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kdmorris

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22. Yeah, that whole "men co-opting ideas" thing

Fri Jun 29, 2012, 03:41 PM

Jun 2012

Has always set my blood to boil. For a while, I kind of felt like "why bother?" and then I got really mad and started being assertive with my ideas - at my last job, they all thought I was a "bitch"...code word for "doesn't allow men to co-opt her ideas".

My current job is a lot different. I'm still in Software Development, but my team is actually predominantly female. Everyone works together (well, there's always one or two jerks, but they don't go far) and respects each other. It has actually brought me out of my shell some to have people listen to me and my ideas and not co-opt them. The one man that did try to co-opt my ideas - well no one likes him anyway.

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What was your first "feminist moment"? [View all] obamanut2012 Jun 2012 OP

I think I was born with it. no_hypocrisy Jun 2012 #1

I believe women's colleges can be very beneficial to young women obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #3

I loved my townhouse! But I also loved my fabulous race car set. Squinch Jun 2012 #7

My townhouse was soon taken over by stuffed animal squatters obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #10

+1 Gormy Cuss Jun 2012 #16

Me too, or so much a part of my folks' approach, elleng Jun 2012 #27

That's very interesting obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #34

No, Columbia, SOUTH CAROLINA! elleng Jun 2012 #37

For real? obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #40

Yes, for real. elleng Jun 2012 #42

I became a lawyer too. Only profession that seems to suit me. no_hypocrisy Jun 2012 #48

Ditto, and very sorry to be retired. elleng Jun 2012 #50

See if you can't work for the public defender's office. no_hypocrisy Jun 2012 #55

That's good. elleng Jun 2012 #56

Being given equal access to athletic practice fields obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #2

Interesting question. Lindsay Jun 2012 #4

So did I, Lindsay! elleng Jun 2012 #29

1959 madamesilverspurs Jun 2012 #5

Two incidents. One in first grade. immoderate Jun 2012 #6

A course I took in sex-role stereotyping in education TrogL Jun 2012 #8

That sounds really interesting obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #9

When I got a Betsy Wetsy for Christmas instead of the gun and holster set I wanted. DURHAM D Jun 2012 #11

I hung out around guys half my life. Neoma Jun 2012 #12

In college, when I as a female was denied the same amount of food in the cafeteria that males FLyellowdog Jun 2012 #13

BRAVO! elleng Jun 2012 #31

A couple of early memories stand out from school, and one more recent revelation. yardwork Jun 2012 #14

Wow, I had three similar experiences Gormy Cuss Jun 2012 #17

So some of the men were deliberately stealing the women's ideas, right out in the open? yardwork Jun 2012 #23

Yup. It wasn't even subtle. Gormy Cuss Jun 2012 #44

Yeah, that whole "men co-opting ideas" thing kdmorris Jun 2012 #22

Probably when dad told me that college was useless for women Starry Messenger Jun 2012 #15

Seems kind of shallow. Neoma Jun 2012 #18

He got me good. Starry Messenger Jun 2012 #41

Some men just hate women being better at something than they are Whisp Jun 2012 #26

I had this fantasy that the art boys would be more egalitarian. Starry Messenger Jun 2012 #33

I don't think it was just one moment for me libodem Jun 2012 #19

When my 14 yr old youngest sister became pregnant, choices were not discussed, Zorra Jun 2012 #20

I'm so sorry that that happened to your sisters and you. That's sad. yardwork Jun 2012 #24

Thanks, yardwork. Zorra Jun 2012 #36

Common story unfortunately. Neoma Jun 2012 #43

When I was 9, I think, we when I really started kdmorris Jun 2012 #21

I grew up on a farm Whisp Jun 2012 #25

1972, when working the Chamber of Commerce... yellerpup Jun 2012 #28

One of my first jobs the dress code Whisp Jun 2012 #45

Triggers... yellerpup Jun 2012 #46

Ridiculous is the word. yellerpup Jul 2012 #60

1972! catrose Jun 2012 #52

I enjoyed reading your anecdotes of times past yellerpup Jul 2012 #57

Thanks much catrose Jul 2012 #61

I enjoy lavishing attention on the elders yellerpup Jul 2012 #63

WTF, Mom? catrose Jul 2012 #65

Poor thing, yellerpup Jul 2012 #66

I'm so sorry catrose Jul 2012 #67

I am thankful every day yellerpup Jul 2012 #68

That sounds exactly like my grandmother. You aren't my aunt by any chance are you? yardwork Jul 2012 #69

Could be, yardwork! yellerpup Jul 2012 #70

College, my senior year. 1968-69. The Velveteen Ocelot Jun 2012 #30

When I was in high school (1973) and applied for a kennel job at a local kestrel91316 Jun 2012 #32

I think it's very interesting how the vet field has shifted so much obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #35

My class (1982) was only the third to have more than the token 1 or 2 women for kicking around. kestrel91316 Jun 2012 #39

My friend and I wanted to take drafting in high school yellerpup Jun 2012 #47

Freshman year, I was 13 LadyHawkAZ Jun 2012 #38

I was very annoyed and went in to meet with my high school principal TBF Jun 2012 #49

When I saw my mother as a human being for the first time. Xipe Totec Jun 2012 #51

When my friends and I fought with the school board Frustratedlady Jun 2012 #53

Born in '47 MOMFUDSKI Jun 2012 #54

The Church Whisp Jul 2012 #58

I once tried to sneak in my Mark Twain book into church to read. Neoma Jul 2012 #59

I just want to say that I am really enjoying reading this thread. yardwork Jul 2012 #62

I think it's really interesting, too obamanut2012 Jul 2012 #64

This was a good OP. Thank you for posting! yardwork Jul 2012 #71

I honestly don't remember. I was raised Catholic by a single father, LeftyMom Jul 2012 #72