It's really only violence if it is man vs. woman.

[yardwork]

59. I agree with you right up to the last phrase, and I lost you there.

I mean, I agree that it's usually not a good idea to hurl gender based insults if one can avoid it. But I don't see how that phrase follows logically from the rest of your post. Edit - I reread your post and I think I understand. Sorry - I didn't get your point the first time. Are you saying that it's wrong to accuse somebody of misogyny just because they don't agree with one's assessment of what is or isn't feminism? I think that would depend on the specifics of what is being said.

To recap, I agree that any self-proclaimed anything is speaking only for themselves. For instance, I am a lesbian. When I express my opinion on what it's like to be a lesbian I'm speaking for myself. When I express my opinion about lesbian rights, I'm speaking for myself. I may express it in general terms and talk about how other people feel about lesbian rights, but at the end of the day my post is me expressing my opinion, and another lesbian is very likely to disagree with aspects of what I say.

I'm new to your group here, but I imagine that you don't all agree with one another on everything? One person's opinion about what constitutes men's issues is going to be a little different from somebody else's opinion, correct?

So yes, I agree with what you say here: "one DUer's definition of feminism, or what constitutes a feminist, is not necessarily the same as anothers..." What that has to do with hurling gender-based insults I don't know. But those are to be avoided, I agree.

By the way, I have two sons. I love them dearly. Maybe I should post this in an OP since I seem to be hanging around your group. I could introduce myself...