Well my lunch date is done

[kozar]

It went ok, until,

She said," I like your Lincoln, I'm kinda high maintenance, can I see your bank page?"
As I said, it's been years since I dated.
Surely, this isn't normal?

It was a quiet drive home.

Koz

[no_hypocrisy]

1. I generally don't go on second dates when I'm asked to surrender

my credit report.

[RandySF]

2. Yeah, that's a red flag.

[Ocelot II]

3. She didn't waste much time, did she?

Hard no on that one...

[Demovictory9]

4. Yikes

Even employers don't ask to see bank reports.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

5. Yikes!

[UniqueUserName]

6. That was certainly an odd thing for her to say in my opinion.

Could it possibly be a faux pas on her part? Was she an otherwise engaging and interesting date?

Sometimes people just make a misstep and don't know how to walk it back.

Of course, other times people are telling you exactly who they are. ---Certainly a yellow flag at the least.

[PJMcK]

8. "I'm kinda high maintenance" is a bright red flag

At least to me.

However, I agree with you that sometimes people say something without realizing how inappropriate their comment or quest can be. My sister lacks certain filters and will say some outrageous comment as though she was talking about the weather!

I'm afraid our friend, kozar, had a bum steer.

[WestMichRad]

19. IMO, a bum steer

… probably would have been a better date!

[PJMcK]

7. Yeah, not good for a first date

Or any date until the two folks are making commitments to one another. In fact, it's totally off-putting and rude.

The other red flag, "I'm kinda high maintenance," is a warning and a half. I once had a first date and after we had ordered drinks, I asked, "So, tell me. How's your life?" She sighed heavily and said, "Actually, I'm very depressed and take medication for my disorders." I wanted to say, "Oh, gosh. I forgot! I've got to catch a plane tonight!" Instead we had our drinks and I called it an early evening. Too bad.

Sorry it wasn't more fun, Koz. Keep an open mind. There are many people who are worthy of your time!

[Skittles]

10. there's nothing wrong with getting help for mental health issues

but it's a HUGE problem if you're talking about such issues on a first date - that gal needs therapy along with the meds

[PJMcK]

11. I absolutely agree

kozar's date is getting professional help, obviously, and that's a good thing. In fact, it's also good that she has health care for her issues. Too many folks who need that care can't get it and that's another of the many problems America can thank Republicans for.

My point was that when dating, particularly later in life, it's wise to asses one's compatibility with potential partners. Aside from the practicality of such observations, it's wise for consideration of future issues.

Just my opinion and I wish kozar well.

[kozar]

15. PJ, you are correct in your evaluation.

If there is one thing, I've learned in my life, about me,
I always felt, I could, fix anything. I can't anymore.
MrsK and my first date, her power was shut off.
Oh her patio looked great, the hot tub, looked good.
I was ready to go home, until, the sitter came out, and I met LilBit. I paid the electric bill, quickly,
And seems I never left.
So, the date was a quandary, part of my brain was telling me, fix this
Part of my brain told me, get the hell outta here.
Im home with LilGlad, I'm too old to fix , other older people.
Koz

[JohnQFunk]

9. "My dear, one never discusses money until at least the fourth date"

Believe it or not, I riffed that line (or something very close to it) to a woman who made a similar inquiry on our first daye back in the early 1990s. And, to my astonishment, it worked – she was very intrigued!

[kozar]

12. LilGlad is happy I'm home

Maybe God, wants me, to be a Cat Daddy,, lol

[jrandom421]

20. One of God's highest callings of man

Being a well-loved cat daddy is one of the most rare and precious gifts God can bestow.

[unweird]

13. Ladies first

Should have asked her to show hers first.

I’ll show you my whatever after you show me your whatever

Wasn’t that the juvenile taunt of yore?

[kozar]

16. Chuckle,,

[debm55]

14. So sorry kozar . I was wishing for a great first date . I wouln't see her again. JMO

[brer cat]

17. IMO you should write her off. Sounds like she is looking

for a sugar daddy to keep her high maintenance bills paid. Sorry it didn't work out, but I'm sure you will have other opportunities.

[JoseBalow]

18. Just have your fun, you old son of a gun

Then drive home in your Lincoln

(0:35)

[LudwigPastorius]

21. You should have asked her, "If my bank balance is $10 million, will you sleep with me?"

If she got offended and said, "What kind of a woman do you think I am?"

You could reply, "We've already established that, now we're just haggling over price".