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AncientOfDays

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88. My dad ...

Fri Oct 4, 2024, 09:51 PM

Oct 4

... was a fundamentalist preacher. He used a belt on me until I was 16. Leaving marks/bruises to the point of bleeding. He only stopped because of outside involvement. "spare the rod and spoil the child"

Took me a couple decades to work out. Might still have some effect on me.

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Breaking a Child's Will The Evangelical family's twisted obsession with corporal punishment. [View all] demmiblue Oct 4 OP

Please post a non-paywall link synni Oct 4 #1

Here Nevilledog Oct 4 #3

Belief in a cruel God makes a cruel man. Thomas Paine Ping Tung Oct 4 #48

I guess I was lucky, my non-believer dad used belts, fists and feet. Child abusers are from all niches in society. marble falls Oct 4 #2

Yep. Mine was a belt man. OldBaldy1701E Oct 4 #4

Except for the church stuff, we had the same dad. I have no sympathy whatsoever for anyone hurting children ... marble falls Oct 4 #7

I worked at a school for almost a decade. OldBaldy1701E Oct 4 #11

When I see it going on in public, I do get cold inside and start walking into it. I can't handle hurt children ... marble falls Oct 4 #15

You are protecting your little self, the poor beaten child. AloeVera Oct 4 #37

A shrink once told me I was feeling sorry for myself and that ended therapy for me with him. I went to another ... marble falls Oct 4 #43

That shrink was an emotionally underdeveloped asshole. AloeVera Oct 4 #55

I'll never forget a a radio program back in the 1990's cab67 Oct 4 #59

Just shocked beyond words. "Preach the Gospel daily. If necessary, use words." marble falls Oct 4 #70

Your mentioning the switch brought back a childhood memory. Xavier Breath Oct 4 #78

My father sliced my leg open with one when I was four. OldBaldy1701E Oct 4 #82

Granted but they coalesce among evilgelicals. paleotn Oct 4 #63

It happens in every niche of society. Religion just adds a different twist to it, but it all damnable. My point is ... marble falls Oct 4 #68

I wouldn't call "making the abuser holy" a LITTLE twist . . . hatrack Oct 4 #91

My father's favorites were a bullwhip UpInArms Oct 5 #95

K&R Solly Mack Oct 4 #5

I hope eventually there will be a discussion about the First Amendment barbtries Oct 4 #6

It is astounding the number of children murdered through physical abuse in cult "Christian" groups. marble falls Oct 4 #10

It can never be acceptable for any organization or individual wnylib Oct 4 #44

Dobson. I'm not surprised to see that fucker mentioned. CrispyQ Oct 4 #8

Corporal punishment used to be common in public schools. StarryNite Oct 4 #9

I remember watching this in grade school Bayard Oct 4 #13

The fly swatter was it for me, too. HeartsCanHope Oct 4 #58

Yep, we had the strap which was a thick leather Bev54 Oct 4 #20

There was a big wooden paddle in the window of the principal's office of the Catholic school I attended in the 1960s. OMGWTF Oct 4 #21

Head-battering and hitting nails with a ruler were my "teachers" favourites. AloeVera Oct 4 #46

It is still legal in some states. The last time the Supreme Court ruled on it pnwmom Oct 4 #50

Mind boggling that it's legal for a teacher to hit their students. StarryNite Oct 4 #73

Twenty years ago here on DU there were still some people defending this. pnwmom Oct 4 #75

Yes, I remember those days. I got hit with a ruler on my open hand once wnylib Oct 4 #54

It sounds like your homeroom teacher was a great person. StarryNite Oct 4 #72

Oh, yeah. She was great. Students used to hang out wnylib Oct 4 #77

It still is in many states kcr Oct 4 #60

Good grief. :( StarryNite Oct 4 #71

It was routine in the high school I taught in from 1978-1989. n/t Ms. Toad Oct 4 #61

you could get it for bad grades, conduct or otherwise, if you were on my middle school football team in the late 70s prodigitalson Oct 5 #99

Yes, "barbaric" describes it perfectly. StarryNite Oct 5 #100

it was super unusual as well as cruel..even though it was ubiquitous prodigitalson Oct 6 #102

You make very good points. StarryNite Oct 6 #104

Paddles for coperal punishment made in school woodshops?! ☹️ electric_blue68 Oct 6 #105

