I just found out today my father, decades ago, superglued a small Yorkshire Terrier's lips together as punishment

[LiberalLoner]

Because the dog was locked in a small room 24/7 by him with no human interaction, and the dog acted out his distress by chewing on the wallpaper.

He also took a pet kitten of my stepsister and threw it over the fence, causing the animal not only physical damage but the cat never came back.

He also (and this is something I already knew about) beat up 12 and 9 year old girls (my two stepsisters and their friend) and then denied it.

He also spent his life choking, smacking, hitting women and only stopped leaving bruises when he finally got arrested for it in 1987.

He has also held loaded guns to the heads of his wives (he’s had a lot of wives).

I won’t go into the stuff he did to me and my siblings.

I tried so hard to forgive him and get along with him in spite of how he always put me down every time I talked to him and in spite of all the abuse from my childhood, but somehow knowing about him super glueing the dog’s lips helped me understand, truly understand, the man who made my childhood hell on earth, is truly a monster.

I used to think maybe I was a bad kid and deserved the abuse.

But that dog did not deserve what he did to him.

My father is just a monster, that’s all.

And he is dying now.

May God, if He exists, show my father the same mercy he showed to that dog snd cat.

[gay texan]

1. He doesnt deserve forgivness

Fucking monster

[LiberalLoner]

2. He is a Trumper, too, no shock. He also thought the torture at Abu Ghraib was perfectly fine.

[Ilsa]

3. I am so sorry you, your siblings, stepmoms, mom,

small animals, all God's creatures, had to endure pain inflicted by this monstrous sociopath. Personally, I believe justice will be done.

[LiberalLoner]

8. Thank you so much. I've struggled all my life with depression and anxiety.

It makes me so sad he hurt so many other people and animals.

Part of me wishes I would have gotten a gun and stopped him from hurting others.

[Deuxcents]

4. This is horrible but I wish for you peace and comfort knowing you survived all this 🌺

[LiberalLoner]

9. Thank you so much. 💙

[mobeau69]

5. Peace be with you.

[LiberalLoner]

10. Thank you so much 💙

[Basso8vb]

6. Some people deserve no forgiveness.

I wish you a long life of healing.

[LiberalLoner]

11. Thank you so much. 💙

[cachukis]

7. Agonizing. Be strong. Make friends with trees.

[LiberalLoner]

12. Thank you so much. 💙 my best friends are my kitty Mr. Bobo and the crows I feed peanuts to every morning.

[cachukis]

14. There was a fellow from India, one afternoon on

NPR, who explained a philosophical perspective during hard times, that connected various trials for me.
When things are not going your way, he said. Bake bread. It will give you purpose.
Should that not work, he suggested to take to the loom. It will require some devotion.
Best path forward.

[LiberalLoner]

20. Thank you so much! Yesterday I baked bread, today I made chocolate chip cookies for my husband, and

The last couple of days I have painted pet portraits for my stepsister.

I cuddled a lot with my kitty Mr. Bobo and fed peanuts to the crows and they cawed their joy for me.

[cachukis]

26. Aces.

[LiberalLoner]

48. 🙂

[Mike 03]

13. My god I'm so so sorry you experienced this.

I can't even imagine what this was like. I'm glad you survived and are here to tell your story, but the best thing of all would be for you not to have this story to tell. The fact that you are here and posting makes me believe you somehow survived this, but I imagine it hasn't been easy.

Sending you total compassion, empathy and everything good.

[LiberalLoner]

21. Thank you so so much. 💙. I've struggled with depression and anxiety, won't lie. I've tried to be a good person.

[debm55]

15. No creature or human. deserves the treatment he gave. I think we messaged each other, YOU did not deserve the treatment.

