Let's talk about "Coercive Sex".

[Warren DeMontague]

13. additional clarification: yes, the point of block towers is to build and knock them down.

great fun, indeed, when you're 3 and shit if I don't still enjoy doing it from time to time.

(Better than what Grandpa did, before they buried him in the rocks. But I digress.)

The dubious anecdote was that the parents were in the preschool watching their kids build stuff (because, really, we don't get enough of it at home, right) and sweet sugar and spice (because you know, that's what...) was building an elaborate structure and snakes and tails and puppy dog tails (again) kept knocking it down.

In other words, being a preschool version of a giant ass. And so of course the parents (assuming this happened, in the way it's described) of the girl are right to ask the parents of the boy to get him to knock it off, leave her stuff alone.

But dubious anecdote comes in with all sorts of assumptions and assertions, like oh, ONLY boys knock down other peoples' stuff, or ONLY boys have parents who excuse it or laugh it off, or... whatever. And that leads to ......rape.

Which is just like 7 dimensions of totally fucking goofy. The parents were shitty parents because (if the story is true) they were laughing as their kid messed with another kid's stuff, and upset her. But to call it some red flag of spooky patriarchal programming; again, goofy.

To say it's all a miniature metaphor for rape?

Er,


And believe me, there are bratty-behaved preschool girls with oblivious parents, just like there are boys.

Here's the thread in question:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022901778#post42