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edisdead

(3,359 posts)
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:09 PM Nov 2024

I want my life back

I changed in 2016.

I have always been politically motivated and active. I have always been enthusiastic about politics and have been involved. I mean the Bush W years were hell. But these last 9 years or so I have not been the happy person I should have been. My daughter is 17, my son is 12 and the last 8-9 years has made me a person that I should not have been. I should have been less stressed. Less grumpy. I should have been less terrified for the future of my kids. And in turn they should not have had to witnessed me like this.

This has to end. It has to end this cycle. I need to heal and revert back to something close to what I was before the orange turd took over.

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I want my life back (Original Post) edisdead Nov 2024 OP
We have been under assault for all those years radical noodle Nov 2024 #1
He is like Freddie Krueger. Sky Jewels Nov 2024 #3
Perfect comparison... radical noodle Nov 2024 #5
I say that all the time Deuxcents Nov 2024 #17
Exactly! edisdead Nov 2024 #10
Not just Trump, but Trump-ISM needs to be kicked to the curb. Beartracks Nov 2024 #39
I think many Republicans radical noodle Nov 2024 #47
I don't think the GOP recovers. Conservatives need a new party. Joinfortmill Nov 2024 #62
I think so, too. The GOP is no longer conservative. Beartracks Nov 2024 #89
He stirred the pot since 2011 UpInArms Nov 2024 #64
I read about how Trump is losing sleep over polls Sky Jewels Nov 2024 #2
Oh man is that so spot on. edisdead Nov 2024 #11
Same! Sky Jewels Nov 2024 #16
Imho Mr. Trump is miserable now Tweedy Nov 2024 #42
100% Michelle2191 Nov 2024 #68
Yes you are spot on! bluestarone Nov 2024 #77
America needs to put Trump into the history book of shame where he belongs Skittles Nov 2024 #4
Well said. c-rational Nov 2024 #6
It's sad how many trillions of collective hours have been wasted worrying about this idiot. PeaceWave Nov 2024 #7
Right! edisdead Nov 2024 #13
It's mental bdamomma Nov 2024 #8
Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2024 #9
Are you seriously telling OP how to parent his or her kids? PeaceWave Nov 2024 #12
Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2024 #55
So let me get this straight... GiqueCee Nov 2024 #57
Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2024 #58
If it feels like you've been at war, you're right. usonian Nov 2024 #14
I think you may have a very good night--- on Tuesday and thereafter! Jack Valentino Nov 2024 #15
Thanks Jack edisdead Nov 2024 #18
Congrats on your 1,000 milestone posts. I'm hoping for a very good election week, too Deuxcents Nov 2024 #19
Pretty much how i feel. barbtries Nov 2024 #20
With the surge in early voting & #s looking good for Kamala i'm confident onetexan Nov 2024 #59
And a painful paradox is that for all our anguish, others delight in him! slumcamper Nov 2024 #21
oh yes and they are everywhere. edisdead Nov 2024 #24
Oh, gods...yes! ChazInAz Nov 2024 #61
Another take. Maybe, Maybe it was right that your son and Daughter witnessed you like that. Eko Nov 2024 #22
Well yes in some ways but my patience hasn't always been great edisdead Nov 2024 #25
Keep on keeponing buddy. Eko Nov 2024 #30
I'm sorry ibegurpard Nov 2024 #23
Agreed but maybe we get a moment of rest. edisdead Nov 2024 #26
Yeah ibegurpard Nov 2024 #28
I have felt that way since 2000. LisaM Nov 2024 #27
So well said! Blue_Roses Nov 2024 #34
Oh, you are SO not alone. slightlv Nov 2024 #29
Woo boy yeah it is enough to drive one mad edisdead Nov 2024 #31
This message was self-deleted by its author edisdead Nov 2024 #32
You're not alone. Then pile on the pandemic... notroot Nov 2024 #33
Yes! And then the pandemic!! Blue_Roses Nov 2024 #36
Yeah I lived in Miami in 2016. Voted Hillary (I'm with her) then.... notroot Nov 2024 #40
Im in a red one too! Blue_Roses Nov 2024 #43
Please hang in there!! AverageOldGuy Nov 2024 #35
This message was self-deleted by its author ArkansasDemocrat1 Nov 2024 #96
Amen, well said fantase56 Nov 2024 #37
Last thoughts. DelMar dem Nov 2024 #38
I can soooo relate to your feelings Blue_Roses Nov 2024 #41
Yes! The weight on our shoulders edisdead Nov 2024 #74
im just worn out . AllaN01Bear Nov 2024 #44
I agree and can sympathize with your position. Texasgal Nov 2024 #45
Yes, yes, and yes. progressoid Nov 2024 #46
When George W was elected I was so depressed that MadameButterfly Nov 2024 #48
Ditto! Hell Yes! Bingo! BigmanPigman Nov 2024 #49
Me too! edisdead Nov 2024 #75
I used to swear a lot all my life BigmanPigman Nov 2024 #100
We're all suffering from Perpetual Trump Stress Disorder. Bumbles Nov 2024 #50
Trump in prison would make me happy. Emile Nov 2024 #51
I don't think I can get it back. lrymcqueen Nov 2024 #52
Exactly why I will never forgive any magat HAB911 Nov 2024 #53
That resonates. Class action suit? Seriously. Pain and suffering Evolve Dammit Nov 2024 #54
I am weary of all the chaos. gademocrat7 Nov 2024 #56
And there needs to be consequences.. He can't just slide by and drift into oblivion. Joinfortmill Nov 2024 #60
Big time! Simeon Salus Nov 2024 #63
Therapy can help you let go of "should" and live with what is. WhiskeyGrinder Nov 2024 #65
yea, I have been to a few different ones edisdead Nov 2024 #102
Exactly my story. ecstatic Nov 2024 #66
I have always said ... Cherrycheeks Nov 2024 #67
Prison is coming... RainCaster Nov 2024 #69
I hope his name is made equivalent to Hitler IzzaNuDay Nov 2024 #70
The biggest problem your kids will face is catastrophic climate change Kaleva Nov 2024 #71
Yes, but Elessar Zappa Nov 2024 #94
This message was self-deleted by its author ArkansasDemocrat1 Nov 2024 #97
It's still worth it. Elessar Zappa Nov 2024 #101
Amen. I feel the same way. I'm retired, and the best years of my retirement have been stolen . . . hawkeye21 Nov 2024 #72
Bruhhh .. Dem4life1234 Nov 2024 #73
right! edisdead Nov 2024 #103
I don't even remember what we talked about before Trump. Qutzupalotl Nov 2024 #76
Welcome to having a personal stake in the election results. Oneironaut Nov 2024 #78
I gave up news channels and any social media. KentuckyWoman Nov 2024 #79
Start your comeback with... SuzannaD Nov 2024 #80
I want my life back, too. Mr.Bill Nov 2024 #81
we all do 4catsmom Nov 2024 #82
Keep the hope LilElf70 Nov 2024 #83
You jist HAVE to be right. edisdead Nov 2024 #104
When this is over what are the so-called news shows going to fill their time with. republianmushroom Nov 2024 #84
Wow. You and me both! dchill Nov 2024 #85
I believe the worm has turned nikatnyte Nov 2024 #86
My life, too, was upended when TSF was installed. My physical condition has changed drastically in this time. Texin Nov 2024 #87
Great post! Ishoutandscream2 Nov 2024 #88
Yes, I want politics to be about real things alarimer Nov 2024 #90
I totally agree. Thank goodness our kids are grown and on their own. I want to go back a little further. Back to life... usaf-vet Nov 2024 #91
Stephen Colbert helped me laugh again during the Bush years... Dem4life1970 Nov 2024 #92
the whole country has DTSD The Wizard Nov 2024 #93
50 years from now, people will watch his performances Warpy Nov 2024 #95
I don't blame you. BlueKota Nov 2024 #98
I do too! BBbats Nov 2024 #99

