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Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin

(116,482 posts)
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 08:46 PM Nov 10

After Trump's win, some women are considering the 4B movement

In the hours and days since it became clear that Donald Trump would be re-elected president of the United States, there’s been a surge of interest in the US for 4B.

Young liberal women across TikTok and Instagram are discussing and sharing information about the South Korean feminist movement, in which straight women refuse to marry, have children, date or have sex with men.

These women say they are enraged and fed up after a majority of their male counterparts voted for a candidate who was found liable for sexual abuse and whose appointment of three conservative Supreme Court justices led to the overturning of national abortion rights protections.

In response, they say they’re swearing off men — and they’re encouraging others around the country to join them.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/why-women-us-suddenly-interested-090048357.html

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After Trump's win, some women are considering the 4B movement (Original Post) Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Nov 10 OP
Go for it!! Stargleamer Nov 10 #1
Lysistrata Lunabell Nov 10 #2
My first thought, too. WhiteTara Nov 10 #42
How about just swearing off the asshole men? dem4decades Nov 10 #3
A better idea, sure, but I still have to wonder how creating more stress in our society is going to help anything. RussellCattle Nov 10 #6
Think of it as a strike radical noodle Nov 10 #31
If only it were that easy. Demobrat Nov 10 #8
That's too bad, you just might miss out on a good dog, so to speak. dem4decades Nov 10 #9
I can still pet him. Doesn't mean I have to bring him home. Demobrat Nov 10 #11
Life sized stuffed animals work.... magicarpet Nov 10 #13
Does he cook and clean? Demobrat Nov 10 #15
I think they can be programmed accordingly. magicarpet Nov 10 #20
I am laughing so hard my little dog woke up and is staring at me. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #26
"If inflatable Ivan is more your taste a knitting needle will take care of him if you need some space to yourself." Codifer Nov 10 #35
Let's not be a dick now,.... magicarpet Nov 10 #37
Lifelike..hmm...perhaps emulating Melania? BattleRow Nov 10 #17
I think the Melania robot companion needs some work. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #27
Hey bdamomma Nov 10 #51
I didn't see the movie. Sounds intriguing and hilarious. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #54
Sleeper was ironically Woody Allen's high point Metaphorical Nov 10 #56
yeah and I now I finally get it haha! Ysabel Nov 11 #69
You'd be better off with the pit bull than with the man, that's for sure/ soldierant Nov 11 #95
I'm afraid of them. Been lunged at twice by pit bulls Demobrat Nov 11 #96
The assholes lie, and some of them do it very well. Mariana Nov 10 #16
A big part of the problem is our loss of reproductive rights love_katz Nov 10 #25
Yes it is now a crime in some states to save the life of a dying pregnant woman. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #28
You know we're in a horrible situation when Frank D. Lincoln Nov 11 #80
Absolutely, pursue the good men only ladies, zorbasd Nov 10 #38
I agree. ShazzieB Nov 11 #89
Same for me. calimary Nov 11 #94
Incels ain't going to be none too happy about this. magicarpet Nov 10 #4
They weren't getting any anyway. Demobrat Nov 10 #10
Yeah, total nonsense unless their man is an incel and then I guess he wouldn't be an incel anymore. TheKentuckian Nov 10 #43
I don't take it as refusing to have sex with a trusted partner. Demobrat Nov 10 #55
I don't understand why More Women didn't get Cha Nov 10 #5
One of the big problems with mail-in voting Mariana Nov 10 #19
OH gawd.. that's Horrible. Soundslike Repecussions Cha Nov 10 #21
Not backed by any evidence at all. valleyrogue Nov 11 #71
I'd say that is wise in general. nt GenThePerservering Nov 11 #83
i saw a video of a female college student orleans Nov 10 #57
Yes I saw the tweet vid about one Cha Nov 11 #63
Maybe the prison industrial complex will beg to house them too misanthrope Nov 10 #7
