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ForgedCrank

(2,529 posts)
34. I won't
Sat Jul 16, 2022, 09:41 AM
Jul 2022

claim to know the general truth with certainty, but life has taught me that most women do enjoy being noticed but only by men they approve of, and only for the socially acceptable amount of time. Those lines are short and quite abrupt as well. I've seen how women react to other men when they are noticed, we learn from those reactions.
A quick notice of what we perceive as beauty is mostly acceptable and welcomed (or so I think at least), but beyond that it becomes a stare that will make women increasingly uncomfortable, and for obvious reasons. And we are talking about very very short time frames here. If you get caught glancing, that means she was looking at you as well for one reason or another.
I think this is because the initial glance and quick smile is an unspoken complimentary acknowledgment. If the stare phase begins, it is because someone is beginning to assess and think "other" things, possibly even inappropriate things. Women seem to be naturally aware of that, maybe because it is a self-preservation thing?
And as we all know, those rules change dramatically when you get married. The additional scrutiny ensures that you keep your eyes to yourself and even a quick glance will land you in hot water.
I'm not trying to speak for women, it's just my assessment of socially acceptable behaviors learned through life.
The same rule applies to other men regarding staring, but for very different reasons.

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I'm a straight male and pass on this poll. Lochloosa Jul 2022 #1
Should allow multiple responses HelpImSurrounded Jul 2022 #2
Hmmmm... qwlauren35 Jul 2022 #5
In a single line? I doubt it HelpImSurrounded Jul 2022 #10
I can relate to practically everything you've written True Dough Jul 2022 #19
Hey! Dirty old men need love too... Wounded Bear Jul 2022 #31
Wait a second, Wounded Bear True Dough Jul 2022 #32
Nope, more like this guy... Wounded Bear Jul 2022 #33
Other mvd Jul 2022 #3
No idea but I'm a straight woman and I notice nice looking men. Phoenix61 Jul 2022 #4
I hear you. qwlauren35 Jul 2022 #13
The photoshopping of either sex annoys me. Phoenix61 Jul 2022 #15
Well said Doc Sportello Jul 2022 #26
I passed because I simply enjoy looking at people - I enjoy the diversity of looks, clothes, NewHendoLib Jul 2022 #6
I'm a straight male... House of Roberts Jul 2022 #7
I'll check what I typed. Sorry. qwlauren35 Jul 2022 #14
What about the "I'm a gay male and I enjoy looking at women that I find attractive" option? TexasTowelie Jul 2022 #8
As I've gotten older I think it's kind of creepy when I check out younger women captain queeg Jul 2022 #9
Well gay texan Jul 2022 #11
I've gone on group model shoots a few times edbermac Jul 2022 #12
I understand the need for cosmetic surgery and even implants... Wounded Bear Jul 2022 #35
I think you need to go back to what your friend actually wrote. meadowlander Jul 2022 #16
+1 LizBeth Jul 2022 #22
+1 demmiblue Jul 2022 #23
2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 (nt) petronius Jul 2022 #17
Well yeah. BlueTsunami2018 Jul 2022 #18
Where is - "I am a gay woman and I enjoy looking at women. Period"? OhZone Jul 2022 #20
I'm going to ramble a bit... and probably make a few people very angry. Layzeebeaver Jul 2022 #21
I'm a straight, old woman. I stared at two men, openly. It was in Venice and I was crossing the CTyankee Jul 2022 #24
What the fuck is this shit right here WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2022 #25
Yep. Iggo Jul 2022 #30
I am a straight male and I enjoy looking at all sorts of people - I am a photographer GoneOffShore Jul 2022 #27
Much more rewarding watching flowers 48656c6c6f20 Jul 2022 #28
I thought it couldn't get dumber than the Ivana threads. Iggo Jul 2022 #29
I won't ForgedCrank Jul 2022 #34
Leering makes women uncomfortable. I suggest men stop doing it. boston bean Jul 2022 #36
Yes it's DU newdayneeded Jul 2022 #38
Especially at the nude beach Polybius Jul 2022 #39
Yeah. Just another grenade rolled into the room. Iggo Jul 2022 #40
There's nothing wrong with straight men looking at women, especially women they highplainsdem Jul 2022 #37
After a review by forum hosts....LOCKING Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #41
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