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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsOur son Brendan died suddenly on November 5th
Our son Brendan died suddenly on November 5th.
He was our baby, our first-born. We miss him so much.
He was a wonderful son and a good man. He was the mainstay of our family.
His children meant the world to him. He made tremendous sacrifices of his time and energy for them.
He enjoyed his work, and was very good at it. He was employed by an air freight company, where he rose from a driver to become operations manager.
His working at home this spring and summer gave us a chance to see him in operation, to appreciate his skill and aptitude for what he did. Co-ordinating shipments and deliveries all over the country, often with extremely time-sensitive cargoes, is as much an art as a business, because of the wide range of human factors involved, when several people must each perform a stage of the task for its successful completion. He kept things moving, and he knew how to do it. It was something to witness.
Cars and guitars are not uncommon devotions of a young man, and they ran deep with him. He found relaxation and artistic expression with his guitars, and had recently bought himself a new electric and a small amplifier. We can remember Brendan, as a toddler long ago, setting an empty doughnut box on the coffeetable, with the cellophane paneled lid tipped up, sitting there behind this 'windshield' to drive his car. He would inform us, when out on a walk, which of the cars we passed had happy tires.
He was an adventurous and curious child. He would often go wandering, beyond where we expected him to be. We would find people saying hello to him all about the neighborhood. Brendan charmed most of the people he met, and all of those he worked with. Even today, we are discovering friends we never knew he had, and over the years had occasion to learn of youthful adventures we'd never had a clue were going on.
Brendan was our family's memory. Events loom larger with children, and they recall things a parent will have long forgotten. He took a serious interest in genealogy, sparked by some oddities in our background. His mother's name is unusual, and he tracked down just about every stage of her ancestors' immigration and lives here back for several generations, and got a fix on current distant relatives. He laid to rest a myth I was raised to believe, about my own family background.
He had a passionate interest in Soviet and Latin American history, and his grasp of these far exceeds my own. His tastes in literature ran from the Heaney translation of Beowulf to Ulysses. He was a voracious reader.
Brendan took a great interest in politics and current affairs. He was angry and appalled at what has been happening to our country, and it is some small comfort at least to know he saw the turning of the tide before he passed. As events developed over that weekend, all we could think of was how glad he would have been to learn what we saw happening Thursday morning actually came true.
The loss is unfathomable. He simply fell dead of what must have been a massive heart attack, with no warning at all. His eyes were half-open but there was no one there anymore. The medical people tried but there was nothing they could do.
The standing desk Brendan made of the dining room table is covered with candles, and sometimes we stand there and just look at what he saw, what was on his mind, the open pads of notes, the computer that still lights up at the slightest nudge. Flowers, purple and white, are there as well. We brought him home this Friday, and the urn rests for now on his bed, above the crossed guitars, the acoustic and the electric.
We do hope to have a memorial service early in December, but in the current situation it is not possible to be certain.

DUgosh
(3,107 posts)Please accept my sincere condolences
First Speaker
(4,858 posts)...please, know that we here at DU are always here for you...
soothsayer
(38,601 posts)sfstaxprep
(10,599 posts)I can't imagine the pain you are feeling, but stay well.
jmbar2
(6,552 posts)He sounds like someone I would have enjoyed knowing.
I am so sorry for your loss.
The Magistrate
(96,043 posts)It will be a while before I am posting again. We are moving, there is a lot to do, and there's not much that's enjoyable now. By the way, any old lags who recall one 'Vogon Jeltz' posting here, that was him.
I never got used to our baby turning out taller than me. He was a big fellow, with a beard a Viking would envy.
blm
(113,975 posts)Peacetrain
(23,725 posts)The loss of a child. It is not how life is supposed to go.. My heart breaks
Siwsan
(27,423 posts)
Glorfindel
(10,060 posts)Deepest sympathy in your loss.
hlthe2b
(107,825 posts)My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. May your happy memories soon be those that come to mind--far more than the pain.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(122,949 posts)I wish there was something I could say but there isn't. I'm just very sorry.
brer cat
(26,772 posts)There are no words to express the sorrow of a parent losing a child. My deepest sympathy, sir.
Squinch
(53,955 posts)Walleye
(37,689 posts)So tragic. I hope you find peace.My SO of 30 years. Heart attack. My cousins wife also died suddenly just before the election. She was a big anti-trumper.
