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samnsara

(18,282 posts)
27. im alone...
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 11:29 AM
Apr 2017

Last edited Mon Apr 10, 2017, 02:47 PM - Edit history (1)

..and I live 75 miles away so when I come to do a safety check or help with housework I have to leave hubby and the dogs for days at a time.. every week. Once I walked in for a 2 day stay and was here for 5 weeks.

One sis who is a nurse needed extensive (transplant) surgery and is out of the picture....the other sis has a full time job and shes 45 min away so she can come one day on weekends or after she gets off work at 6 pm...way too late to be of any help, more of a hindrance. Just trying to get the parental units to move closer to me but my 92 yr old dad is not on board fully yet...has some dementia and keeps forgetting or is totally against it. Once we get them relocated they will be in a town with all the kids and grand kids...they are all willing to pitch in at that point.

I've got distant support. politicat Jun 2014 #1
I'm glad your situation is "reasonably manageable." Habibi Jun 2014 #2
Blog xecaps Oct 2014 #20
Are you saying that your state somehow pays for assisted living? I don't know what you mean pnwmom Oct 2014 #22
No, the state doesn't pay. We do. Her former state regs put her in LTC. politicat Oct 2014 #24
pretty much alone here Alameda Jun 2014 #3
Do you have any supportive resources? Habibi Jun 2014 #4
Resources for respite: politicat Jun 2014 #5
I think that "first rule of caregiving" is awesome and yet Habibi Jun 2014 #6
What xecaps Oct 2014 #23
Am I sure about what? Habibi Oct 2014 #25
Mostly alone alcina Jul 2014 #7
Vent away! and welcome! Habibi Jul 2014 #8
Thank you, Habibi alcina Jul 2014 #9
Isn't it, though? Habibi Jul 2014 #10
wow xecaps Oct 2014 #21
You hit a sore spot with that -- Hell Hath No Fury Aug 2014 #11
Ugh, I'm sorry for your situation. Habibi Aug 2014 #12
Thanks for the support -- Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #13
Venting is good! Habibi Oct 2014 #15
I live with my grandson and his family. I also get help with some of my care. I get rides to health jwirr Oct 2014 #14
Very important to accept help Habibi Oct 2014 #16
I ended up placing her in a foster care home which I was fortunate enough to have trained myself. jwirr Oct 2014 #17
In so many cases Iwillnevergiveup Oct 2014 #18
I *do* have an Aunt nearby Aerows Oct 2014 #26
Going alone Aerows Oct 2014 #19
im alone... samnsara Apr 2017 #27
My brother lives in town, and recently retired, but... LudwigPastorius Mar 2022 #28
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