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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsIm sitting in my living room waiting for my neighbor to die....
..Hes on hospice and his wife told the other neighbors he will more than likely pass today. He and his wife are in their early 70s.. my hubby and i not much younger. Neighbor Bill looked much older ...he was from Tennessee, rolled his own cigarettes, had a tough life. I never knew his political leanings but it didn't matter (altho I can guess who he supported) because he was a real neighbor to me...one I could always count on.
We have been neighbors for almost 25 years....not the kind where you have dinner together, play cards, bar b q or hang out....but the kind you call when you are just needing a neighborly hand. He was always there to help....got my mail for me on vacations, we fed their dogs for them, we called each other with wildlife sightings ( 'get your dogs inside theres a cougar, bear, rattlesnake etc) and when we observed the first hummingbirds to arrive in the spring etc.
We live miles from town deep in a canyon in the woods so we watch out for each other but don't get in each others faces. Only a handful of houses up here so even when any of us went the 15 miles into town we checked with one another if anyone 'needed anything'.
I knew he had cancer but I thought it had been beaten.. I probably talked to him just one time this year.
So I can see his house though the pine trees across the canyon. Hospice is there, his dtr is there. One neighbor is running a chain saw for some reason and I hear a lawnmower...its starting to rain. We are all just kind of watching and waiting. I assume if he passes there will be an official vehicle of some kind.
Godspeed Bill....
hamsterjill
(15,545 posts)That's a neat tribute to your neighbor. He's obviously someone that you care about, and I'm sorry that you will be losing him.
Cancer sucks. I have a relative with Stage IV and it's only a matter of time, as well. I wish Bill a peaceful passing. I'm glad Bill has friends like you because his family, particularly the wife he leaves behind, will benefit from your kindness.
I wish you comfort, and I wish you good things for obviously being a great friend yourself.
samnsara
(18,320 posts)... I would ask Bill to keep an eye out for suspicious cars etc. I mean we are alone up here! My neighbors dtr stayed alone in her parents weekend cabin near us while she was going to school. Bill said " I will watch out for you guys" and that made us feel safe...cuz we knew he was sitting at his window or on his porch with a cup of coffee watching the world and then he would drive his plow over to our property and plow the snow off the driveways so we could get out. Just little things like that we will miss the most.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,615 posts)Always hurts to loose a good neighbor because I think they are part of our social fabric and mental security. Also best when politics never enters into the picture, just keeping life in the "real" stuff.
samnsara
(18,320 posts)..we would bring him back Tennessee 'souvenirs'. He was a good guy.
Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)We are fortunate when we have neighbors we can depend on and enjoy, yet enjoy the space they give us and we, them.
Godspeed to your neighbor...good memories and peace to his family..
samnsara
(18,320 posts)onethatcares
(16,603 posts)You were lucky to find a kindred soul.
samnsara
(18,320 posts)...go on anyone else's terms.
sinkingfeeling
(53,367 posts)samnsara
(18,320 posts)Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)any of us can.
samnsara
(18,320 posts)..when he was doing construction in Tennessee. My dtr lived there for 10 yrs and often we would go stay at a cabin in Pigeon Forge or Gatlinburg. He was from Sevierville and he used to build those cabins. They are on scary roads even with a 4x4 and he drove those giant truck up them.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,615 posts)He was raised in the foothill mountains that adjoin the Appalachians to the west, during the Great Depression. He worked in timber most of his life and smoked most of that time until cancer got him, too. Eastern mountain folks are quite unique, I think and I have a lot of that in me.
My folks were not well off, and getting to go to the Smokies was a huge treat. No one but rich folks got to go to Florida, LOL.
During my younger years, smoking was the manly thing to do, and most farmers in my area in middle TN raised tobacco - so it was part of the culture (still is to a degree). Thank goodness, most everyone I know has now quit.
We all live and learn! Thanks again for posting that touching story.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)dewsgirl
(14,964 posts)own a cleaning service that cleans those cabins, he built . I live in Florida, but can vouch for those roads, they are terrifying to get used to driving on. I hope he rests in peace. I thought your post was a beautiful tribute to your friend and neighbor.
Edit: I just saw this was from 2017, I don't know how I ended up in this thread. My phone was in my purse, I guess a couple buttons were pushed. I thought it was lovely.
More_Cowbell
(2,206 posts)Is to die peacefully at home, with loved ones around us. If there's also someone wishing us well as we pass, that's a bonus.
You're doing a good thing.
samnsara
(18,320 posts)samnsara
(18,320 posts)... I didn't see any emergency vehicles go in and out of the canyon so I must have missed it. Theres a psychic shift in our little canyon population. He definitely was the colorful character up here and now its just kind of beige and too quiet. Godspeed my friend.
What a lovely tribute to Bill. I'm sure you feel blessed to have known him and have him as a part of your life. May he rest in peace and may his family find comfort in the love they shared with him.
Hassin Bin Sober
(26,806 posts)I sat with my partner's stepdad for a week but missed when he finally passed. Iirc, the nurse came and then hospice came to collect the body. It was pretty low key.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)reversed.
" I never knew his political leanings but it didn't matter (altho I can guess who he supported) because he was a real neighbor to me...one I could always count on."