radical noodle

(9,807 posts)
1. We have been under assault for all those years
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:13 PM
Nov 2024

It's difficult not to be affected. Even with Biden in office, trump was there stirring the pot constantly. I hope for all of us that he's nearing the end of the line and we can once again breathe.

Sky Jewels

(9,002 posts)
3. He is like Freddie Krueger.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:15 PM
Nov 2024

He invades our dreams and he keeps coming back to inflict more horror.

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
10. Exactly!
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:33 PM
Nov 2024

It has been just non-stop annoyance for 9 years. Just a constant feeling of being pushed to the limit of what you can take. It just has to end. it is so completely grating on ones nerves.

Beartracks

(13,835 posts)
39. Not just Trump, but Trump-ISM needs to be kicked to the curb.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:59 PM
Nov 2024

However, Trumpism is so widely Venn-diagrammed with what it means to be a Republican anymore, I don't know how the GOP will manage to purge itself, or if it can.

But all Americans of good conscience and patriotism can keep voting down rightwing extremists and fascists at every opportunity, again and again, as long as is necessary.

==================

radical noodle

(9,807 posts)
47. I think many Republicans
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 01:33 AM
Nov 2024

have wanted something like trumpism for a long time. The cruelty is a feature for them rather than a disadvantage. Too many of those in office have been willing to go along with it and after so many years, I think it will be difficult to pull back from this. Nicki Haley was a good example. She seemed normal compared to trump but if we look closely, we'll see that she isn't far from him now in what she says she believes... possibly because she knows what the base wants. She just puts a more normal face on it.

