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scipan

(2,666 posts)
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 03:28 AM Nov 7

What are you doing to cope?

I'm afraid I'm not a role model here. Last night I went into major depression. Tonight I'm drinking a lot and listening to music.

Hope everyone is okay.

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What are you doing to cope? (Original Post) scipan Nov 7 OP
right now, drinking a buttload of whiskey Skittles Nov 7 #1
Yup. I'm there with you. scipan Nov 7 #3
Jim Beam's Devil Cut Skittles Nov 7 #6
Preparing for the approach of catastrophic climate change Kaleva Nov 7 #2
Isn't it ironic that he will greatly increase climate refugees. scipan Nov 7 #4
Yes! Kaleva Nov 7 #25
As of last night, Jack Daniels and playing Fallout 4. Uncle Joe Nov 7 #5
Consolidating the few things over which I still have control. PikaBlue Nov 7 #7
I wanna learn how to knit Blue_Roses Nov 7 #17
Nope PikaBlue Nov 7 #22
Great post. This is what I'm doing as well. Mike 03 Nov 7 #30
I'm Proud To Say That (D) Cleo Fields Is Our New House Representative For Louisiana District 6 MayReasonRule Nov 7 #35
Kudos. I think you have a sound plan to continue living your life. dameatball Nov 7 #37
Beer and talking to the cat and living my life. PikaBlue Nov 7 #38
Work and rewatching "Three Body Problem".nt jfz9580m Nov 7 #8
I'm watching that too and I like it... Ysabel Nov 7 #15
I have been thinking of buying them jfz9580m Nov 7 #24
Comfort food is my thing. Don't drink or smoke so food is it. TommieMommy Nov 7 #9
Just riding it out the best I can. ananda Nov 7 #10
I had two Martinis yesterday mnhtnbb Nov 7 #11
working out, chores, and my 3 binges: watching, gaming, and reading eShirl Nov 7 #12
Watching, again, all 36 episodes of Peaky Blinders. lamp_shade Nov 7 #13
Misreading the title of this thread... Ysabel Nov 7 #14
I hope your depression gets better... Ysabel Nov 7 #16
Preparing to return to Germany tomorrow. DFW Nov 7 #18
I have a friend who married a German woman Phoenix61 Nov 7 #21
I just came back kairos12 Nov 7 #41
Preparing to return to Germany tomorrow. DFW Nov 7 #19
Today, I slept most of the day Blue_Roses Nov 7 #20
A couple of things. Dulcinea Nov 7 #23
I blocked my trumper cousin in Florida's number on my phone. She will be trying to call to beg for money when the Meadowoak Nov 7 #26
Don't waiver XanaDUer2 Nov 7 #32
Helping others helps people feel better. Find a mutual aid organizatio in your area. Donate time or money to a food WhiskeyGrinder Nov 7 #27
Trying to avoid everything in the news business, I feel like they let us down and sold us out Walleye Nov 7 #28
Going to withdraw into my Asperger's self. Did it for many years. It will be harder as I have gotten accustomed to LiberalArkie Nov 7 #29
Super depressed XanaDUer2 Nov 7 #31
I'm avoiding the news La Coliniere Nov 7 #33
Plan, have money and be armed with knowledge of how to avoid MAGA uponit7771 Nov 7 #34
watching Disney movies mwmisses4289 Nov 7 #36
At noon today, I'm going on an internet and media blackout. Elessar Zappa Nov 7 #39
D.U. is a lifesaver orangecrush Nov 7 #40
Right now I'm listening to David Gilmour. City Lights Nov 7 #42
I wish I liked alcohol Phentex Nov 7 #43

Skittles

(160,498 posts)
1. right now, drinking a buttload of whiskey
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 03:30 AM
Nov 7

alas, there is no amount of liquor in the world to make me accept how fucking STUPID Trump voters are

scipan

(2,666 posts)
3. Yup. I'm there with you.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 03:48 AM
Nov 7

Old Taylor bourbon whiskey. It's cheap.
The music helps. Dylan and 70's. A better time.

Skittles

(160,498 posts)
6. Jim Beam's Devil Cut
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 04:35 AM
Nov 7

I go for value too

I agree with you on the 70's - best decade EVER

scipan

(2,666 posts)
4. Isn't it ironic that he will greatly increase climate refugees.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 04:07 AM
Nov 7

I just bought a portable freezer to go with my big power brick. All I need now is some solar panels.

PikaBlue

(265 posts)
7. Consolidating the few things over which I still have control.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:04 AM
Nov 7

At the moment, it's crunch time where I work so focusing on that is providing a temporary sense of normality. In general, however, I will be going inward and taking a mini "Amish" approach to my existence by withdrawing from the world's madness. I am minimizing consumption of news and shifting my focus to creative endeavors and simple activities that center around home. I have adopted an attitude of outward indifference to combat the cruelty of the coming administration and the supporters thereof. I refuse to be "owned" by the Magas; in fact, I will not even permit them to rent or borrow 30 seconds of my inattention. They feed off of our pain, fear, and despair. I feel all of those things deeply, but all they will see is my indifference. I have six bookcases filled with delightful reading material, a closet filled with jigsaw puzzles, and a ton of quilting, painting, and knitting supplies. I bought a bread maker and I am collecting recipes that I find comforting. I'm eying my house with respect to offloading unnecessary items and thinking about painting a room or two. I'm narrowing my focus and my goals to those activities that I can attain and that I enjoy; and I'm disengaging from those which feed my despair and destroy my mental and physical health. We probably cannot overcome much of what is headed our way, but we CAN outlast it.

PikaBlue

(265 posts)
22. Nope
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 06:22 AM
Nov 7

I use to crochet but that was 45 years ago. I plan to learn to knit and to bake bread and to do a lot of other quiet, comforting things.

Mike 03

(17,476 posts)
30. Great post. This is what I'm doing as well.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 08:22 AM
Nov 7

I love that last line. "We probably cannot overcome much of what is headed our way, but we CAN outlast it."

Early last year, when I began to worry about this scenario, one of the things I did was hunt down some books about ordinary Germans' (Nazi opponents and Jews) experience of the Third Reich, when they realized this thing was taking shape and about to alter their lives forever. (Some of it was helpful, but a lot of it was common sense, but it was validating in the sense that this indeed is something worth worrying about) Good luck.

MayReasonRule

(1,947 posts)
35. I'm Proud To Say That (D) Cleo Fields Is Our New House Representative For Louisiana District 6
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 09:11 AM
Nov 7

Previously we were in Mike Johnson's district...

I'm currently limiting my listening to WDPR Dayton Public Radio for their classical musical selections, College and University music stations for what's new and fun, and Spotify.

I'm allowing myself to stay updated periodically through social interactions here on Democratic Underground and quickly browsing through comments in reddit's law subreddit.

I'm done with NPR national desk. They failed miserably to give honest and accurate coverage to the depraved criminal enterprise that is the GOP.

On occasion I'm still allowing myself to listen to portions of Brian Lehrer's broadcasts on WNYC-AM out of NYC.

Outside of that... I'll continue gardening, beekeeping, preserving and cooking delicious nutritional foods, hanging with my honey, our daughter, and our closest friends.

The rest of our families are militant theocratic fascists. We're the only members that escaped the sordid depravity. So... we don't really interact with them except in very, very limited ways.

We'd love to sell our place here in Louisiana, purchase somewhere else with our daughter, and get the hell out of Dodge...
Question is... where to go?

Massachusetts has some nice areas with homes in the $75K to $125K range that are worth considering...
The devil is always in the details... work, healthcare, taxes... and most importantly to us getting to be with our daughter that's in her 30's.

We are not financially set for life by any stretch of one's imagination... so all details must be considered.

So like you instead of internalizing MAGA hatred, we're embracing what we love and actively seeking it out.

Here's to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness... by all means necessary...

May reason rule...



dameatball

(7,604 posts)
37. Kudos. I think you have a sound plan to continue living your life.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 09:23 AM
Nov 7

I'm still at the red wine and talking to the cat stage.

jfz9580m

(15,584 posts)
24. I have been thinking of buying them
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 07:36 AM
Nov 7

But I already have Solaris and Gormenghast collecting dust on my bookshelf and I should probably get to those first.

ananda

(30,979 posts)
10. Just riding it out the best I can.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:18 AM
Nov 7

There is going to be no reprieve from
this incessant nightmare now.

It is what it is.

mnhtnbb

(32,163 posts)
11. I had two Martinis yesterday
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:18 AM
Nov 7

And am having lunch with my best friend today. When we scheduled it, I said it will be a celebration --or, God forbid, a commiseration. Dammit. There will probably be alcohol consumed at lunch today.
I started thinking about long term adjustments yesterday. Won't have to give up watching news, because I'd already done that during the campaign season to avoid hearing or seeing that orange pustule.

Ysabel

(2,080 posts)
14. Misreading the title of this thread...
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:31 AM
Nov 7

I thought to myself what am I doing to cops? Hey!?! I'm not doing anything to cops and they better not do anything to me either because I've had enough of this shit already...

- edited to add that I'm kind of a natural joker and it helps me cope by laughing...

Ysabel

(2,080 posts)
16. I hope your depression gets better...
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:37 AM
Nov 7


I used to drink but I quit about five years ago because it was literally getting the best of me and I wanted myself back so I quit smoking then too cold turkey to both and I feel better...

I had quit drinking for 15 years also prior to that and those were good years...

Another thing that helps is I'm taking anxiety medicine now because I was having so many panic attacks (like about 10 to 20 a day and then eventually from the moment I woke up to the moment I fell asleep (I did not get much sleep then either) that I shut down and quit eating (not a thing other than water and some energy drinks for about 3 months) and I ended up in the hospital last year...

