In MineralMan's thread I also addressed the issue of "hate", from the other direction. You can talk to me there too if you like. 
I just have to go take some more codeine and put my foot up. (I tried the percocet yesterday, and I'm still trying to shake the fog out of my head; no more of that I think.) Surgery is next week!
I do think understanding motives is important. The motivation behind the formal anti-choice brigade, for instance, is misogyny, even though some individuals may have been persuaded that as good people, they have to be all worried about fetuses.
On the other hand, there are people who are pro-choice who are also anti-abortion. Their motivation for being pro-choice is sometimes (not always) the opposite of misogyny: sincerely caring about women and women's rights as full human beings.
I'm not sure how individuals (not members of the 1%, and so on) can be sexist without being misogynist. It's hard to advocate oppressive treatment of a group without either thinking that group is inferior or harbouring ill will toward them.
But we will speak more later!
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