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shrike3

(5,370 posts)
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 08:12 PM Jun 2024

Just lost my cat.

Brought her in with the notion I'd be bringing her home with a treatment plan. Instead, I brought her home to bury her. Vet was honest, which I appreciated. There was a mass in her abdomen, and she probably wouldn't survive surgery if they'd attempted it. She was 14. I will miss her.

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Just lost my cat. (Original Post) shrike3 Jun 2024 OP
So sorry😿 we can do it Jun 2024 #1
Thank you. shrike3 Jun 2024 #2
I'm very sorry! Ocelot II Jun 2024 #3
Thank you so much. shrike3 Jun 2024 #13
She will remember you and your love. I'm so sorry. CurtEastPoint Jun 2024 #4
I appreciate that. Thanks. shrike3 Jun 2024 #14
Very sad to hear this..most of us can understand what it's like to lose a loved pet. Deuxcents Jun 2024 #5
Appreciate your kind words. shrike3 Jun 2024 #15
I'm very sorry for your loss. Our fur babies do take over our hearts. brer cat Jun 2024 #6
Yes, they do. Thanks for your kind words. shrike3 Jun 2024 #16
So sorry to hear this. Irish_Dem Jun 2024 #7
It was a shock to hear the words, but once I got my wits about me I appreciated her giving it to me straight. shrike3 Jun 2024 #18
A sudden death is easier on the deceased, but much harder for the family. Irish_Dem Jun 2024 #23
She knew you were there, and was comforted Bayard Jun 2024 #44
I'm sorry to hear that. Rizen Jun 2024 #8
Yes. Thank you. shrike3 Jun 2024 #19
I'm so very sorry for your loss. 💔 onecaliberal Jun 2024 #9
I am so sorry. LoisB Jun 2024 #10
Losing a pet is losing close family malaise Jun 2024 #11
Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, niyad Jun 2024 #12
Thank you so very much. I hope Lady Bast is indeed gentle with her. shrike3 Jun 2024 #20
Of course She is. And do not be surprised if your baby comes to visit you. niyad Jun 2024 #22
Here's hoping. shrike3 Jun 2024 #26
That is so tough.. Permanut Jun 2024 #17
Thank you. shrike3 Jun 2024 #21
Cats can be such lovely creatures that they are mourned forever. demigoddess Jun 2024 #24
I'm so very sorry for your loss of your sweet kitty. virgdem Jun 2024 #25
Oh, dear...been there many times and its always hard. Karadeniz Jun 2024 #27
I am so sorry. StarryNite Jun 2024 #28
Sending you 💕 MLAA Jun 2024 #29
I'm so sorry. area51 Jun 2024 #30
Aw man, that's awful 😞 FirstLight Jun 2024 #31
I am so sorry, Shrike... slightlv Jun 2024 #32
Sorry IbogaProject Jun 2024 #33
Oh, I Am So Very Sorry DarthDem Jun 2024 #34
I am so sorry for the loss of your kitty. Lunabell Jun 2024 #35
My heart goes out to. Hope22 Jun 2024 #36
So sorry. Sending hugs. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Jun 2024 #37
Sorry for your loss. blm Jun 2024 #38
My cat had the same diagnosis. patphil Jun 2024 #39
Her vitals were not good. shrike3 Jun 2024 #58
I'm so sorry. How heartbreaking! Solly Mack Jun 2024 #40
I am very sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Jun 2024 #41
I'm very sorry for your loss. sinkingfeeling Jun 2024 #42
This message was self-deleted by its author sinkingfeeling Jun 2024 #43
I'm so sorry JMCKUSICK Jun 2024 #45
it's so hard Skittles Jun 2024 #46
I'm so sorry for your loss. nt Phoenix61 Jun 2024 #47
I'm so very sorry. Had the exact same thing happen with my Pretzel. *hugs* GPV Jun 2024 #48
My condolences on your devastating loss, shrike3 Niagara Jun 2024 #49
Brings tears to my eyes. Same thing with my Baby Girl last October. Fla Dem Jun 2024 #50
That's awful--please take care. It hurts so much to lose a beloved animal. Timeflyer Jun 2024 #51
I'm sorry. It's never easy losing our fur babies. 58Sunliner Jun 2024 #52
I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a fur baby is hard. Maraya1969 Jun 2024 #53
My deepest sympathies AltairIV Jun 2024 #54
So sorry Dear_Prudence Jun 2024 #55
I am so sorry. Such a hard time catrose Jun 2024 #56
Thank you to everyone who responded. It meant more than you'll ever know. shrike3 Jun 2024 #57
So sorry, shrike3 debm55 Jun 2024 #59
Even when it's right, it's so hard. 3catwoman3 Jun 2024 #60
Very sorry to hear this, shrike3! Different Drummer Jun 2024 #61
I'm so sorry drmeow Jun 2024 #62
very sorry jtb653 Jun 2024 #63
Grateful for vets who are direct and take care of a tough situation. TNNurse Jun 2024 #64
So sorry, losing your kitty unexpectedly is dofficult kimbutgar Jun 2024 #65
I'm so sorry Katcat Jun 2024 #66
My sincerest condolences on the loss of your fur baby. pazzyanne Jun 2024 #67
So sorry. It always sucks. I've had to do it several times with cats and dogs and it's never easy. COL Mustard Jun 2024 #68

