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Seeking Serenity

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1. If a person, male or female, has romantic feelings or desires

Reply to Veilex (Original post)

Wed Jan 21, 2015, 06:31 PM

Jan 2015

for another person and those feelings aren't returned or reciprocated, the person whose romantic desires were rejected has no obligation to be or continue to be the object of their affection's "friend."

If Billy wants a romantic relationship with Sally, but Sally doesn't, Billy may be and probably will be hurt (unrequited love typically does hurt a bit), but he should not be chastised or berated if he doesn't want to just be Sally's friend.

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The Friendzone [View all] Veilex Jan 2015 OP

If a person, male or female, has romantic feelings or desires Seeking Serenity Jan 2015 #1

"he should not be chastised or berated if he doesn't want to just be Sally's friend" Veilex Jan 2015 #2

I agree. Seeking Serenity Jan 2015 #3

This very same dynamic happens when the gender roles are reversed Major Nikon Jan 2015 #6

The hypocrisy in some quarters is astounding, like the people who picked over dating websites for Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #12

I think the answer really depends on how the person who has the unrequited feelings reacts mythology Jan 2015 #4

"They aren't rejecting you as a person, they are saying that they don't want to date you." Veilex Jan 2015 #5

It also depends on how the other person reacts Major Nikon Jan 2015 #7

Post removed Post removed Jan 2015 #10

The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #20

This is something that has recently resurfaced in my life. kjones Jan 2015 #8

Anyway, guess my point is kjones Jan 2015 #9

It's not a zone, it's simply not being interested in a romantic relationship. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #11

Imo, it's whiny and entitled. chrisa Jan 2015 #13

"Why waste time on someone who will not want to have a relationship with you" - Indeed. Veilex Jan 2015 #15

I think in terms of social networks, bigger is better. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #19

I agree. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #16

BITTER, LONELY WOMEN Bonobo Jan 2015 #17

Dupe chrisa Jan 2015 #13

A guy on the losing end of "commitment mismatch" is a stalker lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #18

That's why the only way to win is to be like Captain Kirk. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #21