Wow....last entry was from 2013?. Or did I read that wrong.....

[Attilatheblond]

45. Was new in town when my spouse died, really didn't know anyone locally

But I knew most UU congregations were not patriarchal or strictly Christian, which I have issues with. So I went. Small congregation and casual. They were fine with me just sitting on the floor in back, quietly sobbing, for weeks. When they sensed I was more comfortable, some started talking to me, inviting me to sit with them during the 'coffee and visit' time in the community room after service. Mostly an older group, and many widowed. They understood and let me take the time I needed to feel OK just visiting.

It's weird, but just being allowed to sit in that corner and cry quietly but in the presence of others as they did their service routine, which included a time set aside for members to share any personal problems or good news, well, it really helped.

Reach out. It makes a difference.

Be well. Take care. Eat good food. Wear your husband's shirts around the house for a while. It helps. It's OK to do what helps.