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RSherman

(576 posts)
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 07:59 PM Jul 2023

Does anyone else call your friend's phone?

Scott and I dated on and off for 5 years. He passed away when we were apart. I am pretty much a mess. Every now and then I call or text his phone number just to hear his voice and to say I'm sorry. Does anyone else do this?

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Does anyone else call your friend's phone? (Original Post) RSherman Jul 2023 OP
My aunt has two voicemail messages from my mom (her sister) True Dough Jul 2023 #1
True cate94 Jul 2023 #5
if i had a phone number to call to, i would Tetrachloride Jul 2023 #2
((((HUG)))) Attilatheblond Aug 2023 #11
I send emails UpInArms Jul 2023 #3
Yes, my sister used to do this. Quakerfriend Jul 2023 #4
Not really gay texan Jul 2023 #6
I'm sorry for your loss. cate94 Jul 2023 #7
I'm so sorry, RSherman! 50 Shades Of Blue Jul 2023 #8
My dad died in August 2011 JustAnotherGen Jul 2023 #9
Yes BOSSHOG Jul 2023 #10
I was told someone couldn't leave me a voicemail because my box is full. Dark n Stormy Knight Sep 2023 #12
Yep orangecrush Sep 2023 #13

True Dough

(20,622 posts)
1. My aunt has two voicemail messages from my mom (her sister)
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 08:05 PM
Jul 2023

They're almost 10 years old now and only less than 30 seconds each. She still listens to them every now and again as a source of comfort.

There is no defined timeline for this stuff. Sorry for your loss. Be well.

cate94

(2,892 posts)
5. True
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 08:16 PM
Jul 2023

I have an Easter message from my sister, at the time I found it somewhat annoying, but I’ve kept it. I listen to it now and hear the hesitation- I’m sorry for that. I listen to it now and then. I miss her.

UpInArms

(51,852 posts)
3. I send emails
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 08:14 PM
Jul 2023

To my friends, knowing they are not going to answer … knowing it will “bounce”

Doesn’t matter … just need to tell them stuff

Quakerfriend

(5,660 posts)
4. Yes, my sister used to do this.
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 08:15 PM
Jul 2023

Her husband, who used to call her throughout the day, died suddenly in his sleep @ age 55 & she called his # after he died.

50 Shades Of Blue

(10,899 posts)
8. I'm so sorry, RSherman!
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 08:32 PM
Jul 2023

I saved a voicemail from a dear friend who died earlier this year. I listen to it when I'm missing her. I saved it to several different devices.

And I took a picture of the caller ID on the last phone call I got from another friend who passed away a few years ago that I look at it from time to time.

So I can totally understand your calling your friend's phone. Things like this are like link to our loved ones.

JustAnotherGen

(33,733 posts)
9. My dad died in August 2011
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 09:15 PM
Jul 2023

I still have three voice messages on my phone. One from election night 2008.

I love hearing his voice.

BOSSHOG

(40,124 posts)
10. Yes
Fri Jul 7, 2023, 09:43 PM
Jul 2023

two great friends passed years ago. I will never get rid of their numbers or their texts on my phone. It somehow helps. And fortunately for me, many pictures involved.

Dark n Stormy Knight

(10,041 posts)
12. I was told someone couldn't leave me a voicemail because my box is full.
Sat Sep 2, 2023, 05:14 AM
Sep 2023

My husband has cancer. I can't bear to erase any of his sweet voicemails. My dad died 3 years ago. I can't erase the voicemails from him.

I did have to go through & erase my least fave ones from my husband so I could have some room in the box. It took me hours to decide which ones to let go.

I see nothing odd in you calling or texting your deceased friend. Heartfelt condolences for your loss. 😢

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