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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsJust lost my cat.
Brought her in with the notion I'd be bringing her home with a treatment plan. Instead, I brought her home to bury her. Vet was honest, which I appreciated. There was a mass in her abdomen, and she probably wouldn't survive surgery if they'd attempted it. She was 14. I will miss her.
we can do it
(12,799 posts)shrike3
(5,370 posts)Ocelot II
(121,844 posts)Losing a loved kitty is so hard!
shrike3
(5,370 posts)CurtEastPoint
(19,272 posts)shrike3
(5,370 posts)Deuxcents
(20,372 posts)Im sending hugs for what little comfort I can be. So sorry ((hugs))
shrike3
(5,370 posts)brer cat
(26,612 posts)shrike3
(5,370 posts)Irish_Dem
(60,754 posts)You had her for a long time.
There will be a grieving process.
I am glad the vet didn't put her through a needless surgery
and she didn't suffer.
shrike3
(5,370 posts)This was a vet I'd never met before. Kitty was so listless I decided to take her in before the appt. she had next week. Vet was so kind and asked if I wanted to leave the room. I said I couldn't imagine leaving an animal alone at a time like this. They need your warmth and your presence So as hard as it was, I stayed.
Irish_Dem
(60,754 posts)Oh yes, I had a dear little doggie who had inoperable cancer, she has to be put down.
I stayed with her for the procedure. As long as I was with her she was calm.
She needed me with her or would have been agitated and fearful.
When it was over I cried like a baby. It was so sad and such a shock.
Bayard
(24,145 posts)I'm so sorry.....
Rizen
(817 posts)Cats are our babies.
shrike3
(5,370 posts)onecaliberal
(36,594 posts)LoisB
(9,054 posts)malaise
(279,462 posts)I know the feeling
niyad
(121,052 posts)andvsend peace and comfort to her grieving loved ones.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious little girl. I know we were all hoping for the best, so I understand the shock. We who are owned by the fur people are here for you.
shrike3
(5,370 posts)niyad
(121,052 posts)shrike3
(5,370 posts)Permanut
(6,744 posts)been there several times, and it's always heart wrenching.
You got to be her hero though, which is way cool.
shrike3
(5,370 posts)demigoddess
(6,675 posts)virgdem
(2,220 posts)I've lost 2 cats to inoperable cancerous tumors, so I know exactly what you are going through.
You gave her love and a wonderful life and that's all that matters.💔 🌈
Karadeniz
(23,625 posts)StarryNite
(11,005 posts)Losing them is so painful. is
MLAA
(18,714 posts)area51
(12,210 posts)FirstLight
(14,362 posts)You gave that kitty a great long life, so sorry 😔
slightlv
(4,620 posts)May Bast receive her in Her loving arms as she crosses the Rainbow Bridge. I know the hole in your heart and soul right now. I hope Bast will also give you peace and help you find comfort in the good times you've shared with your baby.
IbogaProject
(3,898 posts)It is never easy, especially if you were caught unaware.
DarthDem
(5,374 posts)It sounds as though she passed gently. And she was clearly very, very loved. Bless you and RIP.
Lunabell
(7,104 posts)She was lucky to have so many years of loving scritches behind her ears from you. Big hug!!
Hope22
(3,246 posts)Love and more love to you! 💗💗🙏🏼
littlemissmartypants
(26,076 posts)blm
(113,892 posts)Its never easy.
patphil
(7,189 posts)We went the prednisone route, and got him about 3-4 more months of reasonably good life, but it was always a losing battle. In the end we had him put to sleep about a week ago.
No judgement here; each situation is unique.
It really does hurt to have a pet you have known and loved leave you.
I always have said that pets are like children that never grow up. There with you for life, and that usually means a lot shorter time than we would like to have with them.
shrike3
(5,370 posts)Temperature was dropping, gums pale. Vet didn't think she'd make it 24 hours. But I'm glad that extra time with your furry guy.
Solly Mack
(93,317 posts)LetMyPeopleVote
(156,275 posts)It is hard to say goodbye to a family member. We had to say goodbye to my oldest child's cat a couple of weeks ago.
sinkingfeeling
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JMCKUSICK
(659 posts)Please give yourself permission to grieve and to celebrate all the wonderful moments that made you special to her and her to you.
Please honor her and yourself in a way that only you and your family? can.
She'll be with you in many ways tomorrow and beyond.
Every time I see a white dragon fly, I greet her as the spirit of my Snuggles who I lost May 5th and enjoy her spirits visit with gratitude.
God Speed
Skittles
(160,697 posts)I know
Grieve not
nor speak of me with tears
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you
I loved you so
twas Heaven here with you
- Isla Paschal Richardson
Phoenix61
(17,752 posts)GPV
(73,093 posts)Niagara
(9,977 posts)Fla Dem
(25,977 posts)You go to the vet hoping she'll be coming home with you, but it doesn't happen. Gradually coming to grips that she's not there to welcome me home or snuggle next to me on the sofa. She was my "bestie" for 19 years. Left a hole in my heart. You will feel the same. My heart goes out to you.
Timeflyer
(2,759 posts)58Sunliner
(5,019 posts)Maraya1969
(23,030 posts)AltairIV
(703 posts)My deepest condolences on your loss. May the passage of time, and holding onto the memories of your time shared bring you some measure of peace.
Dear_Prudence
(840 posts)You made the painful compassionate decision for her. You were there for her at the end. I hope the warm memories of the happy times you had together will soon bring you some comfort.
catrose
(5,244 posts)shrike3
(5,370 posts)debm55
(39,785 posts)3catwoman3
(25,845 posts)In our family, we call it liberating the spirit.
Hugs from a fellow cat lover -
Different Drummer
(8,848 posts)I lost a cat almost two years ago to feline leukemia. She ate ravenously--she was diabetic--but didn't seem to be gaining any weight. The vet who examined her determined she had leukemia and that it was incurable. She was 18. Condolences on your loss!
drmeow
(5,371 posts)That really sucks. It is bad enough when you are pretty sure that's going to be the outcome but it is 10 times worse when you aren't expecting it. I had a similar experience - although it sounds like you had a better vet!
jtb653
(91 posts)couldn't imagine losing one of my babies.
TNNurse
(7,183 posts)Ours put our cat on steroids and gave us a few days to adjust (we had a family tragedy about which they did not know). That cat took her steroids in vanilla ice cream and ate nothing else for a few days until we managed to take her back. She was clever like that...cat food?? There is ice cream.
It is always hard, sometimes though it is just awful. I understand.
kimbutgar
(23,791 posts)I lost my own cat the same way in 2022 and havent gotten another one because my kitty was the best cat I ever had!
Katcat
(388 posts)Been down that road too many times myself and it never gets easier. But I know , and you know, that sometimes the best thing is also the hardest.
pazzyanne
(6,632 posts)They bring so much joy to our lives, it is hard to say the final "Goodbye". Take care of yourself!
COL Mustard
(7,037 posts)Just remember the good times you had with her and keep her memory alive.