Ohiogal
(35,910 posts)I cannot imagine the pain of losing a son or daughter. Please know there are many people here who are keeping you in our thoughts.
OAITW r.2.0
(29,341 posts)Losing my only son would devastate me to my core. He sounds a lot like your Brendan......best thoughts for you and your family. Current events disappear when life's reality effects you this closely and deeply.
whathehell
(30,031 posts)
Rorey
(8,514 posts)I am so sorry for this tremendous loss.
CaliforniaPeggy
(152,942 posts)I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. It is heartbreaking.
Words are so inadequate. I wish I could convey my shock and dismay at your loss.
What a remarkable man you helped raise. He sounds like a force for good in the world, for all of us.
Please take care of yourselves during this time of grief.
A wise person once said: "The deeper the grief, the deeper the love." It is so true.
MFM008
(20,035 posts)im so so so sorry.
Fate/life is unbelievably cruel.
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for your son.
empedocles
(15,751 posts)LiberalBrooke
(568 posts)I am so sorry.
colorado_ufo
(5,979 posts)
Phoenix61
(17,940 posts)Hoyt
(54,770 posts)madaboutharry
(41,621 posts)I am so sorry to learn of this terrible loss. I wish for you and your family a pathway to peace as you navigate such deep grief.
Love and peace to you and all your family and to all those who knew and loved your son.
hwmnbn
(4,286 posts)


babylonsister
(171,816 posts)thank you for sharing Brendan with us. He sounds like a lovely man. My most heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
TheCowsCameHome
(40,230 posts)I cannot imagine how horrible this must be for you and your family.
Peace.
onecaliberal
(36,594 posts)


JohnnyLib2
(11,255 posts)Your tribute is touching and heartbreaking at once. May your heart and those of your family find peace as time passes.
Guilded Lilly
(5,591 posts)kimbutgar
(24,177 posts)Parents should never have to bury their children. So sorry for your loss. The unexpected is the worst.
Happyhippychick
(8,422 posts)May he Rest In Peace
bluestarone
(18,781 posts)

sheshe2
(89,572 posts)He sounds to have been a very good man, much like his father.
I am so very sorry.
Hugs to you and yours.
mountain grammy
(27,528 posts)You describe a beautiful human being.What a tragic loss.
Peace to you, Magistrate. You are in my heart.
Faux pas
(15,522 posts)to everyone who knew and loved him.
Cha
(307,223 posts)heartbreaking loss, TM... What a beautiful tribute to your son.
FailureToCommunicate
(14,388 posts)hard to hear of anything this awful.
I am so so sorry for your heartbreaking news.
UpInArms
(52,086 posts)To say how utterly sorrowful I am for your loss.
Just know that my heart aches with yours
warmfeet
(3,321 posts)My best friend died in a very similar way just over ten years ago. Losing your child is a whole different level of tragedy.
wendyb-NC
(4,033 posts)of your son. A parent should never have to bury their child, there are no words to capture the pain that it is.
He sounds like a truly amazing person. My deepest condolences to you and all the family. Thank you, for sharing the wonderful memorial about him and his accomplished life. Peace be with you.
MontanaMama
(24,241 posts)I cant imagine what these days have been like. I am so sorry for your loss. I know if will be a long time but I hope someday Brendans memory will be a blessing. Peace to you and your family.
spooky3
(36,941 posts)Fla Dem
(26,268 posts)A sudden loss is such a shock. No time to say good bye or a last hug. My heart aches for you. May the good, loving memories help you heal.
SleeplessinSoCal
(9,868 posts)This year needs a name. Not just a number. And I vote to dedicate it to Brendan's memory.
💕
barbtries
(30,167 posts)it is unfathomable. hurting for you.
MelissaB
(16,571 posts)
cry baby
(6,792 posts)Im so very sorry for your deep loss.
May his memory be a blessing to you and your family.
c-rational
(2,909 posts)
ZZenith
(4,343 posts)Your son leaves a huge void and I wish your family strength and courage as you negotiate this new world without him.
