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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsAfter Trump's win, some women are considering the 4B movement
In the hours and days since it became clear that Donald Trump would be re-elected president of the United States, theres been a surge of interest in the US for 4B.
Young liberal women across TikTok and Instagram are discussing and sharing information about the South Korean feminist movement, in which straight women refuse to marry, have children, date or have sex with men.
These women say they are enraged and fed up after a majority of their male counterparts voted for a candidate who was found liable for sexual abuse and whose appointment of three conservative Supreme Court justices led to the overturning of national abortion rights protections.
In response, they say theyre swearing off men and theyre encouraging others around the country to join them.
https://www.yahoo.com/news/why-women-us-suddenly-interested-090048357.html
Stargleamer
(2,251 posts)Lunabell
(7,064 posts)It worked.
WhiteTara
(30,226 posts)dem4decades
(11,985 posts)RussellCattle
(1,782 posts)radical noodle
(8,819 posts)Strikes may create some stress for those impacted, but it you're not going to get that raise and benefits any other way.
Demobrat
(9,947 posts)Sure, there are red flags, but assholiness unfortunately often takes its time to manifest.
I wouldnt take a rescue pit bull into my home, no matter how sweet. Nor a man. For the same reason.
dem4decades
(11,985 posts)Demobrat
(9,947 posts)magicarpet
(16,962 posts)Japanese men often prefer inflatable vinyl dolls. Life like robots will likely be a big hit once they become readily available.
Can I sell you on a polite male robot with a very nice disposition ?
Demobrat
(9,947 posts)magicarpet
(16,962 posts)When Robert the robot gets on your nerves just unplug him.
If inflatable Ivan is more your taste a knitting needle will take care of him if you need some space to yourself.
Ivan might not be so proficient in the kitchen or behind a bucket and mop.
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)Codifer
(791 posts)What a fitting reversal of roles.
You get to prick him!
sorry
magicarpet
(16,962 posts)Excuse me I mean prick.
Jeez, she's got a lot of balls.
BattleRow
(1,256 posts)Or perhaps lifeless?
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)My robot vacuum has more personality.
I just thought of that Woody Allen film, with the Orgasm -Thon (sorry spelled wrong) that cylinder looking thing.
What was the name of that movie??? I think it was Sleeper.
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)Metaphorical
(2,345 posts)It was all downhill after that. I remember seeing the movie in college. There were some funny scenes in it, but the neuroticism (and what happened since) makes the film VERY dated.
Ysabel
(2,080 posts)I couldn't figure out what that thing was...
soldierant
(8,003 posts)If you go to The Dodo on YouTube and look just at the section they call "Pittie Nation," you'll see more adorable goofballs than you ever imagined existed, and all rescues. Yes, some needed some fodtering But many didn't. And I'm a cat person,and I was impressed.
Demobrat
(9,947 posts)just walking down the street. Im sure some are sweet, heck Im sure some men wouldnt turn on me either, but why take the chance?
Mariana
(15,196 posts)They often successfully hide their assholery for months or even years.
love_katz
(2,870 posts)Engaging in sex with men is quite literally life threatening at this time. Even in states that have passed laws protecting reproductive freedom, there's no guarantee that those laws will stand against a nationwide ban on abortion.
This is simply the very sad truth. Women who were pregnant, who wanted kids and were married, have died because they lived in ignorant woman-hating states that passed complete bans.
This is what happens when fanatical religious crazies get the whip hand.
Until women get reproductive justice, which means we get our rights and our bodily autonomy back, having sex with men, even very nice and supportive men, is life threatening.
The only exceptions are women who have menopaused, women who have permanent infertility, and women who have had tubal ligation. And, if the tie-off ( suture?) comes off, even a woman who has had tubal ligation might be at risk for getting pregnant.
The best plan is 4B. I'm sorry.
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)Having sex with a male is potentially life threatening.
The males are certainly not going to help or save them.
Women need to think twice about sex with males.
That is the new reality like it or not.
Frank D. Lincoln
(648 posts)that argument is perfectly reasonable and justified under the circumstances.
zorbasd
(260 posts)and ignore the trumper PAB's, to become incel blueboys, and passport bros, where they will have to bring the whole extended family to the US.
ShazzieB
(18,925 posts)For women who are not already in a relationship with a man who's worth his salt, I can see the appeal of 4B. But I'm married to a non-asshole man, and my daughter is engaged to one. I see no reason for either of us to change anything. High quality men are to be appreciated and treasured, imnsho.
calimary
(84,607 posts)Im very happy - and relieved - that our daughter found a good one as well. Same for our sons girlfriend/fiancee. She found a good one, too.
