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ChazII

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50. Thank you everyone for your responses they
Thu Apr 16, 2020, 10:08 PM
Apr 2020

are like a comforting quilt around my shoulders.

As some of you know my son, Jay, was diagnosed back in March of 2019 with a glioblastoma tumor. It is the same tumor that killed Sen. Kennedy, Sen. McCain and Vice President Biden's son. He was given 15 months and passed 2 weeks shy of the one year mark.

When Jay's body was picked up by Research for Life I gave him one last kiss on his forehead. His body was first taken to Barrow Neurological Instute Ivy Tumor Research here in Phoenix. While it is a blind study Jay's brain is going to a study being done by Dr. Nadir Sanai who happened to be his neurosurgeon. The rest of his body was used in an orthopedic study. Jay looked like the Disney version of Quaismodo in Hunchback of Notre Dame. Truly, they could have been brothers.

When the virus started shutting things down I was told his ashes would be held here in the Research for Life facilities. Yesterday, they called and told me I could come and get them. I was so happy that I did not ask why. My only question was could some of the ashes be placed in a necklace one of his friends gave to me. They said that they could do that for me.

The necklace is a TARDIS. Those who know about Dr. Who know what a TARDIS is and what the letters represent. I am thankful/grateful to have him back with me and that while he is no longer with us, all of this crap started last year and I was able to be his side through the surgeries (he had to have a shunt later in 2019) the radiation, cyber knife treatments and that I could be in the hospital 24/7. He was 35.5 years old when he passed.

Again, thank you for your love, your prayers and positive thoughts. They helped me get through 2019, they are helping me now and they will help through the rest of this year. You guys are really the best.

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Oh so sorry. What a dreary day MaryMagdaline Apr 2020 #1
I'm very sorry about your son. dewsgirl Apr 2020 #2
Peace be with you ChazII Blue Owl Apr 2020 #3
I am so sorry Ohiogal Apr 2020 #4
I am so sorry UpInArms Apr 2020 #5
I am so sorry, Chaz. sheshe2 Apr 2020 #6
I am so sorry ChazII, peacebuzzard Apr 2020 #7
Oh, my dear. I am sorry. Squinch Apr 2020 #8
I am so sorry for your loss. cayugafalls Apr 2020 #9
Deepest condolences, Chaz SheltieLover Apr 2020 #10
Oh, my.... Freedomofspeech Apr 2020 #11
Condolences to you and your family. spooky3 Apr 2020 #12
So sorry rurallib Apr 2020 #13
Oh m god, so tragic. secondwind Apr 2020 #14
So sorry for your loss. applegrove Apr 2020 #15
I'm very sorry. What a heartbreaking time. JohnnyLib2 Apr 2020 #16
I'm sorry for your loss mostlyalurker Apr 2020 #17
So sorry mostlyalurker. Laura PourMeADrink Apr 2020 #48
I remember when he passed from brain cancer . Can't imagine this last 30 days or so for you lunasun Apr 2020 #18
. Ptah Apr 2020 #19
I'm so, so sorry democrank Apr 2020 #20
💕💕💕💕 love and kind thoughts MLAA Apr 2020 #21
May grace find you and bring you peace and healing... Moostache Apr 2020 #22
Sending wishes for peace your way. So sorry for your loss. Lonestarblue Apr 2020 #23
My heart goes out to you ChazII. May your son Rest In Peace. iluvtennis Apr 2020 #24
So sorry for your great loss. ancianita Apr 2020 #25
sending you a virtual sagetea Apr 2020 #26
Oh dear Chaz. AllyCat Apr 2020 #27
So so sorry. tavernier Apr 2020 #28
I'm so very sorry sdfernando Apr 2020 #29
I am so very sorry for your loss. Delmette2.0 Apr 2020 #30
Deepest sympathy. Scarsdale Apr 2020 #41
my heart breaks for you Kali Apr 2020 #31
How heartbreaking Danmel Apr 2020 #32
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Apr 2020 #33
Worst hurt ever. I'm so deeply sorry. Duppers Apr 2020 #34
I am so very sorry for your loss. pnwmom Apr 2020 #35
I can't imagine ArizonaLib Apr 2020 #36
He will forever be in your heart, ChazII..... Heartstrings Apr 2020 #37
... defacto7 Apr 2020 #38
So very sorry for your loss. niyad Apr 2020 #39
Sincere condolences to you and your family, ChazII, pazzyanne Apr 2020 #40
I'm so very sorry 😐 nt live love laugh Apr 2020 #42
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Apr 2020 #43
OMG. So sorry! Initech Apr 2020 #44
My Lord ... words cannot express how sorry I am... CaptainTruth Apr 2020 #45
It should NEVER have to be this way. I am so sorry for all that was taken from you ChazII FailureToCommunicate Apr 2020 #46
Omg. How horribly sad. I am so sorry Chazll Laura PourMeADrink Apr 2020 #47
I am so sorry cydney_wong Apr 2020 #49
Thank you everyone for your responses they ChazII Apr 2020 #50
My heart breaks for anyone losing a son or daughter sellitman Apr 2020 #51
I am so sorry ................ May he rest in peace. And may you find some Maraya1969 Apr 2020 #52
I hope your memories help you through this difficult time deek Apr 2020 #53
My tears are all I have to give you. cornball 24 Apr 2020 #54
Thank you. Know that ChazII Apr 2020 #55
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