Submariner
(12,850 posts)Sorry for your loss
catchnrelease
(2,040 posts)No parent should suffer this. Your words do him great honor. It sounds like he lived a good life and was well loved.
voteearlyvoteoften
(1,716 posts)Sending love ❤️
moonscape
(5,439 posts)your. son. Without knowing any of you, I read with interest a bit about a man that I increasingly got the sense I was missing out a lot by not having known him, and how much he touched the lives of those who did.
What a tragic loss. I am so sorry.
jrthin
(4,982 posts)
The empressof all
(29,102 posts)I am so very sorry for this loss to your family and loved ones.
AllyCat
(17,494 posts)What a wonderful tribute you have written about your beloved son.
SheltieLover
(62,589 posts)I am so sorry to hear of your heartbreaking loss!
Brendan's memory will live on in your hearts and, I trust, will one day be a great comfort.
Healing vibes to you, your wife & family. 💗💗💗
You reared a wonderful man, Magistrate and your memorial speaks to that.
Please remember to engage in good self-care, remember to eat, sleep, and breathe deeply.
Nothing hurts like the loss of a child and I hope in time your hearts will find peace in your precious memories.
Atticus
(15,124 posts)death has taken a good and eminently decent man from this world.
Your deep love for him resonates throughout your post and I am sure touched the hearts of all of us lucky enough to have children we love.
Words are poor substitutes for hugs and shared tears. Take care of yourself and those still with you.
question everything
(49,550 posts)Usually I wish for cherished memories but here memories may just be painful, for a while.
I do hope that you and the family are surrounded by wonderful friends to take solace and to love and support each other.
MySideOfTown
(225 posts)I can't imagine what you are going through losing a child. So sorry. I lost my wife to cancer 5 years ago. I don't think I'll ever recover. Hang in there.
tavernier
(13,415 posts)I was looking for a link thinking you were sharing someone elses tragedy.
It seems so much more personal when the loss belongs to one of ours.
I can feel your pain in my heart.
I am so very sorry.
DownriverDem
(6,741 posts)for your loss.
Behind the Aegis
(55,097 posts)You and your family have my deepest condolences!
Karadeniz
(23,731 posts)Stunned and still just trying to accept this new reality. So sorry!
pazzyanne
(6,654 posts)It is always hard to lose a loved one, and especially so when it happens without warning. You have wonderful memories of Brendan to look back on. Please be kind to yourself and take care. You have a lot of friends and admirers here on DU.
Solly Mack
(93,923 posts)Oh, Sir, I am so sorry.
CatMor
(6,212 posts)you are lucky to have had such a wonderful son. My thoughts are with you.
Devilsun
(295 posts)Brendan must have been a true Renaissance man!😥
still_one
(97,447 posts)through
Paladin
(29,394 posts)He sounds like a very special young man, someone it had to be a privilege to associate with. Blessings to you in this time of profound sorrow.
magicarpet
(17,596 posts)He sounds like a wonderful and cheerful young man who made a much too early departure.
Safe passage to him and strength and endurance for you and your loved ones to help one another through this unexpected event that life sends our way. But we help each other get back on our feet again.
japple
(10,436 posts)I hope you know that you were instrumental in creating a brilliant soul. Thank you for giving him to the world. Thank you for sharing his life and memories with us here at DU. Love and peace to you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Wicked Blue
(7,487 posts)You evoked him so beautifully in your post. I'm glad you have so many good memories of him to carry in your heart.
My deep sympathy for your loss.
marble falls
(63,224 posts)... it was to be composed enough to create this work of love.
You and your wife are on my mind. It will make me hug my children a lot harder and longer when I get to see them next.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Baltimike
(4,441 posts)DFW
(57,191 posts)It is something no parent ever wants to write
sarge43
(29,169 posts)
The Genealogist
(4,738 posts)who lived a full and exemplary life. I'm sure his memory will long live on in those whose life he touched.
peacebuzzard
(5,346 posts)a loss so profound, your son, unimaginable. A gifted son, productive son, his character which you shared describes a gifted soul, an angel.
So very, very sorry.
SalmonChantedEvening
(32,021 posts)Sending love, light and warmth your way, my friend.
Laffy Kat
(16,557 posts)I am so very sorry.
rainin
(3,215 posts)Owl
(3,720 posts)My deepest sympathy.
LuvNewcastle
(17,096 posts)I know this was the worst sort of shock for you and your family. The only help for a hurt like this is time and your beautiful memories. Your obituary gives a wonderful description of your son; he sounds like the kind of guy I would like to have known. Take comfort in the fact that you raised a fine man who lived a good and decent life.