No birth control, no medical care, and illegal to say no to males who want sex. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #29
so basically legalize rape nt orleans Nov 10 #59
Mandatory sex on demand. Irish_Dem Nov 11 #66
this article from four months ago orleans Nov 10 #61
Guest speakers at their recruiting seminars. Nick Fuentes and Donnie Trump Jr. keithbvadu2 Nov 10 #12
This message was self-deleted by its author bdamomma Nov 10 #45
I wouldn't doubt bdamomma Nov 10 #46
I wouldn't doubt Fuentes doesn't believe one word he says. valleyrogue Nov 11 #72
I fucking love it! FirstLight Nov 10 #14
I have... 2naSalit Nov 10 #18
I have, too nt evemac Nov 10 #58
three conservative Supreme Court justices have screwed College Football too! NGeorgian Nov 10 #22
Leave it to a male to talk about football on a sex thread. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #33
I can't blame them. Xavier Breath Nov 11 #75
Yep, maybe women will no longer be in the picture. Irish_Dem Nov 11 #78
My son is a 10 with high emotional intelligence and a Democrat rainin Nov 10 #23
Women wish they could clone your son. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #30
Maga women I doubt Ontheboundry Nov 10 #39
Men aren't entitled to a "soul mate." THIS is the issue here. valleyrogue Nov 11 #73
Exactly. love_katz Nov 11 #84
Can't say as I blame them... GiqueCee Nov 10 #24
Pregnant dying woman is just as dead whether impregnated by a good guy or bad guy. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #32
Fair enough but she would be ending the relationship TheKentuckian Nov 10 #47
Dead women cannot break up with anyone. And the women who are still alive do not wish to be dead. Irish_Dem Nov 10 #53
Problem is, figuring out who's dark and who ain't isn't always easy. paleotn Nov 10 #49
A lot of misandry in the first dozen comments here. Go figure, Dems. EarnestPutz Nov 10 #34
That you made this comment shows you have zero idea what the issue actually is LearnedHand Nov 10 #48
A real danger that has unfortunately manifested in the hatred of the innocent. Misandry. EarnestPutz Nov 11 #67
Oh, you poor innocent child GenThePerservering Nov 11 #82
Nothing I said would suggest that. Your comments would though. Think about it. EarnestPutz Nov 12 #97
Protecting your life Ursus Arctos Nov 11 #88
No such thing as "misandry." This word is the same notion as "reverse discrimination." n/t valleyrogue Nov 11 #74
Post removed Post removed Nov 10 #36
You could always get a cat. gordianot Nov 10 #40
Thats what ive been Figarosmom Nov 10 #41
I would bdamomma Nov 10 #44
My better half has started saying....my body, my 9mm. paleotn Nov 10 #50
Who can blame them given recent events? paleotn Nov 10 #52
Give these creatures nothing EnergizedLib Nov 10 #60
I think the Lysistra movement makes sense Metaphorical Nov 10 #62
If you can't get them to vote once every 4 years, what makes you think lindysalsagal Nov 11 #64
Don't swear off all men -- just MAGA men mainer Nov 11 #65
If I Rebl2 Nov 11 #68
It won't work since most young men are used to not Jspur Nov 11 #70
It is working. The proof of it is the drastic decline in birthrates and marriage rates. valleyrogue Nov 11 #76
That doesn't mean women are not having Jspur Nov 11 #81
Fast foward 20 years. Only conservatives are reproducing. GreenWave Nov 11 #77
Well, do be kind to the Harris-voting men, please. Baitball Blogger Nov 11 #79
Seems easy enough to find out Farmer-Rick Nov 11 #85
Even setting aside 4B, wondering about overall US birth rates now through 2028 . . . hatrack Nov 11 #86
While some replies from men on this thread show they get it love_katz Nov 11 #87
Very stupid because Democratic women are more likely to be partners to karynnj Nov 11 #90
Agreed some of the women in this thread are not better than these MAGA and Redpill Jspur Nov 11 #92
A niece Linda ladeewolf Nov 11 #91
In point of fact DemonGoddess Nov 11 #93

RussellCattle

(1,782 posts)
6. A better idea, sure, but I still have to wonder how creating more stress in our society is going to help anything.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 08:58 PM
Nov 10

radical noodle

(8,819 posts)
31. Think of it as a strike
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:28 PM
Nov 10

Strikes may create some stress for those impacted, but it you're not going to get that raise and benefits any other way.