But it makes me really sad to see how that has gone SO far sideways for FAR too many women. Breaks my heart how many rotten relationships there are, out there.
magicarpet
(16,962 posts)Johnson baby oil, petroleum jelly, and Kimberly Clark tissue sales should skyrocket.
Does JD Vance have any "How To" videos out about that couch cushion proceedure thang ?
Demobrat
(9,947 posts)At least now they can pretend its someone elses fault.
TheKentuckian
(26,314 posts)They are punishing their partners no one else but making their healthy relationship a game or some test.
I'm thinking what is being proposed is breaking up/getting a divorce.
Plan 9 from Outer Space whatever you are going to do but it clearly isn't with me would be my response.
Demobrat
(9,947 posts)Its more about taking a lot fewer chances with men who have made their disdain for women clear via their vote.
The sheeps clothing is tattered and frayed, and the hens are getting wary.
Maybe its about time.
Cha
(305,853 posts)GOTV for Kamla?! Or Did they?
As for the "Movement".. Fuck those Idiots who scream "Your body My Choice"!
More Power to Autonomy for Women's Bodies.
Mariana
(15,196 posts)is that a man might fill out all of the ballots in the household. Before the election there were men online boasting about how they had done exactly that. Then add the men who stood over their partners in the polling place, making sure she voted the way he wanted her to. Did that make up a significant proportion of the women's votes for Trump? I don't think we'll ever know.
Cha
(305,853 posts)will be coming.
valleyrogue
(1,191 posts)Mail-in voting is great. Oregon has had it for years without problems. It is mostly blue states that have it, which is why Republicans hate it.
I take any bragging by men with a huge grain of salt.
GenThePerservering
(2,675 posts)orleans
(35,261 posts)standing beside her boyfriend, saying she voted for the state to get rid of the abortion ban and then went ahead to vote for trump b/c she figured that she'd be okay. (she might've even said something stupid like her trump vote was because of the economy.) (yeah, finances were better for her four years ago because HER PARENTS PAID FOR EVERYTHING b/c she was 14, or 15, or 16, or 17!!!)
Cha
(305,853 posts)college student at ASU who voted for TSF bc she thought he would not let anyone "ban abortion".
Propaganda works... Millions of Suckered Voters Voted like the Chicken SHITS Vote for Colonel Sanders.
misanthrope
(8,295 posts)Dear Leader can sign an Executive Order about unlawful female disobedience, then the House and Senate can race to pass to legislation. Just as a failsafe, they can rush to get a test case before SCOTUS. I'm sure Alito and Thomas would welcome the chance to publicly shame the defendants.
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)Kavanaugh, Alito and Thomas can't wait to make it happen.
orleans
(35,261 posts)Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)Women used to be told they could not say no to their husbands when he wanted sex.
There was no such crime as marital rape.
So rape was legal then yes.
And we could go back to that.
We are headed for no birth control, no abortion, no healthcare for women.
And mandatory sex on demand.
orleans
(35,261 posts)Texas had estimated 26,000 pregnancies from rape since total abortion ban
Additionally, fertility rates in the state have increased, both overall and for teens, for the first time in years.
Texas has had an estimated 26,000 rape-related pregnancies since the state enacted its abortion bans, according to new research published Wednesday.
Doctors performed fewer than 10 abortions per month in Texas in the first eight months of 2023, meaning that survivors of rape may have crossed state lines for the procedure or self-managed an abortion. Texas abortion bans dont include exceptions for rape or incest.
Many women who become impregnated by rape, at least some of them are going to be able to go out-of-state, some of them are going to be able to get a self-managed abortion with pills acquired surreptitiously, said Dr. Steffie Woolhandler, a professor of public health at the City University of New Yorks Hunter College and co-author of the report.
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Completed vaginal rapes were associated with nearly 65,000 pregnancies in the 14 states that implemented total abortion bans since the U.S. Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade, researchers estimated. About 59,000 of those pregnancies, or around 91%, occurred in states without abortion exceptions for rape.
Texas which implemented a total abortion ban in late July 2022 accounts for an estimated 45% of rape-related pregnancies in states without such exceptions. Missouri and Tennessee represented the next two highest pregnancy rates among states without rape exceptions, with 5,825 and 4,993, respectively.
from dallas morning news https://archive.is/yyc3P
keithbvadu2
(40,507 posts)Response to keithbvadu2 (Reply #12)
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bdamomma
(66,720 posts)it that Fuentes is gay.
valleyrogue
(1,191 posts)He comes across as a complete parody, beginning with his demeanor.