Ruby the Liberal
(26,361 posts)
May his memory be a blessing.

denbot
(9,917 posts)Peace to you and yours.
Sucha NastyWoman
(2,973 posts)I am so sorry.
NNadir
(35,131 posts)louslobbs
(3,416 posts)Im so sorry.
Lou
dlk
(12,557 posts)I cant imagine losing a child. Wishing you peace and comfort during this very difficult time.
pwb
(12,215 posts)I lost my only Son two years ago.
raising2moredems
(732 posts)As a parent, I cannot fathom either of my children passing before me. Take solace in the time you had with him. Know that he loved his children and that in his children, he lives on. There are no words I can say to make his passing any easier. My only wish is that over time, your grief lessens a bit. I know you'll be there for his children.
BeyondGeography
(40,161 posts)I am deeply sorry for your loss, sir. Thank you for sharing those sweet memories of your beautiful son with us.
Moostache
(10,284 posts)The loss of a loved one in these days is so much more painful than usual. I hope you are able to lean on each other and on memories to get through.
StevieM
(10,559 posts)Kali
(56,071 posts)I am so sorry.
Niagara
(10,146 posts)My sincere condolences and thoughts go out to you and your family in this extremely difficult time.
thinkingagain
(1,238 posts)You are going through Of losing a loved one.
icymist
(15,888 posts)My condolences.
iamateacher
(1,105 posts)For your loss
ananda
(31,218 posts)My condolences.
zbird
(1,602 posts)I cannot imagine such a loss. Sending much love.
godsentme
(118 posts)What a beautiful picture in words you painted. I'm so sorry. Wishing you peace.
klook
(12,993 posts)I can only imagine how you and your family are reeling from this tragic loss. Take care of yourself. If its any comfort, reading your description of this fantastic son makes it plain how much richer your life is to have been graced by his presence.
A beloved and good-hearted person leaves reverberations that change us forever. We miss them so, even as we feel their imprint.
birdographer
(2,701 posts)This is unbearable. For everyone who reads it. We feel for you, we ache for you.
Adelante
(28,394 posts)I am so very sorry, Magistrate. Warm condolences to you and your family.
Demsrule86
(71,040 posts)imagine. I will pray for you and that doesn't seem enough. If there is something else you need please PM me. You are in my thoughts .
vercetti2021
(10,432 posts)I'm so so sorry for your loss
They_Live
(3,322 posts)I really am.
nancy1942
(639 posts)I can empathize with you. I also lost my only son and the pain is unbearable.
skylucy
(3,897 posts)

Aristus
(69,085 posts)...
femmedem
(8,483 posts)Thank you for the tribute you wrote. I feel as if I know him, and of your love for him.
cate94
(2,933 posts)
dweller
(25,645 posts)to you and your family, sir.
May your healing be swift and the memories be sweet
✌🏻
Tanuki
(15,587 posts)It made me smile at some moments and at others brought me close to tears. I am so very sorry that you and your family have had to drink from the sorrowful cup of losing Brendan. You obviously raised a fine son and I wish your family the very best in healing and with time reclaiming the joy he would have wanted you to have.
🌹
FakeNoose
(36,561 posts)
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your grief will always be there, but sometime in the future the pain of your loss will slowly diminish. The knowledge that Brendan didn't suffer should be a comfort, but I know you'll always miss your son and love his memory. May God bless you, dear Magistrate.
electric_blue68
(20,037 posts)A vivid, beautiful memory sketch of his life; youth, work, family, passions. ❤️
How sweet his young wanderings through your neighborhood.
Strength to you all so dearly missing him.
Dem2theMax
(10,565 posts)Knowing you from the words you write on this board, it doesn't surprise me to hear what an amazing man he was.
May the universe surround you and your family with abundant love and support.
And all of us here, we are all here for you.
For Brendan
H2O Man
(76,158 posts)There are no words.
BMW2020RT
(146 posts)dflprincess
(28,654 posts)Biophilic
(5,272 posts)CrispyQ
(39,034 posts)May the memories of your beloved son and the love of your family give you comfort during this difficult time.
joshcryer
(62,513 posts)I wish you and yours well, and I wish the pain to cease soon and the memories of his life to flourish in your hearts and mind. I feel so much for you. Please be well.