Demobrat

(9,947 posts)
8. If only it were that easy.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:00 PM
Nov 10

Sure, there are red flags, but assholiness unfortunately often takes its time to manifest.
I wouldn’t take a rescue pit bull into my home, no matter how sweet. Nor a man. For the same reason.

magicarpet

(16,962 posts)
13. Life sized stuffed animals work....
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:14 PM
Nov 10

Japanese men often prefer inflatable vinyl dolls. Life like robots will likely be a big hit once they become readily available.

Can I sell you on a polite male robot with a very nice disposition ?

magicarpet

(16,962 posts)
20. I think they can be programmed accordingly.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:38 PM
Nov 10

When Robert the robot gets on your nerves just unplug him.

If inflatable Ivan is more your taste a knitting needle will take care of him if you need some space to yourself.

Ivan might not be so proficient in the kitchen or behind a bucket and mop.

Codifer

(791 posts)
35. "If inflatable Ivan is more your taste a knitting needle will take care of him if you need some space to yourself."
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:35 PM
Nov 10

What a fitting reversal of roles.

You get to prick him!


sorry

Irish_Dem

(59,700 posts)
27. I think the Melania robot companion needs some work.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:18 PM
Nov 10

My robot vacuum has more personality.

bdamomma

(66,720 posts)
51. Hey
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:23 PM
Nov 10

I just thought of that Woody Allen film, with the Orgasm -Thon (sorry spelled wrong) that cylinder looking thing.
What was the name of that movie??? I think it was Sleeper.

Metaphorical

(2,345 posts)
56. Sleeper was ironically Woody Allen's high point
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:34 PM
Nov 10

It was all downhill after that. I remember seeing the movie in college. There were some funny scenes in it, but the neuroticism (and what happened since) makes the film VERY dated.

soldierant

(8,003 posts)
95. You'd be better off with the pit bull than with the man, that's for sure/
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 09:22 PM
Nov 11

If you go to The Dodo on YouTube and look just at the section they call "Pittie Nation," you'll see more adorable goofballs than you ever imagined existed, and all rescues. Yes, some needed some fodtering But many didn't. And I'm a cat person,and I was impressed.

Demobrat

(9,947 posts)
96. I'm afraid of them. Been lunged at twice by pit bulls
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 09:47 PM
Nov 11

just walking down the street. I’m sure some are sweet, heck I’m sure some men wouldn’t turn on me either, but why take the chance?

Mariana

(15,196 posts)
16. The assholes lie, and some of them do it very well.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:32 PM
Nov 10

They often successfully hide their assholery for months or even years.

love_katz

(2,870 posts)
25. A big part of the problem is our loss of reproductive rights
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:13 PM
Nov 10

Engaging in sex with men is quite literally life threatening at this time. Even in states that have passed laws protecting reproductive freedom, there's no guarantee that those laws will stand against a nationwide ban on abortion.

This is simply the very sad truth. Women who were pregnant, who wanted kids and were married, have died because they lived in ignorant woman-hating states that passed complete bans.

This is what happens when fanatical religious crazies get the whip hand.
Until women get reproductive justice, which means we get our rights and our bodily autonomy back, having sex with men, even very nice and supportive men, is life threatening.
The only exceptions are women who have menopaused, women who have permanent infertility, and women who have had tubal ligation. And, if the tie-off ( suture?) comes off, even a woman who has had tubal ligation might be at risk for getting pregnant.

The best plan is 4B. I'm sorry.

Irish_Dem

(59,700 posts)
28. Yes it is now a crime in some states to save the life of a dying pregnant woman.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:21 PM
Nov 10

Having sex with a male is potentially life threatening.
The males are certainly not going to help or save them.

Women need to think twice about sex with males.

That is the new reality like it or not.

Frank D. Lincoln

(648 posts)
80. You know we're in a horrible situation when
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:00 PM
Nov 11

that argument is perfectly reasonable and justified under the circumstances.

zorbasd

(260 posts)
38. Absolutely, pursue the good men only ladies,
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:47 PM
Nov 10

and ignore the trumper PAB's, to become incel blueboys, and passport bros, where they will have to bring the whole extended family to the US.

ShazzieB

(18,925 posts)
89. I agree.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:47 PM
Nov 11

For women who are not already in a relationship with a man who's worth his salt, I can see the appeal of 4B. But I'm married to a non-asshole man, and my daughter is engaged to one. I see no reason for either of us to change anything. High quality men are to be appreciated and treasured, imnsho.



calimary

(84,607 posts)
94. Same for me.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 08:33 PM
Nov 11

I’m very happy - and relieved - that our daughter found a good one as well. Same for our son’s girlfriend/fiancee. She found a good one, too.

