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A 15-year-old girl watches how America talks about women. (Original Post) Nevilledog Nov 3 OP
Indeed. Powerful Deuxcents Nov 3 #1
here's another link for those not on twitter orleans Nov 4 #46
orleans............ Upthevibe Nov 4 #51
WOW!!! That was Amazingly Powerful! Wiz Imp Nov 3 #2
No words Mossfern Nov 3 #3
WOW --. Wonder if HRC ever thought sooner rather than later would happen in 8 short years! Jmb 4 Harris-Walz Nov 3 #4
Intensely powerful and a bit wrenching to see Justice Ginsburg.... hlthe2b Nov 3 #5
Who cut up onions. iluvtennis Nov 3 #6
Powerful. Fla Dem Nov 3 #7
Excellent bdamomma Nov 3 #8
holy sh*t!!! bluboid Nov 3 #9
Every male too! Hope22 Nov 3 #19
That is outstanding. n/t PatrickforB Nov 3 #10
I remember what I got told at 15 Warpy Nov 3 #11
And marry right out of high school, or at the latest, by the end of college. valleyrogue Nov 3 #14
For me, it was supposed to be a year or two out of college Warpy Nov 3 #23
My parents encouraged me to marry young Tree Lady Nov 3 #24
I don't know about that. Hope22 Nov 3 #17
My mother told me boys didn't like girls who were too smart. Ocelot II Nov 3 #28
My mother told me a lot of really stupid-ass things Warpy Nov 4 #29
Thanks for posting malaise Nov 3 #12
... littlemissmartypants Nov 3 #13
Dear 15 year olds, I am so sorry we still have a great deal to change for you. Passages Nov 3 #15
That may be the most powerful ad I've ever seen. Lonestarblue Nov 3 #16
i wish someone would put it up on youtube orleans Nov 3 #25
I can't see it until then. 2naSalit Nov 4 #40
are you on facebookj? orleans Nov 4 #42
Nope... 2naSalit Nov 4 #43
got it on youtube! orleans Nov 4 #45
Thank you! 2naSalit Nov 4 #49
Powerful SalviaBlue Nov 3 #18
just ... wow sarchasm Nov 3 #20
K & R. Permanut Nov 3 #21
I'm losing the words to respond to that InstantGratification Nov 3 #22
Brought tears to my eyes. sinkingfeeling Nov 3 #26
This old, bald, fat man has tears in his eyes. Ferrets are Cool Nov 3 #27
Me too Diraven Nov 4 #44
Wow is right! peggysue2 Nov 4 #30
Oof...that stings. My niece is 16 róisín_dubh Nov 4 #31
"Life a life that makes you happy was the best advice she gave me. " jfz9580m Nov 4 #35
I watched this like 8+ hours ago. Tears. And stepping back in here to read more comments, i feel my eyes getting a bit electric_blue68 Nov 4 #32
Thank you for posting. North Shore Chicago Nov 4 #33
K & R Emile Nov 4 #34
Gut wrenching and powerful angrychair Nov 4 #36
Wow! So powerful and emotional! denvine Nov 4 #37
How can I share this with my granddaughters? the oldest just turned 16, the youngest is about to turn 14 msfiddlestix Nov 4 #38
You can directly share the link (using email, messenger etc) jfz9580m Nov 4 #39
Done!! Thank you! msfiddlestix Nov 4 #47
Happy to help msfiddlestix jfz9580m Nov 4 #50
K&R DemonGoddess Nov 4 #41
OMG That is killer. 50 Shades Of Blue Nov 4 #48
Cathartic is an understatement. I have tears streaming down my face. cayugafalls Nov 4 #52
A great ad MustLoveBeagles Nov 4 #53
It's how Trump talks about women, not "America" whathehell Nov 4 #54
In this moment, I don't have the words to describe that. BobTheSubgenius Nov 4 #55
I expected this to piss me off, and parts of it did... FuzzyDicePHL Nov 4 #56

Mossfern

(3,277 posts)
3. No words
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 06:44 PM
Nov 3

I saw myself in this
I saw my daughter in this
I saw my mother in this
I saw my grand daughter in this

This was one of the most moving things I've encountered

hlthe2b

(106,961 posts)
5. Intensely powerful and a bit wrenching to see Justice Ginsburg....
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 07:16 PM
Nov 3

I hope it is well circulated.

