My dad is beginning hospice care this morning.

[murielm99]

My brother is having cataract surgery Wednesday.

My youngest daughter announced suddenly that she is getting married in July. Her sister is getting married in August. After her August wedding, she is playing Carnegie Hall in October.

The youngest daughter is getting married at the courthouse, and we will have a reception later. She has to get all of herself organized after getting married, so that she can become a permanent resident of Canada, because her husband is Canadian.

My husband, brother and I have to find a way to see my dad. We are not sure my mother will let us in voluntarily. We think it should work if we just show up, because there will be helpers there around the clock. She may not want to cause a scene. But she is mentally ill, cruel and unpredictable. We will get a court order to see him if we have to.

All this stuff. What could possibly go wrong?

[elleng]

1. Take care of yourself, muriel, with all this stuff.

(And let us know about the Carnegie Hall event, please.)

[murielm99]

3. The Carnegie Hall event is

at 3:00 p.m. on October 26, 2013. It is with a group out of Iowa that she plays with. She is a classically trained flute player. She does not earn her whole living as a flute player. She is a librarian, as I was. Professional music is a tough way to live, and few people make the big bucks. But she does quite a few concerts.

[Cleita]

2. Maybe nothing will go really wrong.

My extra positive thoughts for your dad and brother. I hope everything comes up good for you in the end.

[magical thyme]

4. peace and light to you and your entire family

May your mother find the peace and kindness in her heart and spirit to allow you to see your father.

[Delphinus]

5. What Magical thyme said ...

Peace and love on this next stage of your dad's life. Blessings to all. Take care and many hugs.
(edit to get magical thyme's name right)

[Howler]

6. Keeping you

And the Whole Muriel99 tribe close in our thoughts and energy sendings.

[onecent]

7. My heart goes out to you Murieium99, I will

send you blessings for you and your family. It's difficult ENOUGH without having some of the relatives intending to do what they can do to stir things up instead of letting love and harmony in.

hugs to you and your family.

sorry for the edit, I must have added a word wrong...best of luck to you

[murielm99]

8. Thank you onecent, and everyone

else who has responded.

My mother is determined, now, to keep my brother away. She says he has bedbugs. There were bedbugs in his building TWO YEARS ago. Last summer, when he had his big toe amputated, I went to his apartment and cleaned everything for him. I used my vacuum cleaner, my bucket, rags and cleaning supplies. I did not bring home any bedbugs. My husband did his dishes and cleaned his refrigerator. My son did his laundry. None of us got bedbugs!

She is determined to find a way to be nasty. We will get in, one way or another.

[OneGrassRoot]

9. Many hugs of support coming your way....

Bless you. That's a lot of stress at one time.

[riverbendviewgal]

10. how about a phone visit or skype

While your mother is not there. Is your dad aware.? I had a horrible mother too.

[glinda]

11. Oh boy. Sounds like my last year actually. My condolences....and

(((((cyber hugs))))))).
All you can do is breath a lot...and slowly.

[Mnemosyne]

12. Hope all things have gone well and this finds you feeling better. I pray your father is comfortable

and at peace.

And congrats on the upcoming weddings and celebrations!

[murielm99]

13. My brother came through his cataract surgery just fine.

I knew he would. I have had the same surgery, both eyes.

We are all going to see my dad on Monday. We do not live that close, so we are taking two cars to see him. My son and his wife will go later, the same day. My oldest daughter is the only one who has to wait a few days. I think there may not be more than a few days. This is best. His body has worn out.

Many thanks to all the caring people here.

[Mnemosyne]

14. Hang in there, muriel. Many thoughts will be with you.

Glad to hear your brother is doing well.

[BanzaiBonnie]

15. Joys, loss and change

There's always so much movement in a family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you muriel.