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Warren DeMontague

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12. The hypocrisy in some quarters is astounding, like the people who picked over dating websites for

Thu Jan 22, 2015, 08:24 PM

Jan 2015

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the profiles of self-described "nice guys" to publicly mock. Like "nice guys of OKcupid" or whatever.

Whereas if some woman posts a profile looking for an attractive guy, or a guy with a list of perchance unrealistic attributes that she is looking for, despite the fact that she's overweight or unfortunately hirsute or more Lobelia Sackville-Baggins than Olivia Wilde, etc...

heaven forfend anyone should 'shame' her for putting herself out there and going for what she wants, whether or not she has any chance of getting it.

Because that's what lonely people do on online dating sites. Duh.

But a "dudebro" does it, and he's heteronormative patriarchal entitlement sex-demandingness embodied, or some shit.

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The Friendzone [View all] Veilex Jan 2015 OP

If a person, male or female, has romantic feelings or desires Seeking Serenity Jan 2015 #1

"he should not be chastised or berated if he doesn't want to just be Sally's friend" Veilex Jan 2015 #2

I agree. Seeking Serenity Jan 2015 #3

This very same dynamic happens when the gender roles are reversed Major Nikon Jan 2015 #6

The hypocrisy in some quarters is astounding, like the people who picked over dating websites for Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #12

I think the answer really depends on how the person who has the unrequited feelings reacts mythology Jan 2015 #4

"They aren't rejecting you as a person, they are saying that they don't want to date you." Veilex Jan 2015 #5

It also depends on how the other person reacts Major Nikon Jan 2015 #7

Post removed Post removed Jan 2015 #10

The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #20

This is something that has recently resurfaced in my life. kjones Jan 2015 #8

Anyway, guess my point is kjones Jan 2015 #9

It's not a zone, it's simply not being interested in a romantic relationship. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #11

Imo, it's whiny and entitled. chrisa Jan 2015 #13

"Why waste time on someone who will not want to have a relationship with you" - Indeed. Veilex Jan 2015 #15

I think in terms of social networks, bigger is better. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #19

I agree. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #16

BITTER, LONELY WOMEN Bonobo Jan 2015 #17

Dupe chrisa Jan 2015 #13

A guy on the losing end of "commitment mismatch" is a stalker lumberjack_jeff Jan 2015 #18

That's why the only way to win is to be like Captain Kirk. Warren DeMontague Jan 2015 #21