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Layzeebeaver

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21. I'm going to ramble a bit... and probably make a few people very angry.
Sat Jul 16, 2022, 02:53 AM
Jul 2022

We are chastised because we use too much plastic, but need to eat. Yet most food it packed in it. Are we to blame for the plastic because of the foods we like and the plastic it’s wrapped in? Perhaps the companies that package their food in that manner are due a good portion of chastisement?

I know that was not a perfect analogy, and I’m not trying to make it a “what about ism”. What Hetero male will not take notice of a woman wearing the latest incarnation of hot pants or mini-skirts? And where does this fashion get made? Who decided to buy it and decided to wear it? People wear tee shirts with provocative images and messaging because why? All these things are designed to appeal to the primitive areas of our brain.

Also, there is some level of human nature in play, and the survey is “pigeon holing” a bit too much for me.

On a personal note…

When an attractive and or attractively dressed figure walks into my view, I will appreciate in my own way. What goes on inside my mind is my own business. How I outwardly act on my thoughts is more than my own business.

I’m also 62, and deep inside of me remains a bit of a 16 year old. The part of me that still likes the Andy Williams tune “Music to watch girls by”

My similarly aged friend and I still have an occasional afternoon out where we comfortably position ourselves outside in a downtown joint on a weekend summer afternoon, with a drink and our sunglasses. When an attractive woman walks by, we sometimes mutter to each other a code word or two, but usually it all amounts to us sighing, and reflecting, “ah, to be young again…”

We are all at the same time victims, consumers, constructors and preachers of an objectifying, consumeristic, blaming and impersonal culture. A culture that has many components and actors. We should refrain from putting all the blame on one target constituent.

We can’t change our nature, but we can all be aware of our behaviour and our underlying prejudices. That applies to a lot of things, not just how we might look at an attractive person.

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I'm a straight male and pass on this poll. Lochloosa Jul 2022 #1
Should allow multiple responses HelpImSurrounded Jul 2022 #2
Hmmmm... qwlauren35 Jul 2022 #5
In a single line? I doubt it HelpImSurrounded Jul 2022 #10
I can relate to practically everything you've written True Dough Jul 2022 #19
Hey! Dirty old men need love too... Wounded Bear Jul 2022 #31
Wait a second, Wounded Bear True Dough Jul 2022 #32
Nope, more like this guy... Wounded Bear Jul 2022 #33
Other mvd Jul 2022 #3
No idea but I'm a straight woman and I notice nice looking men. Phoenix61 Jul 2022 #4
I hear you. qwlauren35 Jul 2022 #13
The photoshopping of either sex annoys me. Phoenix61 Jul 2022 #15
Well said Doc Sportello Jul 2022 #26
I passed because I simply enjoy looking at people - I enjoy the diversity of looks, clothes, NewHendoLib Jul 2022 #6
I'm a straight male... House of Roberts Jul 2022 #7
I'll check what I typed. Sorry. qwlauren35 Jul 2022 #14
What about the "I'm a gay male and I enjoy looking at women that I find attractive" option? TexasTowelie Jul 2022 #8
As I've gotten older I think it's kind of creepy when I check out younger women captain queeg Jul 2022 #9
Well gay texan Jul 2022 #11
I've gone on group model shoots a few times edbermac Jul 2022 #12
I understand the need for cosmetic surgery and even implants... Wounded Bear Jul 2022 #35
I think you need to go back to what your friend actually wrote. meadowlander Jul 2022 #16
+1 LizBeth Jul 2022 #22
+1 demmiblue Jul 2022 #23
2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 (nt) petronius Jul 2022 #17
Well yeah. BlueTsunami2018 Jul 2022 #18
Where is - "I am a gay woman and I enjoy looking at women. Period"? OhZone Jul 2022 #20
I'm going to ramble a bit... and probably make a few people very angry. Layzeebeaver Jul 2022 #21
I'm a straight, old woman. I stared at two men, openly. It was in Venice and I was crossing the CTyankee Jul 2022 #24
What the fuck is this shit right here WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2022 #25
Yep. Iggo Jul 2022 #30
I am a straight male and I enjoy looking at all sorts of people - I am a photographer GoneOffShore Jul 2022 #27
Much more rewarding watching flowers 48656c6c6f20 Jul 2022 #28
I thought it couldn't get dumber than the Ivana threads. Iggo Jul 2022 #29
I won't ForgedCrank Jul 2022 #34
Leering makes women uncomfortable. I suggest men stop doing it. boston bean Jul 2022 #36
Yes it's DU newdayneeded Jul 2022 #38
Especially at the nude beach Polybius Jul 2022 #39
Yeah. Just another grenade rolled into the room. Iggo Jul 2022 #40
There's nothing wrong with straight men looking at women, especially women they highplainsdem Jul 2022 #37
After a review by forum hosts....LOCKING Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #41
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