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[hrmjustin]

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[uppityperson]

1. Who would do that and why? I know, too many. And you are not but understandable why you would

let them be to get away from the aggravation.

[hrmjustin]

2. Lol I need the break and when I return I think I need to just not play into their hands.

I wish them well.

[TreasonousBastard]

3. Meh. I get it, but...

take just a little blame for taking these people too seriously.

Typical argument:

"You're a monkey."

"I am not a monkey."

"Prove you are not a monkey."

"Huh? Why?"

"Aha! I win!"

Ever since the old froups, the first one to walk away from an argument was the loser. Stupid, but it worked that way. And there was nothing nice about unmoderated newsgroups-- I was once called a rapist in one thread and that thread always popped up on a google search of my name.

Anyway, as always, consider the source.

[hrmjustin]

4. Oh I will go back to the group but I need to consider how I engage the group and who to

just not answer and who to put on ignore.

[TreasonousBastard]

6. Just not answering is actually a neat tactic...

keeps them guessing, and eventually they give up. Meanwhile, everyone else reading the thread sees them in not such a good light.

[hrmjustin]

8. Yeah I think I will just not answer a few of them and keep the one I have on ignore on ignore.

[No Vested Interest]

5. Understandable why you would want to take a break.

There are too many unreasonable people on some of these threads.
They feel the need to argue and be generally unpleasant and rude.
Some need to convince others of what they believe or don't believe, not respecting the rights and space of others.

I thank you, Justin, for your contributions to the religion room as well as the interfaith and Catholics and other Orthodox etc. rooms.

[hrmjustin]

7. Thank you my friend.

Some in there just don't want a debate so I am not going to feed into it.

[TM99]

9. Yes, I think I am going to join you.

I just got a post hidden, and I am sicking of having my buttons pushed by the usual offenders. Call a person a 'smart ass' when they are being one, and you get the post hidden. Call a person delusional and mentally ill, and there are apparently no consequences.

I will hopefully enjoy some discussions with you here and elsewhere.

[hrmjustin]

10. So sorry you got a hide.

The jury system gets it wrong too many times.

[TM99]

11. It is my own fault.

I fell for the bait. The smart-alecky dig and the 'gotcha' debating tactics push even the most calm and rational persons buttons after awhile.

Thanks though.

[hrmjustin]

12. .

[No Vested Interest]

19. Ironic - I think all on my ignore list are from the "religion" group.

Also another aspect of irony -It never fails to strike me that haters and baiters of religion frequent the "religion" group.
In a way they're like trolls.

I've never tolerated incivility in my everyday life, and since DU is now part of my everyday life, I've found it easier to just ignore, both literally and figuratively.

[Leontius]

20. His post was hidden(4-3) so he won't be posting any more in that thread.

At least this time calling a fellow DUer mentally ill did have consequences.

[hrmjustin]

25. Finally a jury gets it right.

Not my alert but a good result.

[TM99]

29. That is some comfort.

It is just so frustrating. There is only a small group that really pushes that meme. But they are vocal as hell and then they receive tacit approval for it from another cabal that play word games.

Ah well.....

[Leontius]

13. Not a bad idea

I've pretty much given up on meaningful discussions there but I can't resist jerking a certain groups chains.

[hrmjustin]

14. It is very difficult to respond to a bunch of people who think your ill or deluded.

[rug]

15. That is, of course, their goal.

They've been getting more blowback than they can handle.

There's a small core there that prefer it to be a place to post cartoons and pictures of Jesus on toast and have a mockfest.

When people don't put up with those antics, they turn ugly, personal, and stupid in rapid fashion.

Oh, and whiney.

[hrmjustin]

17. Oh I will be back soon but I am just going to step away for a bit.

[Leontius]

21. Ugly, Stupid and Whiney. New names for the Three

I'll think of those names when I see their posts from now on.

[rug]

22. Lol, there's also one peddler of abstracts who's simply Clueless.

[Leontius]

23. Every time I read one of his posts I just think wtf

[okasha]

26. I'll put the truth in packaging disclaimer right up front.

I have no formal training in psychology. None. Not even a freshman intro course.

But I do know what narcissism and grandiosity look like, and that one has it BAD.

[cbayer]

16. Are you delusional and ill, justin?

I would bet the farm that you are not.

So why let anyone else, particularly someone with absolutely no standing, to say that you are?

When people call me "crazy", that's a showstopper. I might try to point out how offensive, rude and uncivil that is, but the conversation is pretty much over.

Engaging with some people, particularly bullies, is exactly what they want. They will also be able to kick up the nastiness another notch and certainly higher than you are willing to go.

So, take a break. Choose your battles when you return.

Don't feed the trolls.

[hrmjustin]

18. Absolutely!

You were right that feeding into them was the wrong choice.

[hrmjustin]

24. Feels good to not post there but I chose not to trash it.

Will just practice some self control and stay away and when I come back I will choose my battles.

[okasha]

27. This is a good place.

We can certainly have productive discussions here. I know we're a pretty diverse lot who can bring a variety of perspectives to a subject.

[hrmjustin]

28. Indeed but I will go back to the other room eventually.

[hrmjustin]

31. Good advice. Thank you and I will be back but i0as I said I will pick my battles

and use ignore.

[Fortinbras Armstrong]

32. I am doing the same thing for the same reason.

But if MellowDem tries to argue that "mentally ill" and "insane" are not synonyms, I shall respond.

[hrmjustin]

33. Of course they will say these things. They know it irritates us.

[hrmjustin]

34. My days are calmer not engaging them about being deluded or ill.

[hrmjustin]

35. It has been a week since I stopped posting in that room.

Still need to stay away because it was unhealthy for me.

I do miss posting in there and hope to come back soon.