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PinkTiger

(2,593 posts)
Thu May 2, 2013, 12:41 AM May 2013

My fiancé, Mike W., died at 9 PM, May 2nd.

I'm asking for light and love from anyone who is able to send it. My heart is broken.
I met him last fall, when he was just coming out of his last chemo treatment for Stage IV lung cancer. We both knew it was not a good prognosis, but fell in love anyway. I spent the last four months taking care of him at my home, and two days ago he was not able to walk and had to go stay with his parents so they could help take care of him. He died barely a day later, after lapsing into a coma and very quickly dying.
I'm so sad I wasn't with him when he died. But I'm glad for him and his parents that he was with them, because to have him die here, in another state, would have been hard for them.
He was such a good man, so much the perfect mate for me. I'm sure I'll understand some day why this had to happen. But for now, I'm searching for peace.

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My fiancé, Mike W., died at 9 PM, May 2nd. (Original Post) PinkTiger May 2013 OP
((((hugs)))) NYC_SKP May 2013 #1
Sending love and light and bless you Bluestar May 2013 #2
I'm very sorry for your loss mwrguy May 2013 #3
So sorry, PinkTiger. Granny M May 2013 #4
So sorry for your loss FreeState May 2013 #5
I hope someone as loving & caring as you is there for me in my last days. You are a blessing to Mike NBachers May 2013 #6
Better to take the risk to love someone you know has a terminal illness-- eridani May 2013 #7
Love is difficult to find. TexasTowelie May 2013 #8
I'm glad you had what time you did have.. Cha May 2013 #9
(((HUGS))) PinkTiger vanboggie May 2013 #10
My condolences Sanity Claws May 2013 #11
Sending light, love yellerpup May 2013 #12
{{{hugs}}} Delphinus May 2013 #13
I'm so sorry. Triana May 2013 #14
Hugs(((( PinkTiger))))) Melissa G May 2013 #15
I'm so sorry Ricochet21 May 2013 #16
I will not be looking for a long time, if ever. PinkTiger May 2013 #28
I'm sorry to hear that PinkTiger. Cleita May 2013 #17
Our hearts go out to you, PinkTiger indepat May 2013 #18
I bet you brought a bright light to him in a most difficult time Blue Owl May 2013 #19
I am so sorry for your loss, PinkTiger... magical thyme May 2013 #20
I'm so glad you had time together. Vibes to him, you and all the family. applegrove May 2013 #21
I am so sorry, PinkTiger... OneGrassRoot May 2013 #22
Light and Love. Namaste. truebluegreen May 2013 #23
My condolences to you and yours wovenpaint May 2013 #24
So sorry. kimmerspixelated May 2013 #25
. libodem May 2013 #26
Thank you all so much! PinkTiger May 2013 #27
So sorry, Pink Tiger. southerncrone May 2013 #29
Please accept my my condolences. Knightraven May 2013 #30
I am so sorry. murielm99 May 2013 #31
I'm so sorry Sienna86 May 2013 #32
Just saw this. Habibi May 2013 #33
Oh, but I was the lucky one. PinkTiger May 2013 #34
Oh PinkTiger... BanzaiBonnie May 2013 #35
Loving Light to you moonbeam23 May 2013 #36
Sending hugs and peace. midnight May 2013 #37
Oh Pink Tiger! I am so sorry Tumbulu May 2013 #38
hugs. NuttyFluffers May 2013 #39
Sending you peace and healing after your sad loss, dear PinkTiger! LiberalEsto May 2013 #40
Sending light and good vibes to you, PinkTiger. Manifestor_of_Light May 2013 #41
I am so very sorry for your loss, PT. Mnemosyne May 2013 #42
OMG Pink Tiger, I am soo soo sorry. onecent May 2013 #43
Thanks to all who replied to my post PinkTiger May 2013 #44

NBachers

(18,132 posts)
6. I hope someone as loving & caring as you is there for me in my last days. You are a blessing to Mike
Thu May 2, 2013, 02:58 AM
May 2013

And may you life be filled with more blessings, too.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
7. Better to take the risk to love someone you know has a terminal illness--
Thu May 2, 2013, 03:13 AM
May 2013

--than never to risk loving anyone at all

TexasTowelie

(116,803 posts)
8. Love is difficult to find.
Thu May 2, 2013, 03:36 AM
May 2013

I'm sorry for your loss and I'm glad that you were able to share with each other.

yellerpup

(12,263 posts)
12. Sending light, love
Thu May 2, 2013, 06:19 AM
May 2013

Comfort and hope. You will never regret loving Mike and taking care of him the way you did. You are not alone; you are loved.

Delphinus

(12,145 posts)
13. {{{hugs}}}
Thu May 2, 2013, 08:05 AM
May 2013

Oh my goodness ... I am *so* sorry.

