I found this really excellent article on Grief on Facebook, and wanted to share it:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2014/11/13/all-this-fucking-time-and-i-still-feel-grief/

Here's a bit from the beginning:


By McCall Erickson

The hallmark of a human life is loss, it seems. And the body is a vessel for grief.

This is not an if, but when. When is loss gonna hit?

And then it is how. How do you carry it? All that grief. And don’t even ask why. Why is not a question that grief ever answers.

I only know this because I have my own grief. I am not looking for more, but it keeps coming anyway. It makes me feel like I’m getting nowhere sometimes, and yet closer to something at the same time.

Maybe that’s because loss doesn’t just take. It gives, too. Like a trade.

[ohheckyeah]

1. Thank you

for sharing. Grief is gutwrenching.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. Yes, it sure is.

And anything that we can do to help each other is so important.

[hollysmom]

3. thanks, dealing with a death in the family of someone who made my life miserable

and now people are saying how she loved me. How to act at the funeral, sigh - how do you act where someone blocks your phone number and then gets a restraining order against you for no reason what so ever - never visited without an invitation.

[ohheckyeah]

4. I think it must be so hard to deal with the death of

someone close but who made you miserable. You have my heartfelt condolences.

My dad and I had finally worked out what at times was a contentious relationship. The last ten years were good and the last year of his life he and mom drove 50 miles 2 - 3 times a week to see how I was after I had a stroke.

I'm trying to regain the use of my right side, including trying to walk and I'm grieving my Dad's May death. Life's tough right now for many of us. Let's depend on each other as much as possible.

[hollysmom]

5. it is hard because her children do love me

But she tortured my mother and would not let her see her grandchildren and sent police to her house in the middle of the night and would come late at night and scream in front of my mother's neighbors how horrible a person she was. She also entered my house multiple times and stole things years ago and of course lied about it. Once, she even wore a blouse that went missing from my house in front of me.
And now her kids are hanging on to me claiming we were on happy family, you do not take restraining orders out of lved family members. But I will suck it up and be there for her kids and not tell them about the things she did.