The dog and cat did not deserve the treatment. Very much of your story is my story. You did nothing to deserve the pain and suffering . Neither did the other kids. YOU are loveable . You are strong. Don't let your father win by making you feel you are at fault. You are brave and strong for putting up all that shit. A kid, at any age, deserves to be loved. As I said , I know your story all to well. Seek peace in your own heart for what he put you through. I didn't cry when my father died and I won't when my mother dies. You hold the truth in your mind and heart. You know that your dad was not normal.or loving. You should have no guilt for what you went though. You are loved. Some people should not have kids, Kids need to be loved and you are loved. Don't you forget that. He was not capable of loving you. And like my parents refused to get help and I owed them something for having me. You deserved better . and now the final answer is yours. Will it bother you not to care about him.I don't want to mean about your father. But he did lay the groundwork for all that he has done. Deep in your heart you know the type of person he was. I would tell him about the animals the toxcity of him before he dies. If you don't you will feel guilty . But remember you are a strong person. a brave person and a loveable person. Deb

[LiberalLoner]

19. Thank you so so much for your compassion, your words mean a lot to me and I'm sorry

You went through this too.

He says I am sick and need help because I went no contact with him and the rest of the abusive family.

But I think he is the one who is sick.

Thank you. 💙💙💙

[Niagara]

16. You and others of this abuser are survivors

I wasn't there for my father on his death bed either, so I understand.

[LiberalLoner]

22. Thank you. I will cry when he dies but also feel relieved. Thank you for understanding. I'm sorry you were hurt too...

When my father dies I will play this song.

?si=nllv0KOABdkOJlp1

[Niagara]

53. If you ever need to talk....

someone is always here to listen.

[LiberalLoner]

67. Thank you so so much. That means a lot to me. All the kind posts here mean a lot to me too, you guys are so awesome. I

Didn’t really have anyone to talk to about this because my husband is like, well, he beat his wives and little kids, why are you shocked and upset he did that to a little dog, didn’t you know that’s how he is?

But somehow learning that, and learning about his mistreatment of the kitten, upset me a great deal. I wasn’t able to shrug my shoulders about it like my husband did.

So I’m really grateful DU let me talk about it and everyone was so supportive. Thank you all. 💙💙💙💙💙

[Niagara]

76. You're welcome, LiberalLoner

There's a few of here that have had experience with an abusive/unsavory parent.


💙

[LiberalLoner]

77. 💙💙💙💙🤗🤗🤗🤗

[niyad]

17. There are simply no words fit to print here to express my views on this

monster. May he receive everything he deserves.

You do not need to forgive him. He is indeed a monster. You do, however, need to forgive yourself for feeling even for just one second that you deserved any of that. Please know that you are loved, that you are a valued member of this community, and that you deserve a good and happy life, without carrying the dead weight of this monster with you.

Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need.

[LiberalLoner]

23. Thank you so so much. Love you sister 💙💙💙💙💙

[niyad]

24. Love you, too. huggggggs.

[LiberalLoner]

35. 💙💙💙

[Janeyre]

18. The pain must be crushing but the fact that you

Are so clear eyed tells me a lot. I'm an animal lover, even wild animals, and I can't fathom the horror and pain you feel. I would not be able to deliver more pain to someone who is dying regardless of how much of a monster he was. But it's your reality, your horror story. I only wish you an end to the pain and sadness. Someday. Whatever gives you peace now is your right. I'm glad you could tell your story here to the people who can offer insight and some semblance of "family."

[LiberalLoner]

25. Thank you so much. 💙💙 when I went no contact he was still healthy, I have since emailed him

Saying I was sorry for how things worked out and I loved him.

He doesn’t want me back in his life because I defied him by going no contact and confronting him about some of the continued abuse.

When he dies I will listen to this song.

?si=nllv0KOABdkOJlp1

[Janeyre]

31. Oh my gosh

How appropriate. Think I'm going to weep. And I ain't a big crier. May whatever god you worship bless you.
I will be thinking about you for a long time.

[LiberalLoner]

36. Thank you so much. This is such a healing song for all of us who have difficult relationships with our fathers. 💙💙💙

[OAITW r.2.0]

27. Did he vote for Trump? It would make a fitting end to a life, not lived well.

[LiberalLoner]

29. Yes total Trumper

[OAITW r.2.0]

33. Of course. Still. he's your dad and I hope it works out for you...

[LiberalLoner]

37. 💙💙💙

[niyad]

40. Some beings are simply beyond redemption, and being told WE have to keep

trying to reach them is the root cause of a great deal of the emotional and mental anguish and suffering that is experienced. Every person has the right to walk away without a backward glance from those trying to destroy them.

