Why isn't it the same?
I just heard a caller on Talk of the Nation state something which I have heard many times.
African Americans vote against gay marriage because of religious reason. AND, are offended because the LGBT community equate our equal rights fight to the equal rights they fought for.
Why is fighting for one civil right differ from fighting for another?
How is this any different than the Loving v. Virginia ruling? Wasn't interracial marriage once condemned for religious reason?
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My parents (father black/mother white) were married in 1969. My father was then stationed at Fort Knox (KY) when my mom was pregnant with my brother.
Those were tough times. Religious reasons or not - it took toughness and tenacity to live in that den of vipers in Kentucky. It takes toughness and tenacity to be mixed race in America today - and/or be married across color lines (Married April 15 - husband is immigrant from Italy 
).
My only caution - Gay Marriage will be a reality in this lifetime. It will be. But I hope and pray the glbt community is really aware -
Your marriage will not change the dark ugly soul of this country. We can no more help being bigots at heart than a lion can help hunting prey. I.E. It will only make it legal.
A better comparison is to slavery - than it is to gay marriage. There is still a LARGE chunk of folks in this country that have a dismissal in their hearts towards black people. Oh - they smile at us and are pleasant but they truly think we are 'sub human'. It's been what? 146 years?
Just be prepared that there is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. It's the beginning - not an end in and of itself. 
I don't know where but in the old testament there is something about mixing the races. I have heard the argument made multiple times.
Things are getting better be we have a long way to go, one of my best friends is in an interracial marriage and have a beautiful baby girl. He and I have compared walking hand and hand with the person we love (someone of a different race for him, same gender for me) in public and we both confessed to in some areas letting go of our wife/partner's hand. He has also told me although no one has ever said anything against his daughter, that some of the "compliments" have racist overtones.
Congratulations on your marriage I hope you have a long happy life together. On your husband being from Italy. Here in the south, that also has caused issues. My uncle married a lady from Italy back in the early 60's. There were some who felt that was wrong also, not to mention she was Catholic.
Sadly, we here in the south have a lot of skeletons in our closet. Bigotry of race, nationality, religion and sexual orientation just to name a few.
I know making it legal won't make it accepted.
I was just confused why a people who have fought for equal rights, can vote against another't equal rights. I will give you one difference between gay rights vs. African American rights. If I walk into an area where I know people are not gay-friendly I can attempt to hide any evidence that I am gay. That option is not for African Americans.
More over I understand they may feel it is wrong based on religious beliefs, but how can my marrying a man hurt, or affect their religion in any way. Borrowing a saying from the abortion issue. If you don't like gay marriage don't marry someone of the same sex.
Once again congratulations one your marriage!
Slavery by any other name - which in an of itself forced everything from the 'angry independent black woman' to the idea concept that black men by birth and nature 'take to crime':
The African American (AA) community is not monolithic. But there are a few factors at play here. One is that parts of the AA community have struggled economically because of young AA men, getting young AA women pregnant, and then moving on.
We have the perception that young black men do not step up to the plate, the reality that many cannot as America is NOT equal in terms of opportunity at birth - and then the 'psyche' of black America - the ripping apart of families, fathers sold down the river, mothers raped, etc. etc. etc.
To the OP - I think the key thing JoePhilly pointed out is that the 'black community' doesn't need to be thrown under the bus by and large.
For me - I'm part of the No Wedding No Womb movement . . . now ask me how I feel about marriage in general - I think if a gay couple wants to have a child together (be via surrogacy, adoption, etc. etc.) then they most certainly SHOULD get married in order to protect their children legally and financially. A different take on the situation - but you'll see where the woma who started this concept amongst black women (google her website) would most likely agree. Marriage for gays if for no other reason than to protect their CHILDREN financially/legally and to ensure they grow up in a two parent home.
I think the black churches (which tend to exist as "black churches" because backs were unwelcome in "white churches"
... are trying to repair the kind of damage that the "black family" had experienced over the last 150+ years.
I'm white, and my next door neighbors are an African American family. They are a very religious family. He and I don't really talk about religion, or politics, but we do talk about "family".
Its obvious that a key focus of his is to mentor the young black males in his family and in his church.
And while I have not pressed him on this ... I get the sense that he's not going to focus much on getting gay AA men to marry other gay AA men, until he feels that straight AA men who should be married to the women with whom they father children, are also married.
I understand what you mean, and would never disagree.
I will also confess I am an Atheist, if you read my signature you may have guessed that, so for me religion dose not play a part in my life, except for when people use it to control my life.
Thanks for the reply, you have made me think.
