My 98 year old mom died on 12/12 - COVID-19 related.

[orleans]

44. i was thinking about my mom and dad tonight

my dad died a long, long time ago.
my mom died eleven years ago.

i was crying as i was thinking about them, and talking to them.

my mom and i were very close. she would be 97 now. my daughter and i were with her when she passed on.

a friend of mine (whose parents are also gone now--for a a number of years) and i have talked about the what-ifs of his parents & my mom. we have both come to the conclusion that we are thankful they didn't have to live and die and in this pandemic era. both of us were able to be with our parents for a couple weeks before they died. i can't imagine my mom and i not being able to be together--i would have lost my fucking mind.

my heart breaks for all those who were physically separated through the quarantine. i can't imagine anything worse (for those who are dying and those who are left behind).

how fortunate for you and your mom that you were not in that group and that you were able to be together as much as you were.

i'm very sorry for your loss. i'm sure she won't be far. you can still say "remember when we..." and she might find a way to let you know that yes, she remembers too.