But it makes me really sad to see how that has gone SO far sideways for FAR too many women. Breaks my heart how many rotten relationships there are, out there.

magicarpet

(16,962 posts)
4. Incels ain't going to be none too happy about this.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 08:56 PM
Nov 10

Johnson baby oil, petroleum jelly, and Kimberly Clark tissue sales should skyrocket.

Does JD Vance have any "How To" videos out about that couch cushion proceedure thang ?

Demobrat

(9,947 posts)
10. They weren't getting any anyway.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:05 PM
Nov 10

At least now they can pretend it’s someone else’s fault.

 

TheKentuckian

(26,314 posts)
43. Yeah, total nonsense unless their man is an incel and then I guess he wouldn't be an incel anymore.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:06 PM
Nov 10

They are punishing their partners no one else but making their healthy relationship a game or some test.

I'm thinking what is being proposed is breaking up/getting a divorce.

Plan 9 from Outer Space whatever you are going to do but it clearly isn't with me would be my response.

Demobrat

(9,947 posts)
55. I don't take it as refusing to have sex with a trusted partner.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:32 PM
Nov 10

It’s more about taking a lot fewer chances with men who have made their disdain for women clear via their vote.

The sheep’s clothing is tattered and frayed, and the hens are getting wary.

Maybe it’s about time.

Cha

(305,853 posts)
5. I don't understand why More Women didn't get
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 08:56 PM
Nov 10

GOTV for Kamla?! Or Did they?

As for the "Movement".. Fuck those Idiots who scream "Your body My Choice"!

More Power to Autonomy for Women's Bodies.

Mariana

(15,196 posts)
19. One of the big problems with mail-in voting
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:37 PM
Nov 10

is that a man might fill out all of the ballots in the household. Before the election there were men online boasting about how they had done exactly that. Then add the men who stood over their partners in the polling place, making sure she voted the way he wanted her to. Did that make up a significant proportion of the women's votes for Trump? I don't think we'll ever know.

valleyrogue

(1,191 posts)
71. Not backed by any evidence at all.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 04:43 PM
Nov 11

Mail-in voting is great. Oregon has had it for years without problems. It is mostly blue states that have it, which is why Republicans hate it.

I take any bragging by men with a huge grain of salt.

orleans

(35,261 posts)
57. i saw a video of a female college student
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:42 PM
Nov 10

standing beside her boyfriend, saying she voted for the state to get rid of the abortion ban and then went ahead to vote for trump b/c she figured that she'd be okay. (she might've even said something stupid like her trump vote was because of the economy.) (yeah, finances were better for her four years ago because HER PARENTS PAID FOR EVERYTHING b/c she was 14, or 15, or 16, or 17!!!)

Cha

(305,853 posts)
63. Yes I saw the tweet vid about one
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 12:41 AM
Nov 11

college student at ASU who voted for TSF bc she thought he would not let anyone "ban abortion".

Propaganda works... Millions of Suckered Voters Voted like the Chicken SHITS Vote for Colonel Sanders.

misanthrope

(8,295 posts)
7. Maybe the prison industrial complex will beg to house them too
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 08:59 PM
Nov 10

Dear Leader can sign an Executive Order about unlawful female disobedience, then the House and Senate can race to pass to legislation. Just as a failsafe, they can rush to get a test case before SCOTUS. I'm sure Alito and Thomas would welcome the chance to publicly shame the defendants.

Irish_Dem

(59,700 posts)
29. No birth control, no medical care, and illegal to say no to males who want sex.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:24 PM
Nov 10

Kavanaugh, Alito and Thomas can't wait to make it happen.

Irish_Dem

(59,700 posts)
66. Mandatory sex on demand.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 09:42 AM
Nov 11

Women used to be told they could not say no to their husbands when he wanted sex.
There was no such crime as marital rape.

So rape was legal then yes.

And we could go back to that.

We are headed for no birth control, no abortion, no healthcare for women.
And mandatory sex on demand.

orleans

(35,261 posts)
61. this article from four months ago
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:51 PM
Nov 10

Texas had estimated 26,000 pregnancies from rape since total abortion ban
Additionally, fertility rates in the state have increased, both overall and for teens, for the first time in years.