Deuxcents

(20,372 posts)
5. Very sad to hear this..most of us can understand what it's like to lose a loved pet.
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 08:18 PM
Jun 2024

I’m sending hugs for what little comfort I can be. So sorry ((hugs))

Irish_Dem

(60,754 posts)
7. So sorry to hear this.
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 08:24 PM
Jun 2024

You had her for a long time.
There will be a grieving process.

I am glad the vet didn't put her through a needless surgery
and she didn't suffer.

 

shrike3

(5,370 posts)
18. It was a shock to hear the words, but once I got my wits about me I appreciated her giving it to me straight.
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 08:58 PM
Jun 2024

This was a vet I'd never met before. Kitty was so listless I decided to take her in before the appt. she had next week. Vet was so kind and asked if I wanted to leave the room. I said I couldn't imagine leaving an animal alone at a time like this. They need your warmth and your presence So as hard as it was, I stayed.

Irish_Dem

(60,754 posts)
23. A sudden death is easier on the deceased, but much harder for the family.
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 09:05 PM
Jun 2024

Oh yes, I had a dear little doggie who had inoperable cancer, she has to be put down.
I stayed with her for the procedure. As long as I was with her she was calm.
She needed me with her or would have been agitated and fearful.

When it was over I cried like a baby. It was so sad and such a shock.

niyad

(121,052 posts)
12. Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms,
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 08:53 PM
Jun 2024

andvsend peace and comfort to her grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious little girl. I know we were all hoping for the best, so I understand the shock. We who are owned by the fur people are here for you.

Permanut

(6,744 posts)
17. That is so tough..
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 08:57 PM
Jun 2024

been there several times, and it's always heart wrenching.

You got to be her hero though, which is way cool.

virgdem

(2,220 posts)
25. I'm so very sorry for your loss of your sweet kitty.
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 09:14 PM
Jun 2024

I've lost 2 cats to inoperable cancerous tumors, so I know exactly what you are going through.

You gave her love and a wonderful life and that's all that matters.💔 🌈

slightlv

(4,620 posts)
32. I am so sorry, Shrike...
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 09:40 PM
Jun 2024

May Bast receive her in Her loving arms as she crosses the Rainbow Bridge. I know the hole in your heart and soul right now. I hope Bast will also give you peace and help you find comfort in the good times you've shared with your baby.

DarthDem

(5,374 posts)
34. Oh, I Am So Very Sorry
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 10:02 PM
Jun 2024

It sounds as though she passed gently. And she was clearly very, very loved. Bless you and RIP.

Lunabell

(7,104 posts)
35. I am so sorry for the loss of your kitty.
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 10:06 PM
Jun 2024

She was lucky to have so many years of loving scritches behind her ears from you. Big hug!!

patphil

(7,189 posts)
39. My cat had the same diagnosis.
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 10:24 PM
Jun 2024

We went the prednisone route, and got him about 3-4 more months of reasonably good life, but it was always a losing battle. In the end we had him put to sleep about a week ago.
No judgement here; each situation is unique.
It really does hurt to have a pet you have known and loved leave you.
I always have said that pets are like children that never grow up. There with you for life, and that usually means a lot shorter time than we would like to have with them.