George II
(67,782 posts)My sympathy to you and your family.
Stay strong.
bronxiteforever
(9,935 posts)I am sorry for you and your familys loss.
GeoWilliam750
(2,554 posts)BumRushDaShow
(147,189 posts)Your remarkable summary of his life and works underscores that he will be sorely missed but not forgotten.
Condolences to you and your family.
xxqqqzme
(14,887 posts)You and your family's loss is felt by all here. Heartfelt condolences to all.
chowder66
(10,133 posts)al bupp
(2,391 posts)Your eulogy brings to mind this poem:
Dont think of him as gone away
his journeys just begun,
life holds so many facets
this earth is only one.
Just think of him as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.
Think how he must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.
And think of him as living
in the hearts of those he touched
for nothing loved is ever lost
and he was loved so much.
BadgerMom
(3,068 posts)We lost our son at age 20 in 2003. The love doesnt go away, so neither does the pain. But it does gradually become easier to function.
Sending light, love, and empathy.
Me.
(35,454 posts)...
mac56
(17,661 posts)My deep condolences.
greatauntoftriplets
(177,239 posts)Please accept my deepest condolences. I had noticed your lack of posts since the election and wondered. But I never realized that you'd suffered such a profound loss.
We'll leave the light on for you.
farmbo
(3,141 posts)EOM
Joinfortmill
(17,208 posts)He sounds like a beautiful soul.
pnwest
(3,307 posts)all those who loved him. May you find solace in your memories.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Trueblue Texan
(3,157 posts)You write beautifully of a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your son with us.
yonder
(10,035 posts)It's every parent's worst fear. Peace to you and yours.
Wawannabe
(6,571 posts)
gademocrat7
(11,300 posts)cayugafalls
(5,771 posts)May you always be well and let your loving memory remain.
2naSalit
(95,290 posts)My most sincere condolences to you and yours, Sir.
UCmeNdc
(9,651 posts)yardwork
(65,449 posts)As a mother of three boys, my heart goes out to you and your family.
subterranean
(3,575 posts)I hope it brings you some small comfort to share this loss with your friends in the DU Community.
lucca18
(1,343 posts)I am sorry for your pain.
Please take care....
calimary
(85,175 posts)I'm so sorry, dear Magistrate.
What a loss - for the world (said by the mother of a son who's also a guitar-player/lover, and was totally smitten by cars when he was little).
I'm so sorry. It's never easy to bear or understand. Especially something sudden and TOTALLY unexpected like this. The empty spot it leaves in your heart is beyond imagining. And it was your baby... I'm getting choked up as I write this.
I'm so sorry. Dear God...
I hate it when the world loses a musician.
area51
(12,237 posts)
Lonestarblue
(12,237 posts)The loss of a loved one is never easy to bear, but somehow it seems so unfair when its our children who are lost before their time. Brendan was significant. May your memories of him keep him alive in your heart.
infullview
(1,065 posts)TxDemChem
(1,918 posts)Marie Marie
(10,073 posts)UserNotFound
(112 posts)I cannot fathom the depth of your loss. I like to consider myself an "educated" man, but I just don't have the words....
peggysue2
(11,611 posts)Though I've not lost a child, I came very, very close. I can recall the shock, the pain, the absolute sense of utter despair.
Sympathies to you and your family.
Ms. Toad
(35,902 posts)
sueh
(1,882 posts)Your son was an amazing person. (((Hugs)))
Sugarcoated
(8,132 posts)Is a fine man. Sincere condolences, sir...xo
llmart
(16,332 posts)He sounds like he was an amazing man with many interests and intellectual curiosity. You could have been describing my own precious son. I can't imagine a pain that would be worse than losing him.
Please know that you are in my thoughts during this awful grief. Thank you for sharing his life story with us.
TexasTowelie
(118,795 posts)It's obvious that you were proud of and loved your son.
StarryNite
(11,257 posts)

DinahMoeHum
(22,663 posts). . .we all will understand if you're not around here for awhile.
The Polack MSgt
(13,501 posts)
Danmel
(5,336 posts)I cannot fathom your loss. I hope that seet memories of your beloved son will help sustain you.
seta1950
(948 posts)I know there are no words that I can say , to ease your pain, my deepest condolences to you and your family, he sounds fantastic.
