Bereavement

madaboutharry

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22. I don't know why people are so thoughtless.

Sun Aug 4, 2024, 09:19 PM

Aug 2024

I sometimes think a lot of people are afraid of their own feelings. Some are just plain old selfish.

You might find that a good place to talk with other people about your husband is a local bereavement group in your area. I don’t think it would be hard to find one. You will find yourself with others who will care how you’re doing and also meet new people and make new friends in real life. It’s just a suggestion.

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Wow....last entry was from 2013?. Or did I read that wrong..... [View all] a kennedy Aug 2024 OP

I'm very sorry for your loss. Ocelot II Aug 2024 #1

Oh my gosh! How could your family be so cold? I hope you are ok. Have you GPV Aug 2024 #2

Thank you.....they were all so supportive when he died..... a kennedy Aug 2024 #9

I've heard that is pretty common. They forget how much you are still hurting because GPV Aug 2024 #19

My cousin mentioned deRien Aug 2024 #33

Sadly, this does happen. Initial support dwindles. sprinkleeninow Aug 2024 #38

I'm so sorry. We are here for you. Nt spooky3 Aug 2024 #3

Thanks..... a kennedy Aug 2024 #11

How are you doing? spooky3 Aug 2024 #18

Oh my dear a kennedy . . . CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2024 #4

Thank you...... a kennedy Aug 2024 #13

My heart goes out to you. I hope you can lean on the members here. Do we have a bereavement group? LauraInLA Aug 2024 #5

Thank you, I might do that, thank you. a kennedy Aug 2024 #14

Sorry, everybody, it was brought to my attention that this is already in the bereavement group. LauraInLA Aug 2024 #17

I'm so sorry for your loss & that you're alone. CrispyQ Aug 2024 #6

My only sister out of six kids died of melanoma...... a kennedy Aug 2024 #16

How are you doing? Sanity Claws Aug 2024 #7

It was kinda sudden....he was in a memory care facility because he did try to kill a kennedy Aug 2024 #21

Seems like the 3 month mark is often when the grief really kicks in hard. Attilatheblond Aug 2024 #43

Oh dear Sanity Claws Aug 2024 #47

I'm so sorry. nt Phoenix61 Aug 2024 #8

Sorry what you are going through and for your loss. You may need to seek JohnSJ Aug 2024 #10

That's terrible,,,, KarenS Aug 2024 #12

I wouldn't be afraid to tell you family and friends what you need ❤️ MLAA Aug 2024 #15

In a bar.......and we hit it off right away.....but didn't get together again for a kennedy Aug 2024 #23

You really did begin a new life! MLAA Aug 2024 #37

Knowing how to talk a grieving friend can be confusing for many people. Kittycatkat Aug 2024 #20

I'm ok, and that's what I always say, I'm ok......and it is true I am ok. a kennedy Aug 2024 #24

I don't know why people are so thoughtless. madaboutharry Aug 2024 #22

Thanks......and I should find out about bereavement groups. a kennedy Aug 2024 #26

Was new in town when my spouse died, really didn't know anyone locally Attilatheblond Aug 2024 #45

My opinion of other humans is ebbing to a low tide XanaDUer2 Aug 2024 #49

I found a bereavement group through the local hospice MyMission Aug 2024 #25

Thank you...... a kennedy Aug 2024 #27

I'm not an expert on anything..this sounds to me like your friends don't talk to you about how you feel Deuxcents Aug 2024 #35

i am in Madison if you need a hand Tetrachloride Aug 2024 #28

I'm so sorry Tesha Aug 2024 #29

I'm so sorry for your loss essaynnc Aug 2024 #30

I'm Sorry for Your Loss. Old Curler Aug 2024 #31

OMGOSH Old Curler.....you are so new here... a kennedy Aug 2024 #32

I'm very sorry for your loss, life will get back to a new normal someday KS Toronado Aug 2024 #34

I know. My husband died 20 months ago Richluu Aug 2024 #36

As a fellow member of the Bereaved; Annie Moosee Aug 2024 #39

I'm very sorry. I had a similar experience ... relayerbob Aug 2024 #40

So sorry for your loss Nululu Aug 2024 #41

I did not know, but am very sorry for your loss. It is horrible to lose a spouse. PatrickforB Aug 2024 #42

The first few months are the worst Warpy Aug 2024 #44

I'm so sorry for your loss. HeartsCanHope Aug 2024 #46

Awwww I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Aug 2024 #48