We may be rid of trump soon, but I worry we will still be plagued with this craziness for a long time to come.

Sky Jewels

(9,002 posts)
2. I read about how Trump is losing sleep over polls
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:14 PM
Nov 2024

in the past few days. GOOD!!! That motherfucker has robbed me of literally hundreds and hundreds of hours of sleep over eight years. He has destroyed American life in so many ways. I want him to pay a very, very heavy price for what he has done to our country.

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
11. Oh man is that so spot on.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:35 PM
Nov 2024

I hope that in some way what he has been do I g to Americans has also had a feedback loop lingo his soul that has terrorized him as well and I hope that his body just cannot take it anymore.

I know my psyche cannot take much more of him.

Tweedy

(1,284 posts)
42. Imho Mr. Trump is miserable now
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 12:09 AM
Nov 2024

Will be miserable tomorrow and has been miserable for as long as he can remember.

We need to not allow his misery to infect us.

bluestarone

(19,373 posts)
77. Yes you are spot on!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:28 AM
Nov 2024

HE cost this country greatly! Millions of lives lost needlessly. Millions of families torn apart. Ukraine on the chopping block. THIS MAN needs to suffer, and suffer badly!!

Skittles

(163,132 posts)
4. America needs to put Trump into the history book of shame where he belongs
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:17 PM
Nov 2024

gawd I am so fucking SICK OF HIM

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
13. Right!
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:36 PM
Nov 2024

The cost of that loss of productivity and happiness and what could have been accomplished is staggering.

bdamomma

(67,853 posts)
8. It's mental
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:32 PM
Nov 2024

anguish, this is what authoritarians do. They wear down the people mentally. Look at the people in Russia or anywhere else where they have oppressive regimes. And social media does not help either with misinformation or disinformation.

I think there are many of us who want this felon TSF to go away.

Response to edisdead (Original post)

Response to PeaceWave (Reply #12)

GiqueCee

(2,067 posts)
57. So let me get this straight...
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 08:40 AM
Nov 2024

... it sounds like you're belittling the OP for their reactions to long-term influences over which they have no control. Which would suggest that you are inured and dismissive to what others find frustrating, which, in turn suggests a certain lack of empathy on your part.

You might want to work on that.

Response to GiqueCee (Reply #57)

usonian

(16,894 posts)
14. If it feels like you've been at war, you're right.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:38 PM
Nov 2024

Stick with all of us fighting against fascism. You're not alone. I have never seen such a unified and dedicated group as ours.

Seeing AOC and Bernie fighting for Kamala, and GOP drifting over to combat Mousseolini gives me great hope. Unlike Spain and Italy and Germany, we can stop this poison in its tracks, or lifts, as the case may be.

He is ready for the undertaker. No sex (except with his "Mike" ), no golf ....

Come to think of it, the Secret Service may have killed him with kindness.

Poetic justice.

Jack Valentino

(1,753 posts)
15. I think you may have a very good night--- on Tuesday and thereafter!
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:39 PM
Nov 2024

Just don't get too pissed off when Trump prematurely claims victory--- just expect it.

It will be much less credibly accepted this time, than it was last time....

"There he goes again.... Yeah, that's Trump-- but he said the same thing last time he lost. Somebody, take grampa to bed."

barbtries

(30,282 posts)
20. Pretty much how i feel.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 10:55 PM
Nov 2024

the stress is getting to all of us. I'll never forgive him, republicans, and the media for the past 9 years of all of our lives.

I'm working from early morning to late night on Election Day. Hopefully the activity will help me be less stressed. but i don't really know if it will or not. It's all consuming and sucks utterly.

onetexan

(13,913 posts)
59. With the surge in early voting & #s looking good for Kamala i'm confident
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:03 AM
Nov 2024

Harris Walz will not only win, but sweep all 7 swing states & maybe a surprise or 2. 🙏🌊🇺🇸🌊🇺🇸🌞🇺🇸

slumcamper

(1,775 posts)
21. And a painful paradox is that for all our anguish, others delight in him!
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:01 PM
Nov 2024

As we have endured a long, nightmarish PTSD, they have been giddy with jubilation and elation at the hate and craziness this monster unleashes on this country. The experience and emotional contrast cannot be any starker.

His passing will not heal me. I do not know how I can forgive people who hated me and my friends so much that they flew the flags, wore the caps, and proudly placed huge signs in their yards. These people would be perfectly fine with our incarceration, execution, or any "retribution." They cheered this beast, fed on the red meat and bloodlust, and celebrated him as a messiah.