Hekate
(96,125 posts)There are no words, except to say you and your will be in my heart and prayers.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I can't imagine how painful it must be for you. That was a beautiful tribute to him. My deepest condolences to you and the rest of your family. May he rest in peace.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I can't imagine how painful it must be for you. That was a beautiful tribute to him. My deepest condolences to you and the rest of your family. May he rest in peace.
CatLady78
(1,041 posts)marlakay
(12,222 posts)Sending a big online hug your way. Sounds like you have many wonderful memories of him.
handmade34
(23,126 posts)
we lost our son last year... I feel your sorrow intimately
WheelWalker
(9,300 posts)and the wheel turns.
MustLoveBeagles
(12,983 posts)
MLAA
(18,873 posts)Just sending love to you and all of Brendans family and friends.
stollen
(714 posts)Thank you for this beautiful insight into your beloved child.
IcyPeas
(23,182 posts)
Jay25
(419 posts)Sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through.
KentuckyWoman
(6,948 posts)pbmus
(12,444 posts)


R. P. McMurphy
(851 posts)Your tribute was very moving. Thanks for distilling this image of him for us. Blessings, protection and loving memories for you all.
Iggo
(48,704 posts)
proud patriot
(101,523 posts)just love , light ,, and my deepest regrets .. Sir
3catwoman3
(26,157 posts)...leaves me in awe of your strength.
People always want to know if there is anything they can do at times like these, and there isnt much.
If I can offer any wisdom, it would be something I learned from my mother after my 23 yr old brother died unexpectedly in 1978. Some years later, she told me she found it helpful when friends and relatives spoke about him, shared memories and stories. She said it showed her that he was not forgotten, and that was of some comfort to her. She understood peoples reluctance to talk about him, fearing that they would make her sad, but she said she was already as sad as it was possible to be, and that she would rather talk about him than not.
iluvtennis
(21,037 posts)she lost two of her children. My heart goes out to you and your family.
people
(744 posts)It sounds like Brendan gave much of his good self to many many people and, of course particularly, you two. He sounds like someone very well immersed in his life and very, very good at it. So very sorry for this terrible loss.
summer_in_TX
(3,452 posts)I'm so sorry.
You made him so vivid for us with your description. I thought of my own sons and have been blinking back tears.
Blessings on you all, prayers for comfort, strength and peace.
Vadem
(2,599 posts)

bluboid
(741 posts)just knowing wonderful people who care about the big issues & each other, from all over the country & world is more than anyone can ask for. what a beautiful tribute to your son. may he rest in peace.
Cracklin Charlie
(12,904 posts)Bless your hearts.
Edit: Have you considered a virtual remembrance? I ask because we set up a virtual Thanksgiving online for my mother in law, who has had some health issues. We are desperately trying to keep her safe.
Anyway, we set the page up Friday, and my mom in law woke up today to find 100 messages already, from around the USA, and from 3 other countries! There is photo sharing, a recipe page, and chat and video turkey will be added on Thursday. I havent seen or heard her so happy for a long time.
I just say this because it could leave a lasting remembrance for you and your family of your son that you could keep. My daughter set our page up, and I dont know how she did it, but someone could probably help you.
Mr. Evil
(3,069 posts)So sorry for your loss.
Gothmog
(158,151 posts)The loss of a child is a horrible tragedy. Your son sounds like an outstanding young man. I hope that you are able to hold a memorial for your son
Blue Owl
(55,257 posts)Be strong and remember the many wonderful things you mentioned in the lovely tribute you shared with us...
LuvLoogie
(7,762 posts)May his love and spirit be with you always.
BobTheSubgenius
(11,861 posts)I mean no harm or slight to you and your family, but I'm sure you know what I mean. It is just not the order of things, and is a tragedy that could hardly be greater.
I hope you and yours can find peace in the near time, and find some small measure of comfort from the outpouring of all the good hearts and souls here. I'm sure there will be many in your "real life" that will do what they can, as well. Probably some you don't even know of yet.
My deepest condolences.
Hiawatha Pete
(1,990 posts)My deepest, heartfelt sympathies to both you and and your family.
krispos42
(49,445 posts)That's absolutely terrible.
Bleacher Creature
(11,488 posts)
SaveOurDemocracy
(4,480 posts)Peace and love.