When the boys got to pick things they wanted to make StarryNite Oct 6 #107

Something wrong somewhere. Kid Berwyn Oct 4 #12

Religion can be a divine cover for all manner of evils. lindysalsagal Oct 4 #14

Kent Hovind, when not misrepresenting evolution TlalocW Oct 4 #16

My mom used wooden spoons. Not gonna say more irisblue Oct 4 #17

Mine, too geardaddy Oct 4 #36

I do not say. Our moms failed irisblue Oct 4 #38

Luckily, my mom turned it around geardaddy Oct 4 #40

I remember families moniss Oct 4 #18

Yikes!!! Ho-Lee-Shit! NM Grins Oct 4 #25

That was my father's MO. no_hypocrisy Oct 4 #19

Kooks Blue for the win Oct 4 #22

"To Train Up a Child" Bernardo de La Paz Oct 4 #23

Sickening. Joinfortmill Oct 4 #27

These sick folks give advice on beating babies. keithbvadu2 Oct 4 #35

I would hope and wonder if anyone given that book stood up, threw it in the trash and walked away. chowder66 Oct 4 #57

I remember that. geardaddy Oct 4 #47

Rick Perlstein's book, "The Invisible Bridge." Grins Oct 4 #24

Maybe someone Figarosmom Oct 4 #26

Please post a detailed explanation of "a gard on". I've not heard of one before. Do you have pictures to help? Bernardo de La Paz Oct 4 #30

Hit wrong key Figarosmom Oct 4 #33

:) Bernardo de La Paz Oct 4 #53

Gracious! H2O Man Oct 4 #28

The Evangelist Cult and trump rich7862 Oct 4 #29

My parents never inflicted pain on me. Mr.Bill Oct 4 #31

People don't have to be religious to think they are gods Maeve Oct 4 #32

My husband was a product of this bullshit. mzmolly Oct 4 #34

This message was self-deleted by its author Clouds Passing Oct 4 #39

Spare the rod and Mblaze Oct 4 #41

Thank you for this, Mblaze! HeartsCanHope Oct 4 #74

Thank you for teaching our children Mblaze Oct 5 #98

This small survey does not mean all religious communities. That's an inaccurate extrapolation. ancianita Oct 4 #42

"Not all men" logical fallacy? MineralMan Oct 4 #62

Sure. ancianita Oct 4 #86

There's one verse in the Old Testament book of Psalms: MineralMan Oct 4 #45

Interestingly, the rod is not used to beat the sheep phylny Oct 4 #49

Psalms are literally the "songs" OF David, then later, he & his people who broke their covenant with God - NOT of God. ancianita Oct 4 #52

Yes, I know that. MineralMan Oct 4 #56

No doubt. And admirable. ancianita Oct 4 #66

Aside from old age and disease, MineralMan Oct 4 #81

Some say ancianita Oct 4 #85

Nothing wrong with the Bible. MineralMan Oct 5 #92

Then ancianita Oct 5 #93

We don't really disagree. MineralMan Oct 5 #94

Thanks, and I I fully understand that. (Sorry for the delay, it's been a day... ) ancianita Oct 5 #97

My parents weren't very religious but I lived in terror of the belt Wicked Blue Oct 4 #51

My Mom Broke A Wooden Spoon on My Ass Deep State Witch Oct 4 #64

Hands only. Guess I was lucky paleotn Oct 4 #65

Evangelical Christianity is inherently cruel by nature. Initech Oct 4 #67

Hey Dobson -- focus on your own damn family Blue Owl Oct 4 #69

Were there specific geographic areas? LiberalFighter Oct 4 #76

Getting paddled was something that went on in our elementary school. Fla Dem Oct 4 #79

Somewhere down the road many of these parents will find themselves estranged from their adult children. milestogo Oct 4 #80

Dobson was and is a bad influence on society. valleyrogue Oct 4 #83

Hot wheels tracks Junipercity Oct 4 #84

If they ran public schools: LudwigPastorius Oct 4 #87

My dad ... AncientOfDays Oct 4 #88

my wife was beaten with wooden spoons when she was a child by her mother Takket Oct 4 #89

All children are born curious. hunter Oct 4 #90

I was spanked by my mother when I was a little kid, valleyrogue Oct 5 #96

In some countries physical punishment of children - and spouses - is illegal. Aussie105 Oct 6 #101

"America's dad" Dear_Prudence Oct 6 #103

woah... It's terrible that you all experienced physical & emotional punishment; and often left w triggers... electric_blue68 Oct 6 #106