Nope. They are permanently LOWLIFES to my heart and in my mind. Knowing how much they hate people like us, I don't think I'll ever get over it. I hope there are better, more forgiving people than I because I and the country will need their help.

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
24. oh yes and they are everywhere.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:11 PM
Nov 2024

I cannot read a woodworking group without it turning into an anti-qoke Kamala cackling hate fest. It is everywhere. the toxic masculinity and the hate for other America s is just so damned ubiquitous is wears you thin.

ChazInAz

(2,874 posts)
61. Oh, gods...yes!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:17 AM
Nov 2024

One of my hobbies is building functional, antique-style blackpowder firearms: flintlock, wheel locks, etc.
I dropped out of every website devoted to the craft.

Eko

(9,034 posts)
22. Another take. Maybe, Maybe it was right that your son and Daughter witnessed you like that.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:02 PM
Nov 2024

Maybe it is right for the people in our lives to see that good people react to bad things. Of course we could all do better in any situation. But to react to bad things is a teaching moment in itself to those around us. The opposite, not being stressed out about it or even acting happy can give the perception that it was not that big of a deal. Getting upset around those you care about shows them what you care about, what is important to you and hopefully to them. On the flipside, I learned a long time ago that letting someones actions dictate your actions or demeanor lets them win. In doing so they are controlling you. Its not something I can always resist, but knowing that I mostly do resist. If dump wins Tuesday, and I despise even typing that, I will still find the things that make me and those around me happy and I wont get mad or upset. I will just resist.

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
25. Well yes in some ways but my patience hasn't always been great
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:16 PM
Nov 2024

I am a very loving father and they know I will give them my all for everything but in stressing about how to prepare them to live in a Trump world and how to not lose sight of what is important and to be true to themselves I have at times not been able to deal with the toll of that.

They do understand and we talk about it a d everything but it just shouldn’t have had to be like this. There is just SOOOO much hate and ugliness that I didn’t know existed and was sooo naive to.

But you are right in that it is a moment to teach and so that they do not grow up with that naivite. The trick will be to not let them become jaded to the good ess of most people.

ibegurpard

(17,031 posts)
23. I'm sorry
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:08 PM
Nov 2024

I think Harris is going to win but we're not going to return to normal. Too many Republicans are way too far gone.
We're going to have to figure out ways of clawing back their messaging and propaganda advantage.
In my view we are looking at unending struggles for a generation at least.

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
26. Agreed but maybe we get a moment of rest.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:18 PM
Nov 2024

I do know that the federalist society, opus dei, moms for liberty, the heritage and nevermind that entire nations will never stop coming at us and try to destroy our way of life. But Trump has put it all insteroids to the point it is lunacy.

ibegurpard

(17,031 posts)
28. Yeah
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:22 PM
Nov 2024

I'm hopeful there's no one else with his particular repugnant negative charisma. There are plenty of fascists in waiting hoping to inherit his mantle though.

LisaM

(29,090 posts)
27. I have felt that way since 2000.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:19 PM
Nov 2024

I became pretty bitter - not just at the SCOTUS working for their own self interest, but at my friends who saw no harm in voting for Nader (remember the jerks who traded votes like they were Halloween candy?), and at the way the media and some fellow Democrats let Al Gore down. Al Gore was a stellar candidate but all we heard was "fuzzy math" "lock box" "invented the Internet" and so an, ad nauseum, ad infinitum. "Al Gore ran a bad campaign". "Al Gore isn't exciting".

There is a long line of people who owe Al Gore and the rest of us an apology. 2016 wouldn't have happened without 2000.

Blue_Roses

(13,731 posts)
34. So well said!
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:50 PM
Nov 2024

I found DU not too long after the Gore/Bush fiasco and I'm so thankful I did. That took alot out of us. I totally understand feeling the bitter part. It's like one ( me especially) looks at people differently, untrusting, for awhile and just when you feel like everything is gonna be okay, Trump raises his narcissistic head.

slightlv

(5,254 posts)
29. Oh, you are SO not alone.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:24 PM
Nov 2024

I've said for years each of us should be compensated for ongoing PTSD from the horrors of this man and his clap trap. My night terrors are enough some times to wake up the whole house, and each of those have trump in my face in one way or another.