Anyway the anxiety medicine works wonders (it works really really well and there are no bad side effects either and it is non-addicting and it's okay for older people too {I'm 66} so I'm feeling a lot better now and that helps me to cope as well)...

DFW

(56,935 posts)
18. Preparing to return to Germany tomorrow.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:40 AM
Nov 7

I’ll endure the “what’s the matter with your country?” comments because over there, there is no malice behind them.

Phoenix61

(17,733 posts)
21. I have a friend who married a German woman
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:57 AM
Nov 7

years ago. They have two children together and have been splitting their time between here and Germany. At this point, he’s quitting his job and moving there. He works in the defense industry and said he just couldn’t continue knowing it would support whatever horrific thing TSF decides to do.

DFW

(56,935 posts)
19. Preparing to return to Germany tomorrow.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:40 AM
Nov 7

I’ll endure the “what’s the matter with your country?” comments because over there, there is no malice behind them.

Blue_Roses

(13,456 posts)
20. Today, I slept most of the day
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 05:45 AM
Nov 7

I haven't been able to sleep these days before the election. So I had a couple of drinks last night, took a Melatonin and crashed. But, then I woke up to the reality and had a good boo-hoo. I watched Leave It To Beaver reruns and it reminded me of a simpler time. ( even though it still bugs me that June Cleaver wore pearls to vacuum in)

Dulcinea

(7,622 posts)
23. A couple of things.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 06:31 AM
Nov 7

Last edited Sat Nov 9, 2024, 02:45 PM - Edit history (1)

1. Going for long runs to burn off stress.
2. I did get good and drunk Tuesday night.
3. Taking comfort in the knowledge that this so-called red wave will eventually implode.
4. McFelon may have cheated & conned the people he did business with & a chunk of the American public with authoritarian personalities, but he won't be able to cheat or con the Grim Reaper. Sorry, not sorry.

Meadowoak

(6,305 posts)
26. I blocked my trumper cousin in Florida's number on my phone. She will be trying to call to beg for money when the
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 07:49 AM
Nov 7

economy tanks. I don't ever want to talk to her again.

XanaDUer2

(14,738 posts)
32. Don't waiver
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 08:27 AM
Nov 7

I sent my poor mouthing FL maga bitch sister over 400 and I'll nvr get it back.

WhiskeyGrinder

(24,132 posts)
27. Helping others helps people feel better. Find a mutual aid organizatio in your area. Donate time or money to a food
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 07:52 AM
Nov 7

shelf, medical fundraiser, local or national or international GoFundMe, homeless shelter. Read up on white supremacy, Black feminism, mutual aid.

Walleye

(36,548 posts)
28. Trying to avoid everything in the news business, I feel like they let us down and sold us out
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 08:03 AM
Nov 7

LiberalArkie

(16,702 posts)
29. Going to withdraw into my Asperger's self. Did it for many years. It will be harder as I have gotten accustomed to
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 08:06 AM
Nov 7

the social media.

XanaDUer2

(14,738 posts)
31. Super depressed
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 08:25 AM
Nov 7

Taking Xanax. Still watching the news. Hoping my maga ssdi sister will lose her home. She's a bitch.

La Coliniere

(1,095 posts)
33. I'm avoiding the news
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 08:33 AM
Nov 7

as much as possible; I’ll limit my consumption to a podcast or 2 once in awhile.
*I’m increasing my daily walk or hike to about an average 15,000 steps.
*I’ll be going to a different gym 3x a week because I don’t want to communicate or be around the MAGAt acquaintances I used to spar with; my anger is such that I will get belligerent with them.
*More nonfiction reading on my favorite topics.
*Work on the play I’ve started to write about Mahler, the composer.
*Watch movies and series on the streaming services.
*Continue exploring and creating new plant based meals.
*Skiing once the snow gets on the slopes.
*Make life as comfortable and stress free as I can for my wife and myself.
*Once things start going south, I’ll fight along with the Resistance in some capacity; at 70 I don’t know what that will be, but it will be something.
Right now I’m suffering news withdrawal but I’ve not watched anything since Tuesday night and don’t want to watch anything in the near future.

Good luck to all, my heart goes out to you. We will need each other to get through the times ahead.

Elessar Zappa

(16,173 posts)
39. At noon today, I'm going on an internet and media blackout.
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 11:06 AM
Nov 7

No more DU, social media, or television news for 3-6 months. Gonna focus on healing mentally by binging some good shows, reading a ton of books, hiking and enjoying the outdoors, maybe listen to some new music.

Phentex

(16,570 posts)
43. I wish I liked alcohol
Thu Nov 7, 2024, 11:44 AM
Nov 7

but it doesn't do much for me except mess up my sleep. But yesterday I wanted something. Instead, I napped and read and avoided everything in my life.

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