would have reacted as a 19 year old quitter rather than a 35 year old one who’d been going balls-out since 17. I’ve actually had this argument outside of meetings with other quitters who are willing to risk their lives rather than sit with some god-botherers. I’m a dick like that and sometimes it bleeds over into the real world and the nice people…lol. And for that I apologize.

But like I said, whatever works is the right way.

wendyb-NC

(3,804 posts)
9. Congratulations to your son
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 03:25 PM
Apr 2023

I know he has worked hard for his sobriety. May he with stay on that path,always. Many blessings to you both.

Upthevibe

(9,098 posts)
10. flying_wahini........
Sat Apr 8, 2023, 03:26 PM
Apr 2023

That's awesome!

As someone in recovery, I know I wouldn't be alive today had I not quit using/drinking. There's just no way out except recovery or death.

I thank God/The Universe/My Higher Power EVERYDAY.

It truly is one day at a time.

flying_wahini

(8,011 posts)
21. I have to say that HE WANTED to be free of it all. That was most of the battle right there.
Fri Apr 14, 2023, 10:01 AM
Apr 2023

He had graduated from high school the month before. (Barely graduated)
We spent his college fund to support him in 2 different rehabs. The first place was an lockdown center out in the Hill Country, Tx and they had him for the first 30 days.
Then we sent him directly to the only place he didn’t know anybody (in Maine) and they had him under their wing for around 6 months. Then we got him an apt nearby (with other sober friends from rehab) for Almost year so he could continue to go to the meetings there.
I won’t lie; it was expensive and dark & difficult days. (For all of us)
I had to keep reminding my husband that yes the costs were high but he was still alive.

Worth every penny, too. Today he lives a couple of hours away and he is a very happy 28 year old.
Cute too!

I will NEVER not worry about it but maybe in another 10 years I can relax. ☺️

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