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Related: About this forumI'm coining a new word: ANBO
TLDR: It's an acronym for "Adult Non-Binary Offspring".
I have an anbo. They are neither male nor female, neither are they a child. So none of the words I would otherwise use to describe them work, which tends to either force me to misgender them, and/or call them a "child" when they are 25 years old.
I have a friend who also has an anbo, and she recently asked me how to refer to them, considering they are not a "child," nor a "daughter," nor a "son." It makes for long, complicated conversations with people who either don't understand what it means to be non-binary, or want to engage in some rancorous conversation that I don't have time for. (Pretty sure a new word isn't going to fix this, but it might speed up the process a little, and help me get it over with faster.)
So...new word: ANBO
You're welcome
TwilightZone
(28,834 posts)Without the qualifiers. That would eliminate a lot of the complications and explanations. If you and your offspring both have a sense of humor about it, you could say progeny, heir, successor or descendant.
Whatever works for you is best, though.
NoRethugFriends
(3,038 posts)I refer to my 44 and 46-year-olds as my kids
Lefta Dissenter
(6,657 posts)I recently had this conversation with a friend. Im old enough that Im still adjusting to the concept that they/them is not necessarily plural, but trying to be sensitive, not be a dope, and learn.
I ran into a former neighbor and asked how Johnnie is doing. That neighbor said, Johnnie is now Isabel, and doing great - finally! Well, Isabel is heading off to college, so while my kids will always be my kids, I really wanted a way to refer to this young adult as something other than kid or whatever.
So I love your new word! And I love your ANBO!
momta
(4,110 posts)I have an English degree, and I can be a bit obnoxious in correcting people's grammar. I finally had to just say to myself, "I love my family, I love my anbo, and if this is what they want and need, then I will do my best to adjust."
I later read that, according to Wikipedia, the first use of the singular "they" in literature is from the poem Guillaume de Palerme, from 1375. Not sure why, but that made using a little easier for me.
LostOne4Ever
(9,603 posts)So many people wont even put in the effort to merely call their trans/ nonbinary family by their pronouns much less new name.
But you love and respect your offspring so much that you are willing to coin a new acronym just for them!!! I wish more people where like you!!!