I'm not the same person I was, either. I had just retired when T came into the office. Completely put me off track for gearing up for this major life change... one that I've not been able to get back straight on the track, yet. And now DH is losing memory and doing senior things at a much faster pace than I am, and I think back to this whole decade I could have had with him functioning so much better... instead, we were both yelling and worrying T and the R's were going to cut SS or Medicare, or start WWIII. I've gotten up in a bad mood because of dreams and taken it out on DH first thing in the morning, only to go back to him minutes later apologizing like crazy. I can forgive a lot of people for a lot of things, but I'll never forgive this senile billionaire for stealing a decade's worth of good years. I want to be able to be the calm, peaceful person I was when I handed in my retirement notice. I want to share in the lives around my house -- my DH, my grandson, and my animals, and not feel on edge, nervous, and ready to fly off the handle at a moment's notice. I want to be able to draw on my patience again to get a few projects started... and finished! And may all that T has stripped from us pile up on him in his remaining years. His family should have set him outside public life years ago, if there were any familial bonds in that family. After a couple of years with us, we got Mom to a memory care home where there were people skilled at what she needed. And she was acting exactly like T. The more I saw of T in the vid clips, the more I saw the decompensation in my Mom. His kids must only be worried about his money... because to allow him to go on stage and make such a fool of himself sure doesn't speak of love.

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
31. Woo boy yeah it is enough to drive one mad
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:39 PM
Nov 2024

Hopefully we all get a moment of serenity soon!

May Tuesday bring us joy!

Response to slightlv (Reply #29)

 

notroot

(267 posts)
33. You're not alone. Then pile on the pandemic...
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:49 PM
Nov 2024

I'm a more serious person, now. More intent, and less willing to put up with bullshit.

Blue_Roses

(13,731 posts)
36. Yes! And then the pandemic!!
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:55 PM
Nov 2024

I was going through a divorce and had lost my job due to the pandemic! It's been a rough few years!

 

notroot

(267 posts)
40. Yeah I lived in Miami in 2016. Voted Hillary (I'm with her) then....
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:59 PM
Nov 2024

Endured for a few more years then moved back home to be closer to my elderly parents. Now I'm in an even redder state.

Blue_Roses

(13,731 posts)
43. Im in a red one too!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 12:12 AM
Nov 2024

Texas. I'm looking to move out of this state. I just can't take it anymore.

AverageOldGuy

(2,513 posts)
35. Please hang in there!!
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:54 PM
Nov 2024

Trump will lose on Tuesday.

He and the assholes who support him will raise almighty Hell, filing suits, shrieking about stolen election. The courts will tell him to go fuck himself.

The next weeks up until Jan 20 will be very, very rough -- please hang in there.

We will win, Trump will fade into well-deserved oblivion.

The MAGAts will find another hero but none with the following of Trump. The Republican Party will engage in a decade of soul-searching and purges.

Response to AverageOldGuy (Reply #35)

DelMar dem

(54 posts)
38. Last thoughts.
Sat Nov 2, 2024, 11:59 PM
Nov 2024

A dear friend of mine passed away from cancer in 2017. During our last conversation two days before her death, she said, "I can't believe I'm going to die while Donald Trump is still president." That memory has haunted me ever since.

We must somehow get past this nightmare. I'm so glad that Joe Biden is in charge right now.

Blue_Roses

(13,731 posts)
41. I can soooo relate to your feelings
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 12:09 AM
Nov 2024

It's like a huge weight laying on our shoulders that won't get off. I already have arthritis in them and I feel like I stay tensed up-- making them hurt like hell!! It just seems like there is never any peace--emotionally, physically, and on and on...I'm like you! I just want peace for awhile.

When Obama was elected, I finally felt some peace, after going through the Bush years. But, that was short-lived. And when Biden was elected I tried to feel it, but there has been the cloud of negativity hanging over us that gets worse each day. It makes me irritable and I don't like how I am alot of times. Going through a divorce during this time did not help either.

So I'm right there with you and it looks like so many of us are feeling the same way. This is no way to live! Always wondering what shoe is going to drop next!! We will get through this and I am feeling hopeful about Tuesday!



edisdead

(3,359 posts)
74. Yes! The weight on our shoulders
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:08 AM
Nov 2024

The presence of hate on display everywhere, creeping into every facet of life. Constant reminders of it is just suffocating.

We need this. We need a breath of fresh air.

Texasgal

(17,211 posts)
45. I agree and can sympathize with your position.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 12:38 AM
Nov 2024

I too am experiencing political malaise. I want this to be over. I am tired of fighting, tired of being worried and just PLAIN tired of it all.

I do not have children, but I have a family with young children, and I am terrified for their futures. I'm in close to retirement and worried about my social security, health and a host of other issues.

I can completely understand.

MadameButterfly

(2,736 posts)
48. When George W was elected I was so depressed that
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 01:36 AM
Nov 2024

I couldn't watch the news for 8 years. But I knew those 8 years would be over some day.
With Trump it was different. I was obsessed. My husband and I were sure he wouldn't last one year. We watched the news constantly, sure each day would bring his downfall. We didn't think the country could survive 4 years. But forever was not on the table then.

We never understood how our daughter could be uninterested in politics, growing up with us, but the OP may have explained it. From the age of 12, Trump has defined politics for her. She can't remember a healthy debate. This battle against evil is all she has known. At age 2 she told a babysitter "I hate George Bush." Clearly she listened to us then, but inspiration was wanting.

I was raised in the 60s, and we were going to end prejudice and wage world peace. The world was going to change because of us. We marched about it. We sang about it. We didn't imagine we could fail. We didn't understand that it wasn't evolution or enlightenment, but a circle that comes back around, that human nature doesn't change and even a Hitler could rise again.

BigmanPigman

(52,759 posts)
49. Ditto! Hell Yes! Bingo!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 04:36 AM
Nov 2024

I have aged about 25 years in only 8 years. The fucking moron is the direct reason why my mind and body have suffered and continues to suffer...emotionally, physically and mentally. I even stopped watching the news in July and have avoided politics for a while but my mind is fully aware of the reality of the situation and I keep dropping weight.

I am down to 83 pounds from tRump stress. My doctor (a Dem) understands completely. I told him I'll be about 26 pounds by the time the inauguration takes place.

edisdead

(3,359 posts)
75. Me too!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:13 AM
Nov 2024

I am below my high school weight and I am 49. yes old. And no that isn’t a good thing. I am also type II diabetic.

it has just wreaked havoc on me and my personality. Not like I am a stark raving maniac but more like ismt has just turned me to something that I shouldn’t have had to be.

Heck I can see it right here in my post replies sometimes.

BigmanPigman

(52,759 posts)
100. I used to swear a lot all my life
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:58 PM
Nov 2024

but since 2016 I'd estimate that my use of profanity has increased about 75%. I have to make sure my very loud rants don't bother my neighbors and often close my windows until my rant is finished. My rants are a lot worse, too. The other night I was thinking about it and I have decided that swearing has been very good for me, it releases stress very well in the short term. What I really need is a Xanax the size of a football every, single day. I doubt my primary care doctor would do it but maybe when he sees my weight loss he'll feel sorry for me prescribe some.

Bumbles

(356 posts)
50. We're all suffering from Perpetual Trump Stress Disorder.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 07:31 AM
Nov 2024

Kamala and Tim are the cure. The fever will break. We'll be fine.

lrymcqueen

(36 posts)
52. I don't think I can get it back.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 07:37 AM
Nov 2024

There was a lot going on in my life starting in 2014 and most of it was not good. Then the campaign started in 2015 and it went downhill fast from there. I never could have imagined Trump winning in 2016 and from there it has been a nightmare. The worst part for me is that with every sorry assed thing the bastard did and every sorry thing we saw and found out about him did not sway a lot of people I thought I knew to turn away from him and the Republican Party that completely embraced him and fell in behind him. The family separations were the breaking point for me. June 16, 2018 was the day I had had enough. Thats the day I quit agreeing to disagree. I think it was Helsinki that did me in with anyone who supported him after that.
I found out that most of my friends, former co-workers, and family were not the people I had thought all my life that they were. I had always imagined if the Republican Party went full fascist that being the decent humans I thought they were would kick in and they would abandon the party. I have always been liberal and kind of the wild card among all of the afore mentioned other than my Mother and Father and my girl but I have been really disgusted now for the last almost 9 years.
I am in my late fifties now and I have resigned myself to the reality that the rest of my life will be different than my life prior to 2016. I am optimistic for Tuesday. I know there is more of me than them and we will as a country prevail Tuesday but that will not change the reality of the people I know and the place where I live. I plan to do something about the latter in the future at some time, but the die has been cast, my life as I thought it was prior to 2016 will never be the same.

gademocrat7

(11,385 posts)
56. I am weary of all the chaos.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 08:22 AM
Nov 2024

He should be in prison for his assault on democracy and the rule of law. His time in office was a disgrace. He is an unrepentant, evil man.

Simeon Salus

(1,444 posts)
63. Big time!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:35 AM
Nov 2024

It's time to rethink this entire "conspicuous consumption" society.

Privilege does not equal Authority.

ecstatic

(34,703 posts)
66. Exactly my story.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:56 AM
Nov 2024

And you know what? It's not really easy to talk about because, at least for me, I'm a little embarrassed that I have been so negatively affected. But it is what it is.

During tRump's disastrous presidency, I truly felt like there was no way to escape him. I was not able to tune out because when I did, I would still get texts and messages and calls from friends and family asking if I saw what tRump did or said.

I was reduced to the point of hoping he would die from covid or something. Literally praying for his demise. And when he finally lost the election, I felt peace, but even that was taken away from us on January 6th.