Hope22

(3,150 posts)
19. Every male too!
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 08:21 PM
Nov 3

They have no concept of how this affects girls, young women and women of all ages. None of us are too old to be disrespected. It…needs to..stop. TFG has legitimized this evil attack that will not go away when he does!

Warpy

(113,131 posts)
11. I remember what I got told at 15
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 07:53 PM
Nov 3

Follow the rules. You can be a nurse, teacher or secretary age the only good jobs for girls, and only for a year or two until they get married. Wife is the only acceptable path for girls. Girls who don't get married have something wrong with them. Boys like to use girls who kiss them but they don't marry them. Don't be good in school, boys don't like that. Smile. Never raise your voice. Be sweet. Alsways make sure your makeup is fresh and no matter what you've been doing, always look your best. Never sweat.

The list went on and on and on and on. No wonder we turned to drugs and then broke every single one of those fucking rules as soon as we got away from Mom & Dad.

That girl in the video won't have it easy, but she won't have it as hard as we did. She's welcome.

valleyrogue

(1,231 posts)
14. And marry right out of high school, or at the latest, by the end of college.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 08:03 PM
Nov 3

It was an absolutely shitty era to be a female, and these fascists want to return to that terrible era. I was born in the middle of the baby boom, 1955, but early marriages and shotgun marriages were still very common fifty-plus years ago, when I graduated from high school. In fact, almost all the women I graduated with married by age 25. In the end, I was the lone holdout of the straight women in that graduating class who didn't bother with marriage at all. It hasn't been easy financially, but I have the peace of mind of not putting up with the life my mother and sisters had.

Warpy

(113,131 posts)
23. For me, it was supposed to be a year or two out of college
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:08 PM
Nov 3

if I didn't snag a doctor, lawyer, architect or top tier executive before graduation.

I found the perfect life they laid out for me to be dismal beyond words.

Tree Lady

(12,205 posts)
24. My parents encouraged me to marry young
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:21 PM
Nov 3

I think they were glad to be rid of the responsibility and not pay for college, they never encouraged that.

I ended up with high school only and 2 kids in my early 20's. I went to a business school at 29 so I could at least work as a bookkeeper which I did for many years.

I told my girls they could be and do anything and one has a masters degree in Accounting and is a CPA and one runs a large car dealership with 300 employees under her.

Hope22

(3,150 posts)
17. I don't know about that.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 08:17 PM
Nov 3

If she gets raped she may have to give birth to a baby to her attackers baby. She may die at any time in many states should she get pregnant and have complications that doctors will not touch leading to death. That is the biggest living hell that I can imagine. My daughter who is in her thirties says that she will not live in a country that does not have birth control. These are the things young women and girls are dealing with today. Plans need to be fluid enough to leave the country.

Ocelot II

(121,644 posts)
28. My mother told me boys didn't like girls who were too smart.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 11:32 PM
Nov 3

My college advisor told me not to worry about what I would do for a career after I graduated because I'd just get married.

So I went to law school anyway.

Passages

(1,438 posts)
15. Dear 15 year olds, I am so sorry we still have a great deal to change for you.
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 08:09 PM
Nov 3

Fantastic presentation.

orleans

(35,341 posts)
25. i wish someone would put it up on youtube
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:59 PM
Nov 3

i wanted to post it on fb but it only shows an x for the link from twitter and instagram

i googled the thing two times and then found a fb page with it that i could link to.

who's gonna do that? it needs to go up on youtube

orleans

(35,341 posts)
42. are you on facebookj?
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 10:12 AM
Nov 4

the video was put out by devin hermason

if you google his name & facebook you can go on his fb page and find it. that's how i eventually had to do it

22. I'm losing the words to respond to that
Sun Nov 3, 2024, 09:04 PM
Nov 3

I'm a nearly 59 year old male. That broke me down to tears that I'm still shedding as I type this. I want to ask how we have fallen this far, but shame tells me that the women in this world haven't fallen this far, they have risen this far because they have fought and clawed their way UP to this point. Ladies, you have done it without enough support from me and my kind. NO MORE. Take the reins ladies, you've been the glue that makes this world work from the start, now go lead us forward. You have earned your place at the table. You have earned the right to be heard. You have earned the right to lead. We will all benefit from your wisdom.

peggysue2

(11,529 posts)
30. Wow is right!
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 12:06 AM
Nov 4

In a very concentrated way this sums up the experience women can so easily identify with while at the same time tapping the voices of powerful women that have and will continue to inspire other women and those on the cusp of womanhood to lead their best lives with self-respect and belief in their own potential.

Well done and brava!

róisín_dubh

(11,929 posts)
31. Oof...that stings. My niece is 16
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 12:10 AM
Nov 4

My mom said a lot of dumb shit to me that has messed me up beyond words, so that I’m an angsty Xennial. But, given that she had to get married and pump out kids before she could live her life (she’s a lesbian…definitely didn’t want to marry or have kids), she always said I could be whatever I wanted to be. So I’m about to embark on my second PhD after having a midlife career crisis and moving abroad. Life a life that makes you happy was the best advice she gave me.
Not sure she wanted me to move to another continent but that’s another matter haha

jfz9580m

(15,584 posts)
35. "Life a life that makes you happy was the best advice she gave me. "
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 07:47 AM
Nov 4

My mother was lovely and said the same thing to me.

I have been very lucky in both my parents.

They both supported me through every downturn and I have had many in the last decade. They have always believed me wrt encounters with creepy men etc.

My mom told me to do what makes me happy..she always supported my persevering with science in spite of how hopeless it often looks..

The only thing she did wrong was leaving me too soon. I still miss her every day..

electric_blue68

(18,964 posts)
32. I watched this like 8+ hours ago. Tears. And stepping back in here to read more comments, i feel my eyes getting a bit
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 01:55 AM
Nov 4

"leaky", again.

That's one Powerful vid!

denvine

(828 posts)
37. Wow! So powerful and emotional!
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:25 AM
Nov 4

I certainly hope this spreads far and wide. As a man, it makes me want to run out and vote, which I already have, but I can only imagine the emotions this video brings to young girls! Brava!!!!

msfiddlestix

(7,879 posts)
38. How can I share this with my granddaughters? the oldest just turned 16, the youngest is about to turn 14
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:57 AM
Nov 4

I'm not signed on to tik nor do I want to be,.. but I really want to share this post to each of them. it's the most powerful message in recent memory. Beautiful work to the creators.

jfz9580m

(15,584 posts)
39. You can directly share the link (using email, messenger etc)
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 09:32 AM
Nov 4

You can use the “share” button on the main thread or email this link to them directly:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100219648701

These things always play fine right here on DU with my current browser (DuckDuckGo) on my IPhone. Should be the same for most browsers and phones.

cayugafalls

(5,755 posts)
52. Cathartic is an understatement. I have tears streaming down my face.
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 12:16 PM
Nov 4

Women have always saved us, some men just chose to ignore it at their own peril.

whathehell

(29,886 posts)
54. It's how Trump talks about women, not "America"
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 12:53 PM
Nov 4

Why do some feel the need to conflate the worst aspects of this country with the entire nation?..Is there any doubt that if this was done with another country, the post would be removed for bigotry?

BobTheSubgenius

(11,815 posts)
55. In this moment, I don't have the words to describe that.
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 01:09 PM
Nov 4

I know I have them, but I can't access them yet.

FuzzyDicePHL

(713 posts)
56. I expected this to piss me off, and parts of it did...
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 02:30 PM
Nov 4

...but I did not expect to be sobbing by the end.

Wow. Incredibly moving. Recommended viewing for all.

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