Tough Guise: Violence, Media & the Crisis in Masculinity

[lumberjack_jeff]

9. What to attribute the "seeming acceptance of violence against women and children"?

If you were a man making that statement, I'd ask if you were speaking for yourself. Since you're apparently not, you're simply telling us what you think we believe, and IMHO doing it badly. It is one thing to say that violence among and against men is a problem. It's another thing to say that all men are culpable for the violence of any man.

The charter of this group is very broadly defined; "issues of interest to men". There are several other groups in which you can tell us what we think, but this group should be free of that kind of flame baiting.

This thread is useful because violence is a problem and an issue of interest among men. It won't be a venue to bash men for the violent pigs they become when they stray from the benevolent detention of their mothers.

To directly answer your question; the operative phrase is "seeming". It seems to you that men teach one another to be violent to women. This widely-held perception, in my experience held almost exclusively by women, is a topic of interest but the perception itself is invalid.

The positive qualities of toughness, respect, strength, self-discipline and independence should be part of masculinity. They are separable from the weakness of aggressive violence.