 

shrike3

(5,370 posts)
58. Her vitals were not good.
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 09:23 AM
Jun 2024

Temperature was dropping, gums pale. Vet didn't think she'd make it 24 hours. But I'm glad that extra time with your furry guy.

LetMyPeopleVote

(156,275 posts)
41. I am very sorry for your loss
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 10:50 PM
Jun 2024

It is hard to say goodbye to a family member. We had to say goodbye to my oldest child's cat a couple of weeks ago.

Response to shrike3 (Original post)

JMCKUSICK

(659 posts)
45. I'm so sorry
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 11:04 PM
Jun 2024

Please give yourself permission to grieve and to celebrate all the wonderful moments that made you special to her and her to you.
Please honor her and yourself in a way that only you and your family? can.
She'll be with you in many ways tomorrow and beyond.

Every time I see a white dragon fly, I greet her as the spirit of my Snuggles who I lost May 5th and enjoy her spirits visit with gratitude.

God Speed

Skittles

(160,697 posts)
46. it's so hard
Sat Jun 15, 2024, 11:20 PM
Jun 2024

I know

Grieve not
nor speak of me with tears
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you
I loved you so
’twas Heaven here with you

- Isla Paschal Richardson

Fla Dem

(25,977 posts)
50. Brings tears to my eyes. Same thing with my Baby Girl last October.
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 07:44 AM
Jun 2024

You go to the vet hoping she'll be coming home with you, but it doesn't happen. Gradually coming to grips that she's not there to welcome me home or snuggle next to me on the sofa. She was my "bestie" for 19 years. Left a hole in my heart. You will feel the same. My heart goes out to you.

AltairIV

(703 posts)
54. My deepest sympathies
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 08:41 AM
Jun 2024

My deepest condolences on your loss. May the passage of time, and holding onto the memories of your time shared bring you some measure of peace.

Dear_Prudence

(840 posts)
55. So sorry
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 08:54 AM
Jun 2024

You made the painful compassionate decision for her. You were there for her at the end. I hope the warm memories of the happy times you had together will soon bring you some comfort.

3catwoman3

(25,845 posts)
60. Even when it's right, it's so hard.
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 12:58 PM
Jun 2024

In our family, we call it liberating the spirit.

Hugs from a fellow cat lover -

Different Drummer

(8,848 posts)
61. Very sorry to hear this, shrike3!
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 01:16 PM
Jun 2024

I lost a cat almost two years ago to feline leukemia. She ate ravenously--she was diabetic--but didn't seem to be gaining any weight. The vet who examined her determined she had leukemia and that it was incurable. She was 18. Condolences on your loss!

drmeow

(5,371 posts)
62. I'm so sorry
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 04:12 PM
Jun 2024

That really sucks. It is bad enough when you are pretty sure that's going to be the outcome but it is 10 times worse when you aren't expecting it. I had a similar experience - although it sounds like you had a better vet!

TNNurse

(7,183 posts)
64. Grateful for vets who are direct and take care of a tough situation.
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 04:46 PM
Jun 2024

Ours put our cat on steroids and gave us a few days to adjust (we had a family tragedy about which they did not know). That cat took her steroids in vanilla ice cream and ate nothing else for a few days until we managed to take her back. She was clever like that...cat food?? There is ice cream.

It is always hard, sometimes though it is just awful. I understand.

kimbutgar

(23,791 posts)
65. So sorry, losing your kitty unexpectedly is dofficult
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 05:03 PM
Jun 2024

I lost my own cat the same way in 2022 and haven’t gotten another one because my kitty was the best cat I ever had!

Katcat

(388 posts)
66. I'm so sorry
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 06:16 PM
Jun 2024

Been down that road too many times myself and it never gets easier. But I know , and you know, that sometimes the best thing is also the hardest.

pazzyanne

(6,632 posts)
67. My sincerest condolences on the loss of your fur baby.
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 06:20 PM
Jun 2024

They bring so much joy to our lives, it is hard to say the final "Goodbye". Take care of yourself!

COL Mustard

(7,037 posts)
68. So sorry. It always sucks. I've had to do it several times with cats and dogs and it's never easy.
Sun Jun 16, 2024, 06:59 PM
Jun 2024

Just remember the good times you had with her and keep her memory alive.

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