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Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
13. I understand your reticence and defensiveness.
Tue Jul 29, 2014, 10:32 PM
Jul 2014

But men are not mind readers and people do not want to close off themselves to being friendly and smiling or talking to people in a public space just because there is a POSSIBILITY that someone might have had a bad experience.

So my problem with the "Don't talk to me" movement is that it is socially destructive. If a particular person does not want a social interaction, that is just going to have to remain that person's responsibility to deal with and they cannot expect everyone to change their behavior.

From a pretty woman's perspective, she may indeed get annoyed after receiving 100 comments in a day about how nice her dress is, but each one of those 100 people have no idea about the other 99 comments. See the problem?

If everyone just started to not talk to each other, it wouldn't exactly help improve the world.

Furthermore, the video in particular that annoyed me was one in which the young woman singled out men for the crime of being old. She used a variety of pejorative terms, insults and stereotypes against old people and it was just plain hateful and nasty of her. If a man did such a thing about old women, it would rightfully be called out as disgusting behavior.

And make sure your fly is zipped... TreasonousBastard Jul 2014 #1
But ~ It's so tacky to wear a Hello tag on my lapel. In_The_Wind Jul 2014 #2
I hear tacky is "in" now LadyHawkAZ Jul 2014 #3
Maybe Tinder & Grinder apps are on the forefront. Inkfreak Jul 2014 #4
Is that what those are for? Sen. Walter Sobchak Jul 2014 #5
I don't want to talk to most people in public Sen. Walter Sobchak Jul 2014 #6
Just remember men, they know what you're doing ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jul 2014 #7
Hope you don't mind me posting this here. noamnety Jul 2014 #8
That is assault and is a crime. Bonobo Jul 2014 #9
It's assault and a crime, yes. noamnety Jul 2014 #10
I can certainly understand that. Bonobo Jul 2014 #11
Thanks noamnety Jul 2014 #12
I understand your reticence and defensiveness. Bonobo Jul 2014 #13
What video do you reference in your final paragraph? Thanx. Eleanors38 Aug 2014 #16
I take all my cues from Austin Powers movies. lumberjack_jeff Jul 2014 #14
Just had an event 'saying hi.' Springslips Aug 2014 #15
I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. dawg Aug 2014 #18
Man, I'm from the midwest kjones Aug 2014 #19
Yep. Springslips Aug 2014 #20
Of course, I don't dwell on any of it. It just kinda makes people seem rude. kjones Aug 2014 #21
I think it's okay to attempt to start a conversation with a stranger ... dawg Aug 2014 #17
Wow... so this is actually a thing. Sen. Walter Sobchak Aug 2014 #22
I actually like the "don't talk to me" movement Shankapotomus Oct 2014 #23
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