Pagan Values Blogging Month: Judgment vs. Compassion
Compassion: to feel with. In terms of human interactions, compassion is to allow yourself to not only feel for other people (sympathy) but to feel with other people (empathy). It is becoming an active participant in another persons suffering. Or, if you want to take this beyond anthropocentrism, it is active participation in another beings suffering. (It can also be applied to emotions other than those associated with suffering.)
Compassion, comparatively speaking, doesnt get a lot of time in pagan discussion because its a nice emotion. Sometimes I feel that many neopagans are so afraid of being perceived as fluffy, frou-frou New Agers, prone to talking about love and light, that we create a front of cynicism and worldliness. We separate ourselves from those other people by seeming more serious, and denigrate the sensitivity that may be expressed by others. We think that because we arent just talking about The Secret and wrapping the entire planet in soft pink energy that we somehow have a more mature, developed way of approaching the world we live in. True, sometimes complex emotions are unnecessarily compressed down into 140-character sound bites on Twitter, and I could write a ton about how the law of attraction is stuffed full to overflowing with primarily white, middle-class privilege.
http://therioshamanism.com/2011/06/22/pagan-values-blogging-month-judgment-vs-compassion/
Ruby Reason
(242 posts)You're right people perceive it to be so, but it is more of a tough love. When we are so hard on ourselves, to truly be compassionate and understand another, then we are often just as hard on them.
libodem
(19,288 posts)Thanks for the link. Reminds me of, I feel with loving compassion the problems of others without getting too mixed up in the lesson life is trying to teach them. Or something like that.
OneGrassRoot
(23,424 posts)I forgot how you have nearly single-handedly kept this group alive for years.
I would love to have a whole weekend to peruse the gems you share. I'll gradually read as I can.
In the meantime, I want you to know how much I appreciate what you share here, there, and everywhere.
icymist
(15,888 posts)How goes it with the two cats? Have they found a home yet?
OneGrassRoot
(23,424 posts)*fingers crossed*
icymist
(15,888 posts)I currently live with two cats that are brothers and I could not imagine breaking them up. Go for it OGR! I'm with you!
libodem
(19,288 posts)It was just so good. I enjoyed the discussion of moral judgement being different from value judgement. I studied values clarification back the day and even managing peoples perceptions of those is a challenge.
I've tried to be nonjudgemental in my life yet practice discernment. You have to know for safety.