Texas has had an estimated 26,000 rape-related pregnancies since the state enacted its abortion bans, according to new research published Wednesday.

Doctors performed fewer than 10 abortions per month in Texas in the first eight months of 2023, meaning that survivors of rape may have crossed state lines for the procedure or self-managed an abortion. Texas’ abortion bans don’t include exceptions for rape or incest.

“Many women who become impregnated by rape, at least some of them are going to be able to go out-of-state, some of them are going to be able to get a self-managed abortion with pills acquired surreptitiously,” said Dr. Steffie Woolhandler, a professor of public health at the City University of New York’s Hunter College and co-author of the report.

snip

Completed vaginal rapes were associated with nearly 65,000 pregnancies in the 14 states that implemented total abortion bans since the U.S. Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade, researchers estimated. About 59,000 of those pregnancies, or around 91%, occurred in states without abortion exceptions for rape.

Texas — which implemented a total abortion ban in late July 2022 — accounts for an estimated 45% of rape-related pregnancies in states without such exceptions. Missouri and Tennessee represented the next two highest pregnancy rates among states without rape exceptions, with 5,825 and 4,993, respectively.



from dallas morning news https://archive.is/yyc3P



Response to keithbvadu2 (Reply #12)

valleyrogue

(1,191 posts)
72. I wouldn't doubt Fuentes doesn't believe one word he says.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 04:45 PM
Nov 11

He comes across as a complete parody, beginning with his demeanor.

It's all about the grift with him.

Irish_Dem

(59,700 posts)
78. Yep, maybe women will no longer be in the picture.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 04:56 PM
Nov 11

If women go 4B the three Fs will just turn into the two Fs.

rainin

(3,194 posts)
23. My son is a 10 with high emotional intelligence and a Democrat
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:46 PM
Nov 10

He's deployed so I haven't had a chance to ask him if he's encountering this. I sincerely hope girls are swearing off maga men, not all men. It would be devastating if his future soul mate swore off all men and passed up this gem of a young man. On the other hand, I hope maga men never have sex again.

Ontheboundry

(302 posts)
39. Maga women I doubt
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:47 PM
Nov 10

Are joining this movement thus liberal men will suffer the most from it

And let's make sure alcohol is abstained from or else things will crumble quickly

valleyrogue

(1,191 posts)
73. Men aren't entitled to a "soul mate." THIS is the issue here.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 04:46 PM
Nov 11

Women don't owe men anything.

love_katz

(2,870 posts)
84. Exactly.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:23 PM
Nov 11

Women don't OWE anything to men: not our smiles, not our love or companionship, and most definitely not our bodies.

Women have the right to sovereignty over our bodies and lives.

A partnership is only actually a partnership if both people consent to it, and both treat each other as equals. Lip service does not count and abuse and forced servitude are NOT partnership.

See the book, The Chalis and the Blade, by Rhian Eisler. She has a website, The Center for Partnership Studies.

And, to any man who thinks that I am being over the top, ask yourself: would you really want to be abused and enslaved? How would you react if you were facing this kind of threat?

GiqueCee

(1,514 posts)
24. Can't say as I blame them...
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 09:49 PM
Nov 10

... but, for the moment at least, please limit it to Republican men. Not ALL of us are irredeemable assholes. A lot, yeah, probably, but not all. It's those on the Dark Side of the aisle that are causing all the problems.

Irish_Dem

(59,700 posts)
32. Pregnant dying woman is just as dead whether impregnated by a good guy or bad guy.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:30 PM
Nov 10

A good guy can't help her or save her any more than a bad guy.

 

TheKentuckian

(26,314 posts)
47. Fair enough but she would be ending the relationship
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:18 PM
Nov 10

No bad feelings, I understand the position but I will not continue under the revised terms and conditions.

Irish_Dem

(59,700 posts)
53. Dead women cannot break up with anyone. And the women who are still alive do not wish to be dead.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:29 PM
Nov 10

It is an issue of life and death.
That seems like a simple concept to understand.

And to have sympathy for.