It's all about the grift with him.
FirstLight
(14,308 posts)Why give ANY of them the time of day?
2naSalit
(93,444 posts)Been advocating for this for years. Since before 2016 but most certainly after.
evemac
(186 posts)NGeorgian
(91 posts)!
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)Xavier Breath
(5,173 posts)I know for certain there will be football in my life
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)If women go 4B the three Fs will just turn into the two Fs.
rainin
(3,194 posts)He's deployed so I haven't had a chance to ask him if he's encountering this. I sincerely hope girls are swearing off maga men, not all men. It would be devastating if his future soul mate swore off all men and passed up this gem of a young man. On the other hand, I hope maga men never have sex again.
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)He sounds like a real keeper.
Ontheboundry
(302 posts)Are joining this movement thus liberal men will suffer the most from it
And let's make sure alcohol is abstained from or else things will crumble quickly
valleyrogue
(1,191 posts)Women don't owe men anything.
love_katz
(2,870 posts)Women don't OWE anything to men: not our smiles, not our love or companionship, and most definitely not our bodies.
Women have the right to sovereignty over our bodies and lives.
A partnership is only actually a partnership if both people consent to it, and both treat each other as equals. Lip service does not count and abuse and forced servitude are NOT partnership.
See the book, The Chalis and the Blade, by Rhian Eisler. She has a website, The Center for Partnership Studies.
And, to any man who thinks that I am being over the top, ask yourself: would you really want to be abused and enslaved? How would you react if you were facing this kind of threat?
GiqueCee
(1,514 posts)... but, for the moment at least, please limit it to Republican men. Not ALL of us are irredeemable assholes. A lot, yeah, probably, but not all. It's those on the Dark Side of the aisle that are causing all the problems.
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)A good guy can't help her or save her any more than a bad guy.
TheKentuckian
(26,314 posts)No bad feelings, I understand the position but I will not continue under the revised terms and conditions.
Irish_Dem
(59,700 posts)It is an issue of life and death.
That seems like a simple concept to understand.
And to have sympathy for.
Men leaving the discussion is part of the problem.
paleotn
(19,531 posts)More lies have been told in the realms of love and sex than any other human activity. In this climate, I don't blame women one bit for putting us on hold until things improve.
EarnestPutz
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LearnedHand
(4,221 posts)This has nothing to do with misandry and everything to do with exactly how dangerous it has become to be a woman of any age in this country.
EarnestPutz
(2,683 posts)GenThePerservering
(2,675 posts)it's all black and white, isn't it?
EarnestPutz
(2,683 posts)Ursus Arctos
(58 posts)does not equate to hatred. I love the idea of skydiving, but I don't want to risk my life, so I don't do it. A woman can love the idea of a relationship with a man, but when every pregnancy (no matter how healthy she is) can result in death, and her life is not valuable in the eyes of the law, that relationship may not seem worth it. It's really not always about men.
valleyrogue
(1,191 posts)Response to Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin (Original post)
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gordianot
(15,535 posts)That would make a point with JD (whatever his surname he is using this week).
Figarosmom
(3,298 posts)Saying for years would happen. Women would just decide the hell with it. There has been declining desire for any of these things anyway.
bdamomma
(66,720 posts)say cut men off, and women should take some sort of defense training. That saying Your body, my choice will not stand. I think there will be more assaults of women too.
paleotn
(19,531 posts)And she means it.
paleotn
(19,531 posts)Yes, yes, not ALL men are magat types, but until we start policing our own, we're going to have to live with the consequences. That's life, boys. Suck it up. To paraphrase Axel Foley, "Everybody! Parties over! Magats fucked it up for everybody!"
EnergizedLib
(2,232 posts)Metaphorical
(2,345 posts)though I fear that we're going to see a significant rise in spouse abuse and divorces coming out of this. Trump is encouraging it, of course - beat sense into your wives, keep them submissive, a return to the 1950s where men had total control of their families.
I wouldn't be at all surprised to see a contemporary version of the Underground Railroad, with red state women fleeing their homes to make their way to friendly states.
lindysalsagal
(22,446 posts)They'll become nuns? Or that it will change men?
mainer
(12,208 posts)Liberal men are fine, and we should hang out with only them. Let the conservative gene pool die out.
It will enrage MAGA guys when they see the guys they call soy boys getting happily married and having kids while theyre left in their bunkers jerking off to their guns.
Rebl2
(14,949 posts)was a young woman today knowing I did not want children, I would find a gynecologist that would tie my tubes.
