The Medea Complex and the Parental Alienation Syndrome

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7. My dad would have slapped me if i bad-mouthed my mother

my mother was not quite as kind.
My dad has always loved my mother, but it was clear they could not live together, so they divorced.
Dad absolutely forbade me from saying ill against my mother, and always made a point to take her side when it was relevant.

my mother was less magnanimous, but rarely made overt ill towards dad, but it was inferred a great deal.
My parents were, overall, very very very civilized and grown up about their divorce.
I was around 10 when it happened.

But living mostly with my mother (I preferred living with dad but he sent me back to take care of my mother's sanity) I learned all the great things about being a liberal, feminist... and never learned how to properly be a man. this did great harm to my ability to not only interact with my male peers (foot ball is stupid and brutal) but with girls on anymore than as a good friend.

Being a nice guy who never gets dates is NOT good for the ego or self esteem / worth and my first relationship was a very abusive one... to me. How i was brought up, I thought I was supposed to be treated that way.

My other relationships were not too much better.
I've always been more self harming than anything. always assuming i'm in the wrong, that the woman is always in the right.

I know that's unhealthy... now. but then it seemed the natural way of things. I'm always wrong is a fact of nature... what a great thing to teach your son!