Men leaving the discussion is part of the problem.

paleotn

(19,531 posts)
49. Problem is, figuring out who's dark and who ain't isn't always easy.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:19 PM
Nov 10

More lies have been told in the realms of love and sex than any other human activity. In this climate, I don't blame women one bit for putting us on hold until things improve.

LearnedHand

(4,221 posts)
48. That you made this comment shows you have zero idea what the issue actually is
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:19 PM
Nov 10

This has nothing to do with misandry and everything to do with exactly how dangerous it has become to be a woman of any age in this country.

Ursus Arctos

(58 posts)
88. Protecting your life
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:44 PM
Nov 11

does not equate to hatred. I love the idea of skydiving, but I don't want to risk my life, so I don't do it. A woman can love the idea of a relationship with a man, but when every pregnancy (no matter how healthy she is) can result in death, and her life is not valuable in the eyes of the law, that relationship may not seem worth it. It's really not always about men.

Response to Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin (Original post)

gordianot

(15,535 posts)
40. You could always get a cat.
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 10:51 PM
Nov 10

That would make a point with JD (whatever his surname he is using this week).

Figarosmom

(3,298 posts)
41. Thats what ive been
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:01 PM
Nov 10

Saying for years would happen. Women would just decide the hell with it. There has been declining desire for any of these things anyway.

bdamomma

(66,720 posts)
44. I would
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:09 PM
Nov 10

say cut men off, and women should take some sort of defense training. That saying Your body, my choice will not stand. I think there will be more assaults of women too.

paleotn

(19,531 posts)
52. Who can blame them given recent events?
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:28 PM
Nov 10

Yes, yes, not ALL men are magat types, but until we start policing our own, we're going to have to live with the consequences. That's life, boys. Suck it up. To paraphrase Axel Foley, "Everybody! Parties over! Magats fucked it up for everybody!"

Metaphorical

(2,345 posts)
62. I think the Lysistra movement makes sense
Sun Nov 10, 2024, 11:52 PM
Nov 10

though I fear that we're going to see a significant rise in spouse abuse and divorces coming out of this. Trump is encouraging it, of course - beat sense into your wives, keep them submissive, a return to the 1950s where men had total control of their families.

I wouldn't be at all surprised to see a contemporary version of the Underground Railroad, with red state women fleeing their homes to make their way to friendly states.

lindysalsagal

(22,446 posts)
64. If you can't get them to vote once every 4 years, what makes you think
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 01:32 AM
Nov 11

They'll become nuns? Or that it will change men?

mainer

(12,208 posts)
65. Don't swear off all men -- just MAGA men
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 01:40 AM
Nov 11

Liberal men are fine, and we should hang out with only them. Let the conservative gene pool die out.
It will enrage MAGA guys when they see the guys they call “soy boys” getting happily married and having kids while they’re left in their bunkers jerking off to their guns.

Rebl2

(14,949 posts)
68. If I
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 12:56 PM
Nov 11

was a young woman today knowing I did not want children, I would find a gynecologist that would tie my tubes.

Jspur

(662 posts)
70. It won't work since most young men are used to not
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 04:40 PM
Nov 11

getting sex. I think Gen Z has the highest rate of male virgins out of any generations when it comes to people in their 20's. Also, there are still a lot of women who need sex as much as men. Better solutions for these women is to find guys who are liberal to have relationships with that way their needs can be met, and they can feel good that they are not laying up with the enemy.

valleyrogue

(1,191 posts)
76. It is working. The proof of it is the drastic decline in birthrates and marriage rates.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 04:50 PM
Nov 11

Nobody "needs" sex, by the way, except for reproduction. Even that isn't necessary with IVF and AI. A desire is not the same thing as a "need."

A need is food, water, clothing, shelter. You won't die without sex.

Jspur

(662 posts)
81. That doesn't mean women are not having
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:07 PM
Nov 11

sex. Plenty of women are still having sex despite not getting married or having kids. This is not the 1950's where people wait until they are married to have sex lol. You still have birth control, condoms, etc to prevent women from getting pregnant. Granted it's not pleasant for a lot of women having to take those safety measures to prevent pregnancy but plenty of women are still having sex.

I'm single and I'm 41 but I'm in good shape and I still get hit on by women of all ages. That's how I know there are still plenty of women out there who still want to have sex. Plus, I'm still in the dating game today and get dates regularly.

Humans need companionship at least most of them do. Very few can go through life without having a lover regardless of whether they are a man or woman. Women can withhold having companionship longer than men because they have more active social lives but eventually a lot of them will still comeback to seeking a companion. I have seen this with the women in my own family where they have gone long stretches being single and living their life but eventually, they all ended up still pursuing relationships with men.

This gender war is stupid. We need to stop being in denial that neither gender needs the other one. Men and Women need each other, and I would say half the reason people are unhappy today is because they can't find the relationship, they need and desire.

Baitball Blogger

(48,431 posts)
79. Well, do be kind to the Harris-voting men, please.
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 04:57 PM
Nov 11

I am not suggesting anything nefarious. Just enjoy their company and don't cut them out of your lives, otherwise we're only hurting ourselves when young women start showing difficulty having relationships with any kind of man.

That kind of woman was portrayed by Ellen James in the World According to Garp. Let's not go back there.

Farmer-Rick

(11,538 posts)
85. Seems easy enough to find out
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:32 PM
Nov 11

Just asked the man in the beginning of the convo if he ever voted for Trump. Most Maga men are quite proud of their awfulness.

hatrack

(61,194 posts)
86. Even setting aside 4B, wondering about overall US birth rates now through 2028 . . .
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:39 PM
Nov 11

I'm guessing pretty much flat-lining, given the impending bullshit tsunami.

love_katz

(2,870 posts)
87. While some replies from men on this thread show they get it
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 05:44 PM
Nov 11

There's other replies that show that some of them don't get it.

This situation began shifting when the red states gave in to religious fanatics, who enacted complete abortion bans even in cases of rape or incest, passed laws to punish anyone who helped someone get an abortion, and even passed laws paying a bounty for snitching on anyone who aided anyone in any way to get an abortion. They passed laws restricting interstate travel to get medical care.

Because of all this, and because of the horrors about to be inflicted by Project 2025, the simple fact remains: becoming pregnant, even by loving and supportive liberal men, IS POTENTIALLY a DEATH SENTENCE for women. Period.

I sincerely and deeply wish that 4B wasn't the wisest option, but the ugly facts remain the facts.

The fright wing HATES women. They want to enslave us through our lady parts, and have no problem treating us just as badly as black people were treated during the slave times. To them, we are property, to be used, abused, and thrown away when they are done with us. They are going to take away birth control and no-fault divorce.

The handwriting is on the wall, and their intent for women couldn't be clearer.

karynnj

(60,013 posts)
90. Very stupid because Democratic women are more likely to be partners to
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 06:15 PM
Nov 11

Democratic men than MAGA men.

This is also another stupid post where we are to blame everyone in a group even if they personally were on our side.

Jspur

(662 posts)
92. Agreed some of the women in this thread are not better than these MAGA and Redpill
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 06:30 PM
Nov 11

guys. The philosophy of MAGA men and Redpill guys is that all women are untrustworthy whores that will use the system to destroy men whether it's through divorce, child support, false sexual allegations. These guys are essentially promoting to men that all women are evil and are not worthy of trust and respect.

Now with some liberal women they are also to the extreme in which where they are shouting all men are abusive, rapists, cheaters, liars, misogynist. They are also pushing the narrative that men are not worthy of trust and respect. I don't see this being any different than the hate filled crap MAGA men and Redpill are pushing about women.

We are now to the point where both sides have gone to the extreme with their view and treatment of the opposite sex. If we are to win this culture war with MAGA we have to stop being extreme about the other side. We should always acknowledge they are some terrible men in the world, but not all are horrible and the same goes for women. The only way we are going to be able to beat MAGA is by not being extreme because their extremeness will eventually turn people off over time if there is another side by contrast just comes across as normal instead of being just as crazy as them.

Linda ladeewolf

(492 posts)
91. A niece
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 06:16 PM
Nov 11

Just went and had her tubes tied off. She doesn’t want children, neither does her husband. She’s only like 28 or so. I think a lot of young women are going to opt for this, if possible.

DemonGoddess

(5,125 posts)
93. In point of fact
Mon Nov 11, 2024, 07:46 PM
Nov 11

for safety reasons alone, any CIS woman not in a good relationship, as well as any single woman really should do this, for her own protection. It's horrible that it's come to this.

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