Today would have been my daughter's

[murielm99]

second wedding anniversary.

She did not go to work today. They were very understanding about it. She went by herself to the nice restaurant they had chosen as the place to celebrate this anniversary.

If my heart is breaking over this, I cannot imagine how she must feel.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. This is just heartbreaking. Such a terrible heartrending loss.

She went by herself. What bravery.

to you both.

[ohheckyeah]

2. That WAS brave.

Condolences to you both.

[murielm99]

3. She went to a widow's workshop

in San Diego that was very helpful. Her roommate was the same age. Her roommate's husband had drowned. They were married a short time, too.

There were others, even younger. There was a twenty-seven-year-old whose husband had died of a brain hemorrhage, very suddenly.

There were older widows, but people were grouped by age and circumstance. They were able to say things out loud and understand themselves and each other in ways that were more helpful than solitary mourning.

My daughter met other young widows who were also going through litigation with vengeful and angry ex-wives trying to reopen old wounds and old divorce settlements. She met women who, like her, are no longer allowed to see stepchildren with whom they had developed relationships.

My daughter is doing very well with the litigation. She will probably end up winning her court battles. But she does not need the added stress.

[No Vested Interest]

4. I hope she found a measure of comfort being in that place that

had a special meaning for herself and her husband.

She was very wise to attend the widows' group in San Diego, giving her perspective and receiving from the other youngish widows.
It's good to know that one's very bad experience is not unique, the others similar have gone down and continue to go down that road.
Perhaps she will keep in contact with one or two.

May her legal problems be solved in a timely and just manner.

[DeadLetterOffice]

5. **hugs**