[LiberalLoner]

49. Yes, I believe we do have the right to protect ourselves, in the end.

[debm55]

57. I agree. When my husband was told he had malignant cancer , I called my mother for support, All I got was "everyone has

die sometime." No cards or calls during the 25 treatments.My whole family is/are toxic. After 69years of verbal , sexual ,
emotional and physical abuse. I have gone no contact. I love them, but I do not love them. Black eyes, called a _hore,babyteeth knocked out, rifle held to my head and told I was going to have my brains blown out. It is hard for few people to understand the hell. As women would we let our SO other to do this to us? No, we would walk. No one deserves the abuse. And women dont need to excuse their abusers even if they are family. If I had stayed I would have been destroyed.more then I was. As many people have been.

[niyad]

63. I remember a little of how awful your family has been through Rich's

treatments, and how awful they have been to you both. Quite frankly, may they all rot in hell. And may you and your husband find peace and health and love.

[LiberalLoner]

68. Oh my god I am so sorry for what you went through. Those people are monsters and I am so glad

You went no contact. You did the right thing even though I know it is so hard.

I know we always keep hoping they will change or that there is some small kernel of decency in them. And we get our hearts broken again and again.

I’m just so sorry. You deserved so much better.

[Stargazer99]

64. A healthy response to evil

[LiberalLoner]

69. 👍👏💙

[debm55]

58. Would you let your SO do this and go back to them? Yes, they are my family . However through many years of Sexual,

physical. emotional and mental abuse can you honestly say you would return to your SO ?

[OAITW r.2.0]

59. Did you mean to address this to me debm55?

Not sure you meant this for me?

[debm55]

60. I did

[OAITW r.2.0]

62. None of my SO's over the years would accept this kind of behavior. I wouldn't.

[diane in sf]

28. Good riddance. May you not have to drag his carcass around with you.

[LiberalLoner]

30. 💙💙💙 but I'll cry even so.

[CanonRay]

32. His soul energy will be very damaged

and need repair. May not be repairable.

[LiberalLoner]

38. I always knew he was damaged inside, from my earliest memories, I always felt sorry for him even though I hated to be

Around him.

Me with my father in Montana when I was four.

I think he didn’t want to be a bad person, but he was.

He will need a lot of healing when he passes.

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[LiberalLoner]

39. And me when I was seven and he was home from Vietnam. My mother and older brother in the photo.

[url=https://postimages.org/][img][/img][/url][url=https://gasstation-nearme.com/]shell gas station around here[/url]

By this age I had been raped regularly for a couple of years already.

[niyad]

43. ??? How is that related to this thread?

[LiberalFighter]

42. He made his choices. Wrong choices.

You can make your own choices. For a better life. Don't have any regrets

[LiberalLoner]

46. Thank you 💙💙💙. Email from my stepsister in case anyone wants to see first hand.

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[LiberalFighter]

54. People shouldn't suffer like that

[LiberalLoner]

55. 💙💙💙

[GreenWave]

45. Did he ever pick on somebody his own size?

I would suspect he would finally get his comeuppance.

[LiberalLoner]

47. Well, he went to war twice, Infantry. Got his front teeth knocked out in a bar fight in his late teens.

My mother tried to kill him before I was born, but the weapon misfired and then it was taken out of her hands.

She aimed center mass. Montana gal, she knew how to hunt and handle a weapon.

[MLAA]

50. LiberalLoner, you are amazing. You are so brave! You are a survivor!

I hope you have peace after all you’ve conquered. 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

[LiberalLoner]

71. Thank you so so much! 💙💙💙. Right now I feel like the luckiest woman on earth,

And every day since I got out of my childhood home, I have thought, oh, man, I am so glad I’m not in that situation anymore.

Life seems pretty easy once you grow up in something like that.