W T F
(1,173 posts)My sincere condolences.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)May he forever rest peacefully in your heart.
Mary Mac
(342 posts)Texin
(2,693 posts)mahina
(19,396 posts)Peace to your family and to him. Aloha no Sir.
karin_sj
(1,165 posts)My heart sank when I read your subject line. Thank you for telling us about your wonderful son. Im sorry that you lost him far too soon.
SunSeeker
(54,592 posts)Just the thought is too painful to even contemplate.
I am so sorry.
orleans
(35,609 posts)i'm so sorry
LuckyCharms
(19,550 posts)
democrank
(11,250 posts)Rest In peace, dear Brendan.
catbyte
(36,370 posts)yowzayowzayowza
(7,035 posts)Sogo
(5,983 posts)Its an unfathomable loss.
RIP, Brendan.
AwakeAtLast
(14,294 posts)A beautiful tribute dear Magistrate! Sending love and hugs to you and your family!
orwell
(8,003 posts)...for a beautiful light.
My condolences to you and your family...
revmclaren
(2,613 posts)I am so very sorry.
KT2000
(21,169 posts)There are no words that will help right now, but you are in my thoughts.
BComplex
(9,239 posts)That is devastating, I know. I hold you and your whole family in my heart, and wish that every comfort might come your way at this time, to soften your heartbreak in any possible measure.
Your son sounds like such an amazing man, and was surely a remarkable boy. He was a light in an otherwise dark world, and we need more like him.
dalton99a
(86,423 posts)nclib
(1,021 posts)Holding you and your family in the light.
a la izquierda
(11,956 posts)A beautiful tribute to your son. My deepest sympathies to you.
GoneOffShore
(17,701 posts)LiberalLoner
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Harker
(15,551 posts)majdrfrtim
(340 posts)Grief is not a mental illness, yet it can certainly *feel* like one, probably because every new grief reawakens every old grief.
My sincerest condolences.
Upthevibe
(9,401 posts)I am so very, very sorry to hear of the loss of your son.
YDogg
(6,683 posts)... to hear of the loss of your dear son Brendan. Peace to you and your family, Sir.
BlueMTexpat
(15,525 posts)your pain! Parents are not supposed to outlive their children.
My most sincere condolences to you and your family!
Maraya1969
(23,169 posts)What an amazing man your son was. I am truly sorry and I can only wish for you a peace that passes understanding during this very hard time.
sellitman
(11,694 posts)
callous taoboy
(4,690 posts)Mike Niendorff
(3,585 posts)There is miles of subtext in what you have written here.
My heart goes out to you and yours.
MDN
lillypaddle
(9,605 posts)what a terrible loss for you and Brendan's family. May he rest in peace.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(11,249 posts)
Alacritous Crier
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grantcart
(53,061 posts)of someone'sI son who I have never met.
It is a reflection of how both how profound your testament of Brendan and how bright a light you shine at DU.
There are never enough Brendans so the untimely loss of even one demands our profound sadness and this Brendan will not go unnoticed or unbiased.
Thank you for sharing during an incalculable difficult time. Best wishes to to Mrs. Magistrate.
Buckeye_Democrat
(15,129 posts)
panader0
(25,816 posts)What a blow. It's difficult to imagine. I saw , in your beautiful tribute, my own sons, and could not
help but imagine how I would feel if one died suddenly. I'm so sorry, typing through tears.
G_j
(40,465 posts)sl8
(16,284 posts)helpisontheway
(5,313 posts)sinkingfeeling
(54,032 posts)Silver Gaia
(4,980 posts)You have written a beautiful and moving tribute to your son. I wish I could offer words of comfort, but there just are no words. I watched my parents grieve the loss of my adult brother as I grieved for him myself. His death was also sudden and unexpected. This is a grief like no other. My heart is with you. May peace find you and enfold you.
kentuck
(113,202 posts)It is so difficult to understand how it happens so much to the good people.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)💔💖🙏🏾
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randr
(12,516 posts)Your sharing of your love is the greatest tribute.
struggle4progress
(121,417 posts)
Phentex
(16,597 posts)I feel your pain.
He sounds like a wonderful person.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
CaptainTruth
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North Shore Chicago
(4,082 posts)My heartfelt condolences to you and all who loved him.