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In_The_Wind

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3. Objectifying isn't only a male thing. It's a human thing.

Reply to Bonobo (Reply #2)

Sat Dec 21, 2013, 09:34 PM

Dec 2013

As a straight woman, I'll admit to enjoying watching men.
I am partial to a man with a nice butt and muscular thighs. I throughly enjoyed watching the new roof tiles being installed on my old house. I never said anything to anyone to avoid making them uncomfortable.

Does that make me a bad person. I don't think so.

Should I condemn a man for doing the same thing I do. Again, I don't think so.

All of my life, I've pointed out attractive women to my husbands or my boyfriends. Again, I don't see anything wrong with enjoying beauty for what it is.

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Female idealization of men [View all] Bonobo Dec 2013 OP

I find that very interesting. In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #1

One thing that strikes me as odd and inconsistent Bonobo Dec 2013 #2

Objectifying isn't only a male thing. It's a human thing. In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #3

If humans weren't attracted to each other... Bonobo Dec 2013 #4

hahahaha In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #5

Yup. Bonobo Dec 2013 #6

I don't know where the nonsense comes from, that sexual attractiveness is "degrading" Warren DeMontague Dec 2013 #7

Maybe some, in part due to past trauma, tend to conflate things that are degrading nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #22

I would agree with all of that. Warren DeMontague Dec 2013 #24

I agree. But perhaps we should consider ourselves fortunate, in that respect. n/t nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #25

Some postfeminist crap for the less discriminating. But... TreasonousBastard Dec 2013 #26

Lipstick feminists Major Nikon Dec 2013 #27

Lipstick feminism now? I remember a kerfuffle... TreasonousBastard Dec 2013 #28

The flip-side of objectification is self-objectification Major Nikon Dec 2013 #29

It's all the same. rrneck Dec 2013 #8

I guess fantasy, in general, is really about "telling people what they want to hear." nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #21

I'm coming to the realization... opiate69 Dec 2013 #9

The "Male Gaze" mistake... Bonobo Dec 2013 #10

I'm not even sure if it's worth pointing out the obvious errors Major Nikon Dec 2013 #11

The usual suspects have truly won the day ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #15

Holy Fuck! opiate69 Dec 2013 #16

Apparently my friend Joyce and I are creeps. HappyMe Dec 2013 #12

That was YOU?! Behind the Aegis Dec 2013 #13

Yes. Yes it was. HappyMe Dec 2013 #14

I hope you enjoyed the view...I hard worked on it. Behind the Aegis Dec 2013 #18

So are all of my girlfriends, sisters and I. RiffRandell Dec 2013 #17

I guess that makes me a creep too. In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #19

I've seen a plumber's ass cleavage Major Nikon Dec 2013 #20

Interesting food for thought. Seems like a book I might want to track down. n/t nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #23