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Nevilledog

(53,250 posts)
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:29 PM Nov 15

We Asked Young Men Why They Voted for Donald Trump--Here's What They Said

https://www.glamour.com/story/why-did-young-men-vote-for-donald-trump


Nic Sumners, a 21-year-old cosmetic car repairman from Virginia, says he is pro-choice. But when he voted in the 2024 presidential election, he did so for Donald Trump.

Despite his personal beliefs, he says that Trump talks about the American people in a way that resonates with him, without—in his opinion—faulting him for his gender and sexual orientation.

“I’m a straight white man, and I feel like we take the blame for a lot of things,” Sumners says.

“Of course there are bad guys,” he adds, insisting he’s not one of them just because he voted for Trump. But what appealed to him about Donald Trump was that “his campaign was not coming after us. He was highlighting the American people, which we are. It doesn’t matter what color you are, what you may identify as. Since I wasn’t excluded, I resonated with it.”

Economics also played a part—Sumner’s mother lost her home during Joe Biden’s presidency (though he says she actually voted for Kamala Harris), and he’s struggled to afford his own rent. He appreciates Trump’s “emphasis on the economy and building America up again.”

But one of the biggest issues for him has been the way men in general are assumed to be inherently bad people because of their politics or their gender.

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We Asked Young Men Why They Voted for Donald Trump--Here's What They Said (Original Post) Nevilledog Nov 15 OP
I fucking figured all of that "patriarchy" talk along with "toxic masculinity" would start to turn off young, white men. SoFlaBro Nov 15 #1
Young white men wanted to be "turned off". It's rationalization for bad behavior. Walleye Nov 15 #3
I said it multiple times here - only to be told I was wrong. PeaceWave Nov 15 #5
You are wrong Cirsium Nov 15 #31
Right up there with Christians being persecuted TexasBushwhacker Nov 15 #33
Exactly Cirsium Nov 15 #40
Not out of date at all - it is alive and strong in Texas TBF Nov 15 #105
Exactly. The only thing this proves Diraven Nov 15 #55
It was in place LONG before the "right-wing media." valleyrogue Nov 15 #67
WTF? Cirsium Nov 15 #114
For fuck's sake... Blue_Tires Nov 15 #62
And I've got something else to say... Blue_Tires Nov 15 #97
This needed to be said. I hope we listen. Ilikepurple Nov 15 #112
Exactly right Cirsium Nov 15 #115
Post removed Post removed Nov 15 #125
If the shoe fits... AZSkiffyGeek Nov 15 #6
If they are offended by "patriarchy" and "toxic masculinity" they need to ask themselves why. Coventina Nov 15 #8
My white husband and three Bettie Nov 15 #20
And they wonder why we choose the bear NT AZSkiffyGeek Nov 15 #24
Based on the division it created in our own party, I wonder if that bear was Russian. PeaceWave Nov 15 #25
Or maybe women are sick of patronizing men telling them not to worry about toxic masculinity and the patriarchy AZSkiffyGeek Nov 15 #28
Exactly... I'm. A white man... Happy Hoosier Nov 16 #132
Neither is mine. Neither is my son. Neither are my sons in law. CTyankee Nov 16 #135
If conservative white boys are invited in, who do we kick out? Duncan Grant Nov 15 #30
It seems that what they actually want Bettie Nov 15 #78
I know these types Ndp5 Nov 15 #80
Young women are certainly turned off by the patriarchy and the toxic masculinity of Republicans. Quiet Em Nov 15 #46
So to coin one of their favorite catchphrases Blue_Tires Nov 15 #61
The truth is a turnoff. I quit caring about them a long time ago. valleyrogue Nov 15 #68
Based on most of the replies in this thread, Democrats still don't get it. Ex Lurker Nov 15 #71
Thank you! I am 100% for trans rights and inclusion. But I know that I fucking can't convince a Rogan listener leading SoFlaBro Nov 15 #82
Bingo. Nothing is accomplished by starting with "Most white men are toxic, dangerous and murderers." PeaceWave Nov 15 #87
Statistically speaking angrychair Nov 15 #113
And lost 2 elections to a burgeoning autocrat SDANation Nov 15 #122
We got 73 million votes (and still counting) angrychair Nov 15 #123
We DO "get it." People like you do not. valleyrogue Nov 15 #100
Harris was proposing to lift everybody up. Freethinker65 Nov 16 #128
Oh really. ismnotwasm Nov 15 #92
I'm sorry, but he sounds like an ignorant dick to me Walleye Nov 15 #2
This message was self-deleted by its author onecaliberal Nov 15 #9
Irony was certainly lost on him. nt RandomNumbers Nov 15 #73
Proving yet again, you can't fix stupid. CanonRay Nov 15 #4
It is self sabotage to demonize the single biggest voting block. We're supposed to be inclusive. PeaceWave Nov 15 #7
I'm sorry but I'm not going to include people who want to hurt and or kill people. onecaliberal Nov 15 #11
Not all young white men "want to hurt and or kill people." PeaceWave Nov 15 #12
Yes I know. I gave birth to two of them and am married to another. onecaliberal Nov 15 #15
You're wrong. "The overwhelming majority of young white men do NOT hurt and kill people." PeaceWave Nov 15 #17
Data is your friend. onecaliberal Nov 15 #53
How about you show us the data - since it's not everyone else's responsibility to fact check you... PeaceWave Nov 15 #57
Your last post on this site was 15 minutes ago, i.e you've had a chance to respond with Abolishinist Nov 15 #126
The overwhelming number of them don't care one way or another. haele Nov 15 #120
Really? Zeitghost Nov 15 #49
No, it isn't our "messaging." Why is this still being repeated? valleyrogue Nov 15 #70
"Not All Men" AZSkiffyGeek Nov 15 #21
They aren't the largest voting bloc. White women are. Nt spooky3 Nov 15 #18
We've tried to include them and they rejected us Blue_Tires Nov 15 #58
You have to be kidding. Seriously. They can't be fixed. n/t valleyrogue Nov 15 #69
From what I'm seeing, your suggestion is that we Bettie Nov 15 #79
Anyone mention snowybirdie Nov 15 #10
So, he voted for a convicted felon who will break up immigrant families, take away reproductive rights of women, Yavin4 Nov 15 #13
"Not their issue"? I can hear the whinging when the Phoenix61 Nov 15 #14
Sigh. Now the "lesson" Democrats will likely take from this is Bettie Nov 15 #16
If you vote for a known rapist Johonny Nov 15 #19
Sounds like a guy who can't wait to pay 18 years of child support after a one night stand. Vinca Nov 15 #22
No wonder that these losers can't find a woman, Squaredeal Nov 15 #23
They need Jordan Peterson to tell them to take a shower and clean their room AZSkiffyGeek Nov 15 #27
I am so fucking tired of men taking everything said about men as a personal affront to themselves. intheflow Nov 15 #26
If you say it like that, it's offensive to me. This is a forum of Democrats. When you say, "FFS, grow the fuck up, Men!" Doodley Nov 15 #60
Men who jump on women posting in liberal forum intheflow Nov 15 #64
Why are you so aggressive towards me? Doodley Nov 15 #103
Why are you making this about you? intheflow Nov 16 #129
Bye. Doodley Nov 16 #134
I'm shocked by what I'm reading here soandso Nov 15 #89
Thank you. I'm a white man. Should I be ashamed? I'm a poet, a vegetarian, a Democrat, a humble soul. I took care of Doodley Nov 15 #98
I'm a vegetarian, too soandso Nov 15 #107
We can be in the Veg Squad! I will remember your name and your kindness and look out for you on the DU highways. Doodley Nov 15 #116
Aww, thanks! soandso Nov 15 #118
It isn't intense man hating. intheflow Nov 16 #130
Perhaps so many young men has been bypassed in recent years being that the IT revolution bypassed a lot of them, SWBTATTReg Nov 15 #29
Will your response be similarly dismissive when AI "bypasses" millions over the next decade? PeaceWave Nov 15 #32
Yes, but the thing I didn't add the first time was that millions of new jobs were created back then, and will be when SWBTATTReg Nov 15 #34
I think, as do many others, that AI is going to be seismic, resulting in massive job losses... PeaceWave Nov 15 #35
I think a overreaction. People really don't know at this point what AI truly is yet. The tech is so new, that even IT, SWBTATTReg Nov 15 #47
I'm close to retirement in an unrelated field. My primary concern is for the next generation. PeaceWave Nov 15 #48
Perhaps congrats on retiring soon! The next generation hopefully is looking forward to this whole new field, SWBTATTReg Nov 15 #51
AI is cancer Blue_Tires Nov 15 #59
Fuck nic spanone Nov 15 #36
Did it ever occur to Nic that women in general are assumed to be inherently bad people because of our gender. Quiet Em Nov 15 #37
Where are you getting that? soandso Nov 15 #93
Post removed Post removed Nov 15 #99
So you can't address what you said? soandso Nov 15 #102
I could address you, Quiet Em Nov 15 #110
Your choice soandso Nov 15 #111
Wild statement? Quiet Em Nov 15 #119
My "type"? soandso Nov 15 #124
What is he talking about? I never heard Kamala talk about white males being the problem. ellemb Nov 15 #38
Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate told him she did though! AZSkiffyGeek Nov 15 #44
He sounds like a 21 year old boy striving to be a REAL man by conforming to the mythology. Ping Tung Nov 15 #39
So basically he kacekwl Nov 15 #41
Whining bitches with not enough education or sense to make living wages JT45242 Nov 15 #42
Well, I can only say that if Trump Dan Nov 15 #43
Maybe not women radical noodle Nov 15 #85
I suspect that his view Dan Nov 15 #86
They'll need cannon fodder radical noodle Nov 15 #94
Oh you poor little snowflakes! Did your feelings get hurt? yardwork Nov 15 #45
They may not be bad people liberalmediaaddict Nov 15 #50
he can ride out on the same god damn horse Anza404 Nov 15 #52
Try getting a date when you are homeless peregrinus Nov 15 #54
Idiocracy wasn't supposed to be a documentary. n/t flvegan Nov 15 #56
Yeah, OK. Solly Mack Nov 15 #63
Okay, the "Not all FITB are FITB " argument, weak... haele Nov 15 #65
Aggrieved white males afraid of losing a tiny bit of their privilege. valleyrogue Nov 15 #66
Alot of these young men today Dem4life1234 Nov 15 #72
Dear young men who voted for TFG, don't get fucked. raccoon Nov 15 #74
I will admit it Bettie Nov 15 #75
Good luck with them Dem4life1234 Nov 15 #76
I can't tolerate four more years of "understanding" morons and bigots. TheKentuckian Nov 15 #77
Which came first Progressive dog Nov 15 #81
Poor, poor white men. choie Nov 15 #83
Na you're just a salty little incel vercetti2021 Nov 15 #84
Bravo. You win the prize for least promising attempt at voter outreach. Yeesh. PeaceWave Nov 15 #88
As a trans person I don't give a rats ass anymore vercetti2021 Nov 15 #90
My Voter outreach. Dudes! You white right? Cool. Ilikepurple Nov 15 #101
Asshole. Scrivener7 Nov 15 #91
If ANYONE, male or female, tells me they "resonate" with Trump in any way, they are DEAD to me instantly! CTyankee Nov 15 #95
sonny boy needs to Kali Nov 15 #96
TLDR version "I'm very stupid and don't understand what anyone is saying or RockRaven Nov 15 #104
"Those guys are still out there and they're not going away." J_William_Ryan Nov 15 #106
No "real man" would vote for Trump--- Jack Valentino Nov 15 #108
Trump appealed to his base Docreed2003 Nov 15 #109
All that aside, any Trump voter can kiss my ass!!! oasis Nov 15 #117
Who is hurting these boy's feelings anyway? Klarkashton Nov 15 #121
Well he seems inherently non-critical thinking and easy to exploit and manipulate. Freethinker65 Nov 15 #127
I'm guessing probably reasons were complicated pinkstarburst Nov 16 #131
This will probably get me flamed Asa13 Nov 16 #133

SoFlaBro

(3,348 posts)
1. I fucking figured all of that "patriarchy" talk along with "toxic masculinity" would start to turn off young, white men.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:31 PM
Nov 15

Cirsium

(812 posts)
31. You are wrong
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:04 PM
Nov 15

Right wing media has told white men over and over again that they are special victims, that they are an oppressed group. That is a lie.

It was not "all of that 'patriarchy' talk along with 'toxic masculinity' that turned off young, white men." Rather it was right wing media telling them that they should be turned off.

Cirsium

(812 posts)
40. Exactly
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:25 PM
Nov 15

Should we only say nice things about those fascist political organizations masquerading as churches for fear of alienating the followers?

I am probably out of date on that. Membership and participation in those is in decline. Historically the fascists have used religion to get into power, but then once in power replaced religion with fanatical devotion to the fascist party. Trump rallies over time became more and more like tent revival meetings, with the crowd swaying to music with their eyes closed and arms in the air.

America - the land of the tent revival faith healer and the snake oil salesman. With Trump we get both!

TBF

(34,318 posts)
105. Not out of date at all - it is alive and strong in Texas
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:20 PM
Nov 15

Most of the white middle-aged women who voted for Trump are likely from that cohort of church-going folks. It's still very strong here. Before the election we were already seeing it down here as they tried to infiltrate our school boards in order to take out books they didn't like (w/some success). Democrats always have to put together a coalition of groups to get their votes, and it's very much the same with republicans. When the election results first came out, I was very focused on sexism/racism. That is still strong, but I think the church vote this time really helped them out. There is going to be a lot of pressure from that group to tear down the wall between church and state. They've been chipping at it a long time, but putting people like Huckabee into high positions of power indicates that Trump is going to let them do their thing.

Diraven

(1,046 posts)
55. Exactly. The only thing this proves
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 05:17 PM
Nov 15

Is that right wing propaganda worked. No Democrats ever said anything like what these guys accuse us of.

valleyrogue

(1,101 posts)
67. It was in place LONG before the "right-wing media."
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:17 PM
Nov 15

Go clear back to the 1960s at least with the Wallace voters.

Cirsium

(812 posts)
114. WTF?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:54 PM
Nov 15

I didn't know this was be kind to fascists and racists week.

I was engaged in the struggle in the 60s. What is your point about that?

Blue_Tires

(55,848 posts)
62. For fuck's sake...
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 05:40 PM
Nov 15

I'm not sure why you're so hellbent on defending them...

PLEASE understand that if we completely eliminated "patriarchy" or "toxic masculinity" or "DEI" from our party platform, these white boys would just invent another reason not to vote for us... That's how the hustle works.

Blue_Tires

(55,848 posts)
97. And I've got something else to say...
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:02 PM
Nov 15

I don't speak for all black folks but I speak for some black folks when I say instead of chasing the MAGA frat bro vote and coddling their aggrieved egos, folks should be more concerned with keeping the black vote intact... Because right now we're feeling betrayed after we did our part for Harris and her 97% flawless campaign... We're feeling backstabbed... That every other major demographic left our asses twisting in the wind... That's what the party SHOULD be concerned about, not about some white dude hurt feelings because a literature teacher made him read a Toni Morrison book...

Response to Cirsium (Reply #115)

AZSkiffyGeek

(12,600 posts)
6. If the shoe fits...
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:34 PM
Nov 15

Sorry that these little boys got their fee-fees hurt. Maybe if they weren't toxic fans of alt-right incels, they wouldn't be called toxic...

Coventina

(27,908 posts)
8. If they are offended by "patriarchy" and "toxic masculinity" they need to ask themselves why.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:36 PM
Nov 15

My white husband is not offended by those terms.

Bettie

(17,100 posts)
20. My white husband and three
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:46 PM
Nov 15

white sons are also not offended by those terms. But, they are all decent human beings.

AZSkiffyGeek

(12,600 posts)
28. Or maybe women are sick of patronizing men telling them not to worry about toxic masculinity and the patriarchy
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:55 PM
Nov 15

But go ahead and blame Russia and don't look at the things being said in this thread.

Happy Hoosier

(8,405 posts)
132. Exactly... I'm. A white man...
Sat Nov 16, 2024, 10:32 AM
Nov 16

I’m not offended by the term toxic masculinity because I know it does not apply to me.

Duncan Grant

(8,549 posts)
30. If conservative white boys are invited in, who do we kick out?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:02 PM
Nov 15

And we’ll have to kick someone out to appease these little entitled pr*cks. They’re not victims by any stretch of the imagination.

After reading the article, it seems as if there’s considerable resistance to DEI and anti-racism. At least one of these young men felt he was forced to be a closeted Republican on his campus — and boy, does he ever resent that. The poor dear. What an opportunity for him to practice empathy, right? But no, he’s the real victim here. Spare me…

Bettie

(17,100 posts)
78. It seems that what they actually want
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:42 PM
Nov 15

is to be the ONLY voices anyone hears.

They want an exclusive hold on all power, they want to be able to decide everything for those they consider less than they are and, spoiler, they consider everyone who isn't white and male to be less than they are.

Entitled pricks indeed.

Ndp5

(72 posts)
80. I know these types
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:46 PM
Nov 15

And many of them didn’t even vote for Obama. They like to bash feminists and talk about how victimized they are because people have pointed out their unearned privilege. It is a waste of time to chase after their votes.

That said, don’t overlook the details about the ways the guy’s family was hurting economically. If it wasn’t, he probably still wouldn’t have voted for Harris, but he might have stayed home or voted third party.

Quiet Em

(923 posts)
46. Young women are certainly turned off by the patriarchy and the toxic masculinity of Republicans.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:29 PM
Nov 15

Young women overwhelmingly voted for Democrats. And they don't want to date, marry or have children with these white men who uphold it.

valleyrogue

(1,101 posts)
68. The truth is a turnoff. I quit caring about them a long time ago.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:19 PM
Nov 15

They think the world is their oyster, and it is still true to a great extent. They have unearned privilege, and they are stomping mad they have had to share an itty bitty bit of it.

These are the MRAs and incels and general white male supremacists.

I quit caring about them decades ago. They can't be fixed.

Ex Lurker

(3,913 posts)
71. Based on most of the replies in this thread, Democrats still don't get it.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:32 PM
Nov 15

Maybe they will before 2026. Right now a very sizable voting block believes Democrats don't represent them, have nothing to offer, and are at best not interested in them, or at worst is hostile to them. And reading some of these replies, it's easy to see how they arrived at that impression.

Those guys are still out there and they're not going away. Democrats can continue to lash out, saying, "those idiots, why didn't they vote for us?" and continue to be mystified at why we lose elections. Or we can make an affirmative argument for why our policies are better for them. Those votes will be up for grabs again. If we don't do something to win them over, they'll default to Trump or his successors.



SoFlaBro

(3,348 posts)
82. Thank you! I am 100% for trans rights and inclusion. But I know that I fucking can't convince a Rogan listener leading
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 07:10 PM
Nov 15

with that. I know men can be toxic. I am one. But I don't try to convince them of that shit. I lead with common ground to bring them around then we can get to the stuff they call "woke".

angrychair

(9,743 posts)
113. Statistically speaking
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:52 PM
Nov 15

They are.
Not sure what you're getting out here though. So we make nice with people that are now telling women "your body, my choice" or worse?
Fuck that noise. I'm not playing nice with people that voted in favor of forcing a 16 yr old girl to bleed to death in a parking lot because her dying fetus is technically "alive".
Since Obama we have bent over backwards trying to accommodate right of center people and it has got us fuck all but it has alienated our Democratic base.

SDANation

(429 posts)
122. And lost 2 elections to a burgeoning autocrat
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 11:03 PM
Nov 15

If the Democratic Party can’t expand their base with the largest voting block in the country, they might as well fold up the tent and give the next 20 years to republicans.

angrychair

(9,743 posts)
123. We got 73 million votes (and still counting)
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 11:22 PM
Nov 15

Other than Biden in 2020 she got more votes than any Democratic Party presidential candidate in history.
White vote as a voting block is declining. Hispanic and mixed race people are the electorate of the future. The Hispanic vote will likely be locked in for generations to come after the next two years. The Republicans are as incompetent as they are racist. That will become crystal clear in the next couple of months.

valleyrogue

(1,101 posts)
100. We DO "get it." People like you do not.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:08 PM
Nov 15

You act like we have never won an election.

You cannot change these aggrieved white males. EVER.

Freethinker65

(11,139 posts)
128. Harris was proposing to lift everybody up.
Sat Nov 16, 2024, 12:04 AM
Nov 16

This guy didn't want that. He needs to feel superior to some group.

What exactly do you propose? Which disadvantaged groups should Democrats abandon so this guy can feel at least he's superior to them.

Walleye

(35,694 posts)
2. I'm sorry, but he sounds like an ignorant dick to me
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:32 PM
Nov 15

I will never forgive these little boys for not using their brains. Poor little feelings they think they’ve been neglected. Maybe we would have more respect for them if they would think and listen every once in a while. They don’t want to get respect in the normal way, they want to be bullies. Sorry, I’m not very understanding of these people. I hope he suffers from it too.

Response to Walleye (Reply #2)

onecaliberal

(35,835 posts)
15. Yes I know. I gave birth to two of them and am married to another.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:39 PM
Nov 15

The problem is the overwhelming majority of them DO hurt and kill people and voted for that to happen on steroids.

PeaceWave

(946 posts)
17. You're wrong. "The overwhelming majority of young white men do NOT hurt and kill people."
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:42 PM
Nov 15

It is exactly this kind of messaging that has the potential to manifest itself. You should know better.

PeaceWave

(946 posts)
57. How about you show us the data - since it's not everyone else's responsibility to fact check you...
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 05:28 PM
Nov 15

You said "the overwhelming majority of young white men hurt and kill people." Do tell. We're all ears.

Abolishinist

(1,974 posts)
126. Your last post on this site was 15 minutes ago, i.e you've had a chance to respond with
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 11:49 PM
Nov 15

some 'data' to a response made over 6 hours ago. So far, nothing. Still working on it?



haele

(13,529 posts)
120. The overwhelming number of them don't care one way or another.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 10:22 PM
Nov 15

If it happens to their friends or family, they might.
It's worse than being a toxic male, it's being a man-baby.
These are the boys waiting for someone to hand them the tools and tell them what to do. Other than that, they retreat into their social bubbles.
The world around them is really narrow and sooo comfortably numb, even if they're verging on homelessness.

If they vote, they voted for someone who focuses on them and will tell them they're okay as they are so he's going to make the world around them better for them instead of voting for their Mother who's paying attention to everyone and trying to help everyone else to be and live better.

Haele

 

Zeitghost

(4,557 posts)
49. Really?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:43 PM
Nov 15

The vast majority?

This is exactly what is wrong with our messaging.

We continue to demonize entire populations and then wonder why they won’t vote for us.

valleyrogue

(1,101 posts)
70. No, it isn't our "messaging." Why is this still being repeated?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:22 PM
Nov 15

You can't fix woman-hating racists. You go after the non-voters or uncommitted.

White males aren't owed one thing from women. Period.

Bettie

(17,100 posts)
79. From what I'm seeing, your suggestion is that we
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:46 PM
Nov 15

center straight white males in the party and stop talking about women or people of color or anyone but straight white men having silly things like rights, because it hurts their delicate feelings to think that there are other people on the planet who might matter to anyone.

Does that cover it?

Yavin4

(36,394 posts)
13. So, he voted for a convicted felon who will break up immigrant families, take away reproductive rights of women,
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:39 PM
Nov 15

purge our military, and give Putin admin access to all our secrets...all of that bc the Democrats make you feel like you're the bad guy.

Here's my suggestion. Stop being the fucking bad guy.

Phoenix61

(17,649 posts)
14. "Not their issue"? I can hear the whinging when the
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:39 PM
Nov 15

judge in their child support case makes it their issue. The lamenting they will do when their pay check gets garnished and their IRS return gets deposited to her account, not theirs.

Bettie

(17,100 posts)
16. Sigh. Now the "lesson" Democrats will likely take from this is
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:42 PM
Nov 15

Last edited Fri Nov 15, 2024, 08:20 PM - Edit history (1)

that straight, white men must be centered and catered to in all future campaigns.

They are angry about the fact that they no longer have an exclusive hold on power in this country.

Johonny

(22,048 posts)
19. If you vote for a known rapist
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:45 PM
Nov 15

You are actually a bad person. Maybe, his problem was not realizing his actual horrific tolerance for rape, fraud, sex assault, racism, and misogyny.

Vinca

(51,053 posts)
22. Sounds like a guy who can't wait to pay 18 years of child support after a one night stand.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:47 PM
Nov 15

What's wrong with people? They think of themselves and only themselves.

Squaredeal

(536 posts)
23. No wonder that these losers can't find a woman,
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:47 PM
Nov 15

Unless they were to pay for or assault one, just like their hero.

AZSkiffyGeek

(12,600 posts)
27. They need Jordan Peterson to tell them to take a shower and clean their room
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:53 PM
Nov 15

Of course they can't find women.

intheflow

(28,941 posts)
26. I am so fucking tired of men taking everything said about men as a personal affront to themselves.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:52 PM
Nov 15

FFS, grow the fuck up, Men! If you don't assault women, talk trashy locker-room crap, support women's reproductive health, co-parent, etc., etc., the response to talk about misogyny and patriarchy is not to double-down on misogyny and patriarchy by electing a rapist, it's to tell all the asshole men out there to STFU, treat women as humans and not incubators, etc., etc. "Dude, you're making the rest of us look bad with that talk!" So. Fucking. Easy. And apparently, impossible for the vast majority of men to even imagine, much less respond that way.

Doodley

(10,402 posts)
60. If you say it like that, it's offensive to me. This is a forum of Democrats. When you say, "FFS, grow the fuck up, Men!"
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 05:34 PM
Nov 15

who are you talking to?

intheflow

(28,941 posts)
64. Men who jump on women posting in liberal forum
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 05:53 PM
Nov 15

when we express our frustration with the patriarchy. What you got from that was a feeling personally attacked because I didn’t qualify my comment by saying “MAGA men” or conservative men. Or whatever. If you are telling other men to STFU when you hear them spouting sexist bullshit, then I’m obviously not talking to or about you. So when I say, “Grow up,” this is what I’m talking about.

Meanwhile, my whole life I’ve heard blanket stereotypes about women that don’t apply to me. Gave up yelling, “Not me!” by the age of 20 because I grew up. There is a toxic culture that’s rooted in maleness. Fight THAT, not me.

intheflow

(28,941 posts)
129. Why are you making this about you?
Sat Nov 16, 2024, 07:54 AM
Nov 16

Do you practice defending women as autonomous beings in a room full of men? If so, it has nothing to do with you.

Are you a shitty man who doesn’t stand up for women in a roomful of men? Well, yeah, this post is about you. Step up to the plate, Mighty Casey.

soandso

(1,178 posts)
89. I'm shocked by what I'm reading here
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 08:12 PM
Nov 15

It's intense man hating. I grew up with two big brothers who I adored and adored me. I like men as much as I like women. Ying and yang, both having different attributes. To read this thread, you'd come away thinking all white guys are abusers and killers. Talk about fringe. It's pathological to have that kind of hatred toward any group of people because of their sex and skin color. Very disturbing to read this.

Doodley

(10,402 posts)
98. Thank you. I'm a white man. Should I be ashamed? I'm a poet, a vegetarian, a Democrat, a humble soul. I took care of
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:07 PM
Nov 15

family members who were ill and dying. I dote after my wife who is disabled. I don't like guns. I'm not competitive. I'm supposed to accept blanket insults of men. Yes, it sounds like man hatred. I wish we could be better. Thank you for saying so.

soandso

(1,178 posts)
107. I'm a vegetarian, too
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:25 PM
Nov 15

Maybe we could start demonizing all of the callous meat eaters and see how that sweeping generalization goes over.

You are welcome but do not have thank me for what is basic human decency and the acknowledgment that people are individuals and should be judged accordingly.

Doodley

(10,402 posts)
116. We can be in the Veg Squad! I will remember your name and your kindness and look out for you on the DU highways.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:56 PM
Nov 15

intheflow

(28,941 posts)
130. It isn't intense man hating.
Sat Nov 16, 2024, 08:06 AM
Nov 16

It a disgust of patriarchal systems and asking men to be as disgusted and repulsed by them as women are. If men can’t defend a woman’s right to dignity by recognizing female autonomy and defending it vocally and forcefully, they are perpetuating the system and ignoring their participation in the system. The biggest problem seems to be men who read posts raging against the shitty men we all know exist out there and for some reason, they take those posts personally. 🤔




SWBTATTReg

(24,107 posts)
29. Perhaps so many young men has been bypassed in recent years being that the IT revolution bypassed a lot of them,
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 03:59 PM
Nov 15

leaving them w/ fewer jobs that offer lower pay. Kind of makes sense. And these people lashed out at the rest of us for their failures as a result. Did they decide to go back to school and re-up their training, get proficient in IT or other new disciplines, so they could land a more higher paying job? No.

Funny thing, this kid appreciates the emphasis on the economy and supposedly building America up (again, sarcasm here). He's going to find out that he is still going to miss the boat/the so-called jobs that tRUMP will promise (tRUMP will probably cancel the Chips Act, that brings jobs in the Semiconductor market back to the US (the Chips Act)).

Again, another failure in progress as we speak. I don't expect anything from tRUMP. Look at them now, they all are acting like school ground bullies at recess time.

SWBTATTReg

(24,107 posts)
34. Yes, but the thing I didn't add the first time was that millions of new jobs were created back then, and will be when
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:08 PM
Nov 15

AI is finally defined and bought into play/the real world.

Or, do you think that IT and or AI simply just pops up all of a sudden, w/o being developed or tested or implemented, or whatever, just by itself? A little closed minded, I think.

PeaceWave

(946 posts)
35. I think, as do many others, that AI is going to be seismic, resulting in massive job losses...
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:13 PM
Nov 15

With nowhere near equal job creation. Hence the discussions going on regarding some procedure for "sharing the wealth" generated by AI - which I personally look upon dubiously. Whenever corporations are involved, altruism isn't exactly at the top of the agenda.

SWBTATTReg

(24,107 posts)
47. I think a overreaction. People really don't know at this point what AI truly is yet. The tech is so new, that even IT,
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:34 PM
Nov 15

and other professionals don't really know what it is yet. It takes lots of time for a new tech to be fully developed and we yet to see its full impact. And claiming that nowhere near enough job losses? How do you support this? Who's going to do the work of developing the AI, the interfaces, putting 'it' in, reshaping Corporate America for the AI, etc.? It's going to take a massive effort, by thousands of techs, either developing the software and/or tech for whatever AI entails. No one truly knows the full scope yet, very similar to what It was like back in the early 70s.

Back then, it was just a concept, and now it's spread throughout the entire business complex in America. The same will happen to AI, as more and more needs are ID'ed, and more and more bodies are added to help develop it, put it into play. There are over 5 million IT jobs for example in America alone, and over 100,000 jobs are hired alone each month in IT alone. What will AI be like? Probably at first, a little bit, and then when more and more needs are ID'ed, more and more will be devoted and then before you know it, another similar 'Industrial Revolution' will occur similar to the IT revolution, only w/ AI, especially when they finally figure out what all AI entails.

It's really exciting and if you want to ride the wave of jobs coming, get yourself into a 1 year class or something similar, there's not going to be much out there at the college level, as these types of jobs in these new tech fields are so new. Good luck to you, I plan on keeping an eye out, being that I'm still not 100% sure what AI will bring. It's so new.

SWBTATTReg

(24,107 posts)
51. Perhaps congrats on retiring soon! The next generation hopefully is looking forward to this whole new field,
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:58 PM
Nov 15

w/ tons of new opportunities. It's a whole wide open field of countless types of new (and unknown too) jobs, usually a lot of the new trainees are people in other jobs, such as in my field (IT programming, systems design, you name it), I had people we hired that were majors in french literature, music, and the like. They say that the Arts are very close to IT, so we hired lots of people in these fields.
Sure they had to go to training (I had a 16 week course in teaching this), but then they were ready to go, and found a new job within the company. Many companies will do the same, train their older jobs to be in these new slots.

Quiet Em

(923 posts)
37. Did it ever occur to Nic that women in general are assumed to be inherently bad people because of our gender.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:21 PM
Nov 15

I'm guessing no, since he voted for Trump.

soandso

(1,178 posts)
93. Where are you getting that?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 08:23 PM
Nov 15

I've never encountered that in my life (that I'm inherently bad because I'm female).

Response to soandso (Reply #93)

soandso

(1,178 posts)
102. So you can't address what you said?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:15 PM
Nov 15

One of my posts was hidden because animal rights was called a "right wing talking point" and another because I linked to an article at the Daily Mail.

Now, where is that coming from that females are considered bad people?

Quiet Em

(923 posts)
110. I could address you,
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:36 PM
Nov 15

but I'm going to choose not to. You simply can't be serious. I think you just like getting a rise from people. I don't play those games.

soandso

(1,178 posts)
111. Your choice
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:43 PM
Nov 15

but when you make such a wild statement, don't be surprised if someone asks you to elaborate.

Have a good one.

Quiet Em

(923 posts)
119. Wild statement?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 10:10 PM
Nov 15

Yeah, I know your type.

The Trump movement has been perfectly clear about how they feel about women, how they want to treat women, and how they want to troll women. There is no way you missed all that. You are just ok with it.

soandso

(1,178 posts)
124. My "type"?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 11:27 PM
Nov 15

Do tell what that what this.

Yes, I think it's a wild statement that you made - and you did not say it about the Trump campaign:

women in general are assumed to be inherently bad people because of our gender

And because I asked how came up with that, you say you know my type. I have no idea why you're so hostile when you could just explain why you make that claim. You said "in general" which implies society, at large, believes women are bad because of our sex and I don't agree. Some men, in our society, don't like women is more accurate.

AZSkiffyGeek

(12,600 posts)
44. Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate told him she did though!
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:28 PM
Nov 15

You know, those people that Harris whose ass Harris was supposed to kiss for votes.

Ping Tung

(1,294 posts)
39. He sounds like a 21 year old boy striving to be a REAL man by conforming to the mythology.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:22 PM
Nov 15
Eternal boyhood is the dream of a depressing percentage of American males, and the locker room is the temple where they worship arrested development. Russell Baker

JT45242

(2,904 posts)
42. Whining bitches with not enough education or sense to make living wages
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:25 PM
Nov 15

In areas that women make more than men it is usually caused by a combination of education gaps (women have attended and graduated college st higher rates than men this century) and the gutting of many union jobs.

Poor white men are generally poor because they didn't build the skills they need to make a living wage and then likely live in areas that proudly busted unions. They blame their plight on anti white sentiment rather than their refusal to get a credential (1 year, 2 year associate degree, or 4 year degree) in a field with job prospects that pay well.

I remember teaching in an outer suburbs if Dayton st the turn of the century. The local auto plant had a huge article in the Dayton daily news that said that they were phasing out unskilled labor positions and that they suggested people who wanted to work there in the future go to one of the local community college and study robotics operations or repairs.

I mentioned the article in class and how what we were learning in science would prepare them for those classes. I had two parents complain to the superintendent that I lied to their kids because their grandfather got their dad a job at the plant and his dad got him a job and he would be able to do the same for his son even if he was a HS dropout like him.

Seriously, I read the quote directly from the paper of some VP type at the jeep plant. Just trying to prepare students for what comes next.

Those students kids are now old enough to work and blame the Dems and not the billionaire overlords and their lapdog rethug stooges.

But really. All that is just an excuse to be a racist sexist piece of crap who doesn't take responsibility for what happens to themselves.

Dan

(4,095 posts)
43. Well, I can only say that if Trump
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:27 PM
Nov 15

Messes up International politics the way that he plans to do with his domestic agenda, White men (age 21) will definitely have an active voice in the future. And actually, all young men of a certain age.

It’s called the military draft - fighting, killing and dying.

See, with incompetence in government, especially his plan purging of the military - it might embolden our enemies. And then, conflict/war/police actions, whatever you want to call it. And led by leaders who are totally unqualified, unless you call kissing Trump’s ass a qualification, young men will needlessly die.

I should have said both young men and women of a certain age.

radical noodle

(8,595 posts)
85. Maybe not women
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 07:31 PM
Nov 15

since the candidate for Defense Secretary doesn't think women belong in the military... at least not in combat. So guys, get ready.

Dan

(4,095 posts)
86. I suspect that his view
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 07:38 PM
Nov 15

will change when the casualties run into the tens of thousands.

And we will discover another strange thing - the rich privileged will not be inclined to join and die for their Country. And a lot of the "real Americans" as the MAGA call themselves won't be inclined to join the casualty honor roll.

So, America First - come on Middle East, Korea, China, Russia - there are so many potential hot spots - and our stable genius will be able to handle one or all of them. Cause as he said, he had an uncle at MIT, so brains run in his family. Which we can all tell based on his vocabulary. (oh, forgot that dementia also runs in that family).

yardwork

(64,377 posts)
45. Oh you poor little snowflakes! Did your feelings get hurt?
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:28 PM
Nov 15

Somehow my three sons managed to overcome this terrible, horrible sexism and vote for Harris.

A bunch of literal babies couldn't bring themselves to vote for a Black woman and I'm supposed to take the blame? Fuck that.

liberalmediaaddict

(936 posts)
50. They may not be bad people
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 04:51 PM
Nov 15

But the voted for the most awful, cruel and dangerously incompetent man on the planet to be leader of the free world.

They may not be bad but they're undeniably selfish and indifferent to other people's suffering.

Anza404

(40 posts)
52. he can ride out on the same god damn horse
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 05:01 PM
Nov 15

—faulting him for his gender and sexual orientation

He was highlighting the American people, which we are. It doesn’t matter what color you are, what you may identify as. Since I wasn’t excluded, I resonated with it.

I am an American and Trump is faulting me for my gender and sexual orientation. This kid is just fine with it so long as its not him and they wonder why they get called fascist. Like has he seen one of the 200+ million dollars worth of ad's they spent attacking LGBTQ people?

haele

(13,529 posts)
65. Okay, the "Not all FITB are FITB " argument, weak...
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:13 PM
Nov 15

Why can't young white men start policing the incels and Nazis in their group, hunh?

This reminds me of all the young Black and Latino men who go through life being lumped in with gang-bangers and undocumented immigrants. Are young White men like Nic concerned of those young men of color being falsely targeted, also?

How is it that the stereotype of the majority of young white men went from clever, curious and thoughtful team players to smart-mouthed, selfish edge lords and bullies? Maybe these young men should take a good look at the role models in their cadre and stop wondering.

Maybe they shouldn't take it so personally that there's a price to pay with society in general being okay with Toxic people. Maybe they should call out, ridicule, or deny Nazis and Bullies any respect.

Maybe Nic should do something more than indignantly proclaim "Not all White Guys" and actually acknowledge there's a problem that you, Nic, need to do more than just pout about.
Actions mean more than words.
And Nic, by voting for *rump knowing full well what a corrupt, destructive man-baby he is, showed all of us what type of Young White Man Nic is.
Nic now owns this. He can get blamed for all the problems, pain, and death other people are going to experience.
Sorry for being harsh, Nic - but actions have consequences, even for someone that feels they've been dis-respected and blindly strikes out.

Haele




Dem4life1234

(1,588 posts)
72. Alot of these young men today
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:35 PM
Nov 15

Are lazy as fuck and entitled.

The young women are more driven.

These young males want to split half the bills with women, and then have her clean up after their lazy behinds and do everything in the house. Women aren't easily controlled these days and they resent that.

Lazy, entitled, and useless are great descriptions of a whole lot of them..

Bettie

(17,100 posts)
75. I will admit it
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:38 PM
Nov 15

I do see men (and women) who voted for him as inherently either bad or profoundly stupid people.

There I said it. I mean it.

Dem4life1234

(1,588 posts)
76. Good luck with them
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:41 PM
Nov 15

Good luck voting for orange conman.

They will find themselves even more broke and no woman would even want them, not even the desperate ones.

TheKentuckian

(26,253 posts)
77. I can't tolerate four more years of "understanding" morons and bigots.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:42 PM
Nov 15

The most common take away is "What a fucking irredeemable idiot!".

Progressive dog

(7,243 posts)
81. Which came first
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 06:52 PM
Nov 15

the fascist ideology or just voting for the fascists? That is total BS, the bully posing as victim.

vercetti2021

(10,403 posts)
84. Na you're just a salty little incel
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 07:27 PM
Nov 15

Tired of these men and their victim complex of its because I'm white and a male...bitch you have the most privilege in the land of shit. So maybe act like a gentleman than a little boy in his edgelord phase.

vercetti2021

(10,403 posts)
90. As a trans person I don't give a rats ass anymore
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 08:12 PM
Nov 15

I've been blamed for why we lost now like I predicted. So why should I give a shit?

CTyankee

(65,041 posts)
95. If ANYONE, male or female, tells me they "resonate" with Trump in any way, they are DEAD to me instantly!
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 08:37 PM
Nov 15

There is no room in my life for them and once gone, never back again unless on hands and knees begging for forgiveness, and maybe not even then, depending on extenuating circumstances.

RockRaven

(16,283 posts)
104. TLDR version "I'm very stupid and don't understand what anyone is saying or
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:19 PM
Nov 15

how anything works, so I voted for Trump."

J_William_Ryan

(2,138 posts)
106. "Those guys are still out there and they're not going away."
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:22 PM
Nov 15

So what are Democrats supposed to do – become hateful racists, bigots, and misogynists, turn on the firehose of disinformation, attacks, and lies as do Republicans.

Jack Valentino

(1,329 posts)
108. No "real man" would vote for Trump---
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:26 PM
Nov 15

nor have fallen for his bullshit about "protecting women"--

he meant to say "stalking women" but his dementia got the words confused...

Docreed2003

(17,809 posts)
109. Trump appealed to his base
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 09:35 PM
Nov 15

We have a choice. Either we can respond with snark and cynicism, or we can evaluate the ways that those with money are trying to divide us. I think we need to focus on the latter or else we will cement our own demise.

Freethinker65

(11,139 posts)
127. Well he seems inherently non-critical thinking and easy to exploit and manipulate.
Fri Nov 15, 2024, 11:58 PM
Nov 15

Straight young white male actually thinks Trump cares about someone other than Trump.
Harris promised to help everyone, lift everyone up, which of course includes young white males like himself. He doesn't want others helped because he needs to continue to feel superior to minorities for personal validation. Sad.

pinkstarburst

(1,550 posts)
131. I'm guessing probably reasons were complicated
Sat Nov 16, 2024, 10:12 AM
Nov 16

and had elements of sexism, racism, frustration over the economy and the bleak future (can't afford a house, McDonalds is now ridiculously expensive, when it used to be a fast, cheap meal, wages aren't rising to meet costs), but yes, we should examine how we can better market ourselves to all subgroups.

This doesn't mean we fundamentally change who we are. It's an advertising/marketing issue. We need ads that are reaching ALL groups. We need ads that are targeted at 21 year old white guys, just like we go after the Black men's vote, and the white suburban women's vote and the Hispanic vote. It's just smart math to leave no stone unturned and go after EVERY group because to write off any subgroup means we leave a lot of votes on the table.

But yes, if ANY subgroup of voters is saying "we don't feel connected. We don't feel like we belong and are a valued part of the party because of your messaging..." that is something we need to examine.

Asa13

(8 posts)
133. This will probably get me flamed
Sat Nov 16, 2024, 10:45 AM
Nov 16

There is a definite communication issue that the left has reaching out to white guys that leads them towards the right. I'm just going to give my personal experience I'm a white guy I grew up poor in the projects with poor people of all races. We all black,white,hispanic were poor our families relying on welfare to not even make ends meet just to get closer to make ends meet. We all went to the same shitty public schools and shared basic life experiences. But as we got older my black and Hispanic friends they're told hey you're in this situation cause racism and other political factors stacked the deck against you. Meanwhile I'm told I have privilege and white men in particular are what has caused these issues. Meanwhile I'm sitting there like what privilege I'm in the same economic situation as them my mom skips meals so I can eat just like theirs. If white people have stacked the deck how the fuck am I in this situation I shouldn't be. I ended up not going right or left in politics instead going for a I don't care attitude because they're both out to fuck me for alot of years. But now we live in an age where it's easier to take people who feel disenfranchised and turn them into radicals. I mean this story shows it perfectly dude voted for a radical not because he agreed with his positions but because he didn't feel like the other and the outsider.

I'm not saying throw any group under the bus to get these people into the fold but maybe go to the places like Joe Rogan that these people have gravitated towards and talk to them as humans also. Because most of them not all but most are probably decent at heart and brought into that sphere because they found community they felt they didn't have.

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