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[seaglass]

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[Viva_La_Revolution]

1. lots of people here to help..

what's going on?

[tavalon]

2. If they don't, they are stuck with me

I'm in Nar Anon, for families of people using narcotics.

[irisblue]

3. fine by me

i know my family has to deal with my crazies and recovery

[NMDemDist2]

4. I think we'd better re-write our group description

we need to be clear it's for those who are affected by addiction or alcoholism

you are welcome and i'm off to start a new thread

[NMDemDist2]

6. alanon is probably a good idea

you don't have to say a word, but it might help hearing other's experience in your situation

[Old Codger]

8. My wife

Got more out of actual AA meetings than Al-Anon, for her it was better to hear from the actual alcoholics than the "victims" whatever works, but you might try and see if there is an open AA meeting in your area and see how that feels.

[cally]

7. Is there a family program at the detox?

Many have a family day or meeting that helps family's understand more. Otherwise, I second the suggestion of alanon. There are many who share what you are going through.

[Tripod]

9. Not to many thoughts...

You are welcome here seaglass. I come here to find a place to feel better, and get some feed back too. I hope that you can. I have experience with alcholism, and some people I know with other addictions. When my Dad died 4 months ago he had 28 years sobtiety from alchol. I'm proud of him.

[Tippy]

10. ((((((hugs)))))) Tripod you should be proud of your dad

[Tripod]

11. Thanks Tippy, I am.

I'm glad I was able to tell him too. He was happy to see me sober for a couple years also. I have his first year coin with me. He inspired me, and me him. Love you Dad!

[DemReadingDU]

12. Question about encouragement vs detachment

When my alcoholic brother was drinking heavily a few years ago, it was always felt that the family should encourage his good behaviors. He finally did go into rehab, and with family encouragement, he is doing much better.

My son also is alcoholic. My side of the family encourages his good behaviors, but his wife is seeing a counselor and has been told to detach herself from him and to consider him 'dead'. That by having no contact with him or his kids, he is dead to them until he goes into rehab.

How does this group feel of these two different philosophies?
Thanks.

[Tripod]

13. You are welcome, this comes from the admin. and me, Tripod.

We want you here, I was just watching a while ago, and wrote a post. Glad you are writting. I love the "peace" sig. I want that too. We have experience.