Jspur
(662 posts)getting sex. I think Gen Z has the highest rate of male virgins out of any generations when it comes to people in their 20's. Also, there are still a lot of women who need sex as much as men. Better solutions for these women is to find guys who are liberal to have relationships with that way their needs can be met, and they can feel good that they are not laying up with the enemy.
valleyrogue
(1,191 posts)Nobody "needs" sex, by the way, except for reproduction. Even that isn't necessary with IVF and AI. A desire is not the same thing as a "need."
A need is food, water, clothing, shelter. You won't die without sex.
Jspur
(662 posts)sex. Plenty of women are still having sex despite not getting married or having kids. This is not the 1950's where people wait until they are married to have sex lol. You still have birth control, condoms, etc to prevent women from getting pregnant. Granted it's not pleasant for a lot of women having to take those safety measures to prevent pregnancy but plenty of women are still having sex.
I'm single and I'm 41 but I'm in good shape and I still get hit on by women of all ages. That's how I know there are still plenty of women out there who still want to have sex. Plus, I'm still in the dating game today and get dates regularly.
Humans need companionship at least most of them do. Very few can go through life without having a lover regardless of whether they are a man or woman. Women can withhold having companionship longer than men because they have more active social lives but eventually a lot of them will still comeback to seeking a companion. I have seen this with the women in my own family where they have gone long stretches being single and living their life but eventually, they all ended up still pursuing relationships with men.
This gender war is stupid. We need to stop being in denial that neither gender needs the other one. Men and Women need each other, and I would say half the reason people are unhappy today is because they can't find the relationship, they need and desire.
GreenWave
(9,442 posts)Odds of a Blue victory anywhere?
Baitball Blogger
(48,431 posts)I am not suggesting anything nefarious. Just enjoy their company and don't cut them out of your lives, otherwise we're only hurting ourselves when young women start showing difficulty having relationships with any kind of man.
That kind of woman was portrayed by Ellen James in the World According to Garp. Let's not go back there.
Farmer-Rick
(11,538 posts)Just asked the man in the beginning of the convo if he ever voted for Trump. Most Maga men are quite proud of their awfulness.
hatrack
(61,194 posts)I'm guessing pretty much flat-lining, given the impending bullshit tsunami.
love_katz
(2,870 posts)There's other replies that show that some of them don't get it.
This situation began shifting when the red states gave in to religious fanatics, who enacted complete abortion bans even in cases of rape or incest, passed laws to punish anyone who helped someone get an abortion, and even passed laws paying a bounty for snitching on anyone who aided anyone in any way to get an abortion. They passed laws restricting interstate travel to get medical care.
Because of all this, and because of the horrors about to be inflicted by Project 2025, the simple fact remains: becoming pregnant, even by loving and supportive liberal men, IS POTENTIALLY a DEATH SENTENCE for women. Period.
I sincerely and deeply wish that 4B wasn't the wisest option, but the ugly facts remain the facts.
The fright wing HATES women. They want to enslave us through our lady parts, and have no problem treating us just as badly as black people were treated during the slave times. To them, we are property, to be used, abused, and thrown away when they are done with us. They are going to take away birth control and no-fault divorce.
The handwriting is on the wall, and their intent for women couldn't be clearer.
karynnj
(60,013 posts)Democratic men than MAGA men.
This is also another stupid post where we are to blame everyone in a group even if they personally were on our side.
Jspur
(662 posts)guys. The philosophy of MAGA men and Redpill guys is that all women are untrustworthy whores that will use the system to destroy men whether it's through divorce, child support, false sexual allegations. These guys are essentially promoting to men that all women are evil and are not worthy of trust and respect.
Now with some liberal women they are also to the extreme in which where they are shouting all men are abusive, rapists, cheaters, liars, misogynist. They are also pushing the narrative that men are not worthy of trust and respect. I don't see this being any different than the hate filled crap MAGA men and Redpill are pushing about women.
We are now to the point where both sides have gone to the extreme with their view and treatment of the opposite sex. If we are to win this culture war with MAGA we have to stop being extreme about the other side. We should always acknowledge they are some terrible men in the world, but not all are horrible and the same goes for women. The only way we are going to be able to beat MAGA is by not being extreme because their extremeness will eventually turn people off over time if there is another side by contrast just comes across as normal instead of being just as crazy as them.
Linda ladeewolf
(492 posts)Just went and had her tubes tied off. She doesnt want children, neither does her husband. Shes only like 28 or so. I think a lot of young women are going to opt for this, if possible.
DemonGoddess
(5,125 posts)for safety reasons alone, any CIS woman not in a good relationship, as well as any single woman really should do this, for her own protection. It's horrible that it's come to this.