Since then, I've been frustrated by the lack of justice with regard to trump. I know in my soul that a democrat, woman and/or black person would already be in jail right now had s/he attempted to overthrow our government, and rightfully effing so. Locked up with no bail. But tRump gets the chance to re-enter the White House and erase all of his charges. It's infuriating! A huge slap in the face. But it's also a terrifying thought: trump with no guardrails.

Cherrycheeks

(230 posts)
67. I have always said ...
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:57 AM
Nov 2024

That Trump reminds me of the petty irritating villain in the Incredibles movie.

I have always felt that we were in Gotham city and being pestered for yrs with all of the villains who were trying to take over the city.

Roger Stone as the Joker,Bannon and the rest all intent on destroying everything good in society.

IzzaNuDay

(917 posts)
70. I hope his name is made equivalent to Hitler
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 10:20 AM
Nov 2024

and relegated to the history dustbin.

all I can say the last 9 years have been the most anxiety wrought for me. I don’t expect it to end if he loses.

But i hope historians frame this period in perspective.

And to go off on a tangent: remember how DEI is being dismantled across the country? At the same time, a narcissistic incompetent white man is being lauded as presidential material.

Kaleva

(39,116 posts)
71. The biggest problem your kids will face is catastrophic climate change
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 10:28 AM
Nov 2024

Your comment:

" I should have been less terrified for the future of my kids. "

This isn't going to change regardless of who wins.

Elessar Zappa

(16,318 posts)
94. Yes, but
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 05:49 PM
Nov 2024

we can’t address it or try to adapt while Republicans are in office, denying it.

Response to Elessar Zappa (Reply #94)

hawkeye21

(313 posts)
72. Amen. I feel the same way. I'm retired, and the best years of my retirement have been stolen . . .
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 10:41 AM
Nov 2024

Along with classified documents. I've always been amazed at the influence ONE person can have on the entire world--Mussolini, Hitler, Mao, Lady Mao (who seldom gets the credit she deserves for how totally treacherous she was) . . .

How can ONE mortal human create such chaos for millions, billions of people? And yet we've been forced to live through that hell for nearly ten years because of one of the worst humans ever invented. May he and his MAGA minions rot in hell. And may decent people everywhere get their lives back beginning early on Tuesday evening.

Qutzupalotl

(15,317 posts)
76. I don't even remember what we talked about before Trump.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:16 AM
Nov 2024

I seem to recall having hobbies and reading for pleasure instead of doomscrolling. Even on DU, he monopolizes the conversation because of the dire nature of his threat.

I look forward to building a world without his noxious presence.

Oneironaut

(5,947 posts)
78. Welcome to having a personal stake in the election results.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:31 AM
Nov 2024

I might fucking die next year if Trump wins and things get extreme. I haven’t been able to relax for 10 years. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to.

KentuckyWoman

(6,951 posts)
79. I gave up news channels and any social media.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:42 AM
Nov 2024

There are better ways to be aware of what is happening on the planet than to get sucked in to the circus. It was HARD at first, but basically I made myself "turn that shit off". It really has helped.

The one thing I hope when this is over is that DU General Discussion gets back to the kind of information sharing and deep discussions we used to have. Yes it is still here, but now I have to look for it a little harder in between the twitter reposts. That's the kind of social media that an actually make a difference.

My very humble opinion only...

SuzannaD

(10 posts)
80. Start your comeback with...
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:52 AM
Nov 2024

Watch the DNC convention (every bit was good in some way). Watch Kamala and Tim at their rallies. Watch the Obamas (love you Michelle) take the obnoxious orange one apart and grind him into dust. Think of being able to vote for the first woman President in our history.

All of this is hopeful, uplifting and the best confidence builder ever. Mango Mussolini will be gone from our lives soon and his cult with him.

Yeah, I know, there will be a hangover after the fact, but this one will be easily flushed down the toilet of history.

Be joyful, lock arms and build community with everyone who will be rejoicing that the sane voices have prevailed. That's how to get your life back.

Mr.Bill

(24,906 posts)
81. I want my life back, too.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 12:16 PM
Nov 2024

I'm probably older than you, but I look forward to coming here and clicking on the pet, lounge and cooking subforums.

LilElf70

(803 posts)
83. Keep the hope
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 12:49 PM
Nov 2024

3 more days and it will be he beginning of the end for the narcissistic felon and con man. By Friday, we should have a real good idea who won. At that point, prosecutors will pounce and put his ass in jail.