The only hard parts are, sometimes it’s hard not to internalize the abuse and succumb to self-hatred, and sometimes I feel a lot of anxiety about things that could happen, because I know the world can be a very bad place.

Today I was just feeling so much sorrow for my stepsisters, stepmom, and those defenseless pets. I felt like I needed to talk about it and I was so glad for DU and all of you kind people.

I feel guilt too like I should have killed him because then he wouldn’t have hurt anyone else. But I know killing is wrong, it’s just…I feel like I should have stopped him, somehow.

[MaryMagdaline]

51. I'm so sorry. The worst thing about evil people is that they contaminate our lives.

I hope you are free of him soon.

[LiberalLoner]

72. Thank you so much. I am free of him already, but sometimes I wrestle with the feelings, especially when I learn of new

Atrocities he has committed.

I guess I hope god can change him and heal him after he dies because lord knows none of us ever had any influence on him, even though we all tried.

[some_of_us_are_sane]

52. Hard hugs to you

and kick that monster to the curb in whatever way you have to... getting these horrors off your chest, KNOWING he's a vile human being unworthy of forgiveness or understanding.

THAT'S for the beast's Maker to decide when he finally departs this mortal plane.

[LiberalLoner]

73. Thank you so so much. It was hard today to learn of what my poor stepsisters witnessed, and the animal abuse. It's like

Every new atrocity I hear about, I am shocked. My husband says I should know my father is like that and not be shocked, but I still am, and sickened,

I feel so sorry for all of them.

[surfered]

56. Sorry. I was posting this to the thread about Musk and government waste. Sorry, cannot explain what happened

[LiberalLoner]

70. It's okay! I figured it was a glitch in the system! 🤗

[dai13sy]

61. Your father will be repaid for all the abuses. I'm sorry you and your siblings had to go through this. Monster is right

[LiberalLoner]

74. Thank you so so much. So many of us tried to change him but we couldn't get through to him. The only thing that

Changed him was when he was arrested. After that he was still super abusive to all the women and children in his life, holding loaded guns to their heads etc., but he was careful not to leave evidence.

[CountAllVotes]

65. A close relative of mine abused animals and other living things

This person is dead now.

That said, I rather recently discovered what forgiveness is.

It is a bittersweet thing to have to learn no matter when in life.

It provides you with a form of freedom.

I hope you can find it some day.

Hang-in there

[LiberalLoner]

75. I forgave, really, at a very young age because I knew instinctively he was so damaged. I'm upset today because

I learned my stepsisters and innocent animals suffered terribly, and I feel sorrow about that and some self-blame wishing I could have saved them from him.

I really tried. I told their Mom again and again, you must leave him, he’s not going to change, you must get yourself and your children away from him. But she wasn’t ready to hear what I had to say, and told me I was a bad daughter for saying such things.

No, it’s not that I haven’t forgiven. It’s that I’m still working through a lot of feelings, especially when I learn of atrocities I had not heard of before. It hits me hard when I hear of new stuff.

Neither here nor there, you guys remember the “we had to destroy the village in order to save it?” That was not my father in the news clip saying that, but my father was basically responsible for that happening. As an S-3 in the 9th Inf Div he advised the generals making the decisions and that’s what he recommended and that’s what they ordered.

So my dad was the, “we had to destroy the village in order to save it” guy and maybe that more than anything else tells you all you need to know.

[flvegan]

66. "And he is dying now." Good. Bye. n/t

[LiberalLoner]

78. 💙💙💙

[HeartsCanHope]

79. I am so sorry for all you and your family members went through because of your father.

I am so glad you survived his abuse. All he has done is on him, not on you. To me forgiveness is not a right--it is a gift--even if someone has asked you for it. Unless he is willing to own his guilt and make amends, in my opinion, he deserves nothing.
I do ask you to not blame yourself, however. You were not in any way responsible for his actions, especially since you didn't know what had happened to those poor animals.
You will be in my thoughts. Many hugs to you, my friend.

[LiberalLoner]

80. Thank you so much 💙💙💙