I hold you in my heart as you walk this painful road.

May the angels hold you and help you find peace.

I am grateful you had him in your life, albeit for such a short time.



 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
14. I'm so sorry.
Thu May 2, 2013, 08:18 AM
May 2013

Your presence in his life in his last years was obviously a blessing to him and his family.

I do wish you peace.

PinkTiger

(2,593 posts)
28. I will not be looking for a long time, if ever.
Thu May 2, 2013, 11:54 PM
May 2013

Mike's love will sustain me for a long, long while. He was that special. My family loved him, and I loved his family, and it is all sad but OK. I feel somehow I was chosen to do this - take care of Mike in his last days. We talked about it often, how we felt we had known each other for centuries. We completed each other.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
17. I'm sorry to hear that PinkTiger.
Thu May 2, 2013, 02:47 PM
May 2013

You at least had some joy together before the inevitable happened. Of course my prayers are with your fiance and for you too.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
20. I am so sorry for your loss, PinkTiger...
Thu May 2, 2013, 06:38 PM
May 2013

I'm glad you had the time you did together, although it was way too short a time. You showed great courage and a great heart in opening yourself to love. Doubtless you made Mike's last months as joyful and loving as they could possibly be. He passed well loved and cared for...there is nothing greater we can ask for.

Cherish the memories and the time you had together. And know that you are loved in return...

OneGrassRoot

(23,424 posts)
22. I am so sorry, PinkTiger...
Thu May 2, 2013, 08:26 PM
May 2013

There are no words.

{{{{{{{{{{Mike}}}}}}}}}}}}} {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{PinkTiger}}}}}}}}}}}}}




wovenpaint

(1,472 posts)
24. My condolences to you and yours
Thu May 2, 2013, 09:38 PM
May 2013

You've both been blessed by finding and loving each other. Nothing can take that away...nor does it end.

Peace.

PinkTiger

(2,593 posts)
27. Thank you all so much!
Thu May 2, 2013, 11:23 PM
May 2013

He was such a dear man. I love him and always will. I want him here, I need him, but I also need him safe and happy and in no pain. And now he is that. Safe in the arms of the angels. I know the love we shared will sustain me. It was a true, deeply spiritual, and very fulfilling seven months we had.

southerncrone

(5,510 posts)
29. So sorry, Pink Tiger.
Fri May 3, 2013, 12:23 AM
May 2013

Be thankful for the time you had together. I'm sure you gathered lots of good karma for taking such good care of him when he needed it most. Confident the Universe sent you to him when he needed an angel on earth . Your unselfishness in letting him go home to his parents will not go unrewarded. Look for good things to come your way, as he repays your kindness.

If only all of us could find someone like you!

Habibi

(3,601 posts)
33. Just saw this.
Fri May 3, 2013, 05:13 PM
May 2013

Oh, my dear heart. I send you an ocean of love and peace and healing. I wish I knew why these things happened--meeting and falling in love and then . . . I hope and pray that the purpose is revealed to you soon and that it brings you great comfort. Bless you, and bless Mike, and bless the love you shared.

PinkTiger

(2,593 posts)
34. Oh, but I was the lucky one.
Fri May 3, 2013, 05:14 PM
May 2013

He gave me so much happiness, and taking care of him was such sweet pleasure. I feel my heart will never be the same.

moonbeam23

(340 posts)
36. Loving Light to you
Sat May 4, 2013, 02:49 AM
May 2013

Mike had a beautiful light in his eyes...know that you knew him before and will be with him again...

And, as Southern Crone said, your Karma Bank account is full of good and will come back to you in all sorts of ways...

Good luck and bless you and yours...so sorry for your loss

Tumbulu

(6,445 posts)
38. Oh Pink Tiger! I am so sorry
Sun May 5, 2013, 12:03 AM
May 2013

and am sending love and peace.

I am sure you will see and feel his presence all around you soon. He will be with you still.

onecent

(6,096 posts)
43. OMG Pink Tiger, I am soo soo sorry.
Mon May 6, 2013, 08:17 AM
May 2013

Oh, just reading this is giving me goosebumps...please know my heart and prayers are with you and Mike's family.
Yes, I think someday the reasons will be given to us why we lose loved ones ...why bad things happen to good people...
Sending light and blessings to all.
Penny

PinkTiger

(2,593 posts)
44. Thanks to all who replied to my post
Mon May 6, 2013, 08:47 PM
May 2013

We got through the funeral fine, and now I'm trying to get my head on straight. I will be OK. I have Mike's love to sustain me. It was a true love story, from beginning to end. For that I'm extremely grateful. Thanks again everyone, and here's some light back.

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