It's over...... Count on it. I am.

republianmushroom

(19,315 posts)
84. When this is over what are the so-called news shows going to fill their time with.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 01:07 PM
Nov 2024

There is going to be one hell of a void.

dchill

(41,820 posts)
85. Wow. You and me both!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 01:07 PM
Nov 2024

But Hope is a very, very tough nut to crack. Trump et al have been beating, slashing and shooting at it for over eight years, now, and yet it lives on, breathing strong. And it will continue to do so.

nikatnyte

(330 posts)
86. I believe the worm has turned
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 01:32 PM
Nov 2024

I've been freaking out for eight years as Trump has dodged justice time and time again and gotten away with the most horrible crap.

But I think that's about to end. He's visibly losing control before our eyes, more than ever. He knows he's about to (finally) be held accountable for everything he's done, and his downfall will be ugly and painful and humiliating (for him) and spectacular (for everyone else). We all need this closure. And we all need the optimism, positivity and clear leadership Kama will provide.

Texin

(2,711 posts)
87. My life, too, was upended when TSF was installed. My physical condition has changed drastically in this time.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 01:38 PM
Nov 2024

It was excruciating even before the Covid-19 pandemic took hold of the country and necessitated changes in our daily lives and schedules, but not only am I almost eight years older I'm more fragile than I was before. Much of that is my fault, but that monstrous psychopathic cretin certainly had a great deal to do with it. I can't even begin to contemplate what will happen if he ends up back where he left things four years ago. I don't want to even imagine.

Ishoutandscream2

(6,753 posts)
88. Great post!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 01:51 PM
Nov 2024

I feel nine years of my life and sanity have been snatched away. To quote Harding, I want a return to “normalcy”.

alarimer

(17,071 posts)
90. Yes, I want politics to be about real things
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 02:49 PM
Nov 2024

I want to go back to arguing about universal health care (I'm for it; many here may not be- at least in some forms) or whatever.

I want to stop worrying about the existential threat that is Trump. I want the GOP to go back to being mostly normal. I want the weirdos to go away.

usaf-vet

(7,419 posts)
91. I totally agree. Thank goodness our kids are grown and on their own. I want to go back a little further. Back to life...
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 03:22 PM
Nov 2024

.... before the ailments of age creep up one at a time. But I am glad that they are just inconveniences at this time.

Dem4life1970

(760 posts)
92. Stephen Colbert helped me laugh again during the Bush years...
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 04:07 PM
Nov 2024

...then all was right with the world under 8 years of Obama.

I started watching Stephen again when the Convicted Felon, Rapist, Insurrectionist, lying con man became President. I have since watched MSNBC, Meidas Touch, Reese Waters and that has helped me survive his insanity and inanity.

Warpy

(113,135 posts)
95. 50 years from now, people will watch his performances
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 06:58 PM
Nov 2024

and wonder just how much fentanyl his adoring crowds were on, mixed in with their meth and other drugs, sort of like people look at old Hitler rallies, judging them by present standards, and TFG's rallies were tatty and underwhelming compared to the displays Hitler put on.

In any case, as long as he's defeated again, he's going to be over. The news will continue to lcing to a bad habit for a while--they've forgotten how to do anything else and there are court cases coming up---but nobody else will. It will be like any other fad, whether Beanie Babies or Beatlemania. One hopes they'll all go on to something less dangerous than religion or politics.

BlueKota

(4,157 posts)
98. I don't blame you.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 08:21 PM
Nov 2024

All of us who are not cult members do. You and I think most parents want a hopeful future for your kids. I don't even have any but want all of them to have a chance to thrive. It's what previous generations gave to us.

I literally had a major breakdown because of tsf. We are talking about 3 weeks in the hospital and ECT bad. Luckily I had an excellent psychiatrist who really cared and did everything she could to pull me out of it. Because of my historical studies I knew exactly what tsf was. I fought my way back and calmed down under President Biden. I felt safe. Now I am scared that the lunatic will take over, but am hoping the V.P sends him packing.

I am going to do my best not to fall apart this time because I don't want to leave my sister, my dog, and my cat, but the struggle to stay sane will be hard, if he wins. I just hope he is the biggest looser in history. 🙏

BBbats

(186 posts)
99. I do too!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:38 PM
Nov 2024

We have to worry that our popular vote won't be over rided.
They've already were successful doing that with Bush Jr. They've placed their people in positions as local election officials everywhere not to mention the House Speaker & the Supreme Court.
It's the uncertainty that fuels my tension.
I'm stressed out too. I cannot believe the friends & good people I know who support Trump. I maintain it's a reaction to having a Black President. That really deeply bothered many people including people who I knew or thought to be liberal. They wouldn't say anything but that touched a deep nerve in many that they felt they couldn't say out loud. So it's lets give 'em the worst White son of a bitch & see how they like it. It's like Trump gets a free pass & they love it!
You never can go wrong campaigning on racism.

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