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XanaDUer2

(13,829 posts)
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 03:52 PM Jun 2024

My SO is drunk out of his mind

Every day, he drinks a giant giant bottle of wine in about 5 hrs. Since I'm trapped hete, I usually ignore it. Its easier than being screamed at and threatened. He usually doesn't slur n fall down. I try to keep my interaction w him to a minimum.

Today he slugged down the giant bottle in abt and hr, started slurring n teetering around crashing. I called my relatives I'm so stressed. They told me to ignore him as much as i can. I don't have enough to move out. He's telling me this is my fault (his pain) and that i don't care he's in pain.

I wish i was dead. I'm 48 hrs out of medical exam he's supposed to accompany me to

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My SO is drunk out of his mind (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Jun 2024 OP
Find someone else to take you to the exam. Tell him if applegrove Jun 2024 #1
He just called me by his ex wifes name XanaDUer2 Jun 2024 #2
We love you. underpants Jun 2024 #3
Ty XanaDUer2 Jun 2024 #4
If I had my way, there would be a separate alcohol license that one could have suspended or lose permanently. brewens Jun 2024 #5
If only XanaDUer2 Jun 2024 #7
I'm sorry, I love you mountain grammy Jun 2024 #6
Ty XanaDUer2 Jun 2024 #8
My sister doesn't want to hear anymore XanaDUer2 Jun 2024 #9
I'm sorry you are going through this. cate94 Jul 2024 #10
I have mentioned this before too. MotownPgh Jul 2024 #11

applegrove

(123,111 posts)
1. Find someone else to take you to the exam. Tell him if
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 03:58 PM
Jun 2024

alcohol is causing serious issues in his life and he keeps drinking that is the definition of an alcoholic.

I am so sorry. Call that AA affiliated group for the families of alcoholics. Maybe one of them can drive you to the exam.

Call an abuse hotline.

And keep in touch at DU.

Don't be alone on this tough journey.

((((Hugs))))

XanaDUer2

(13,829 posts)
2. He just called me by his ex wifes name
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 04:01 PM
Jun 2024

If i mention anything about his opioid or now alcohol abuse he goes nuts

 

brewens

(15,359 posts)
5. If I had my way, there would be a separate alcohol license that one could have suspended or lose permanently.
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 05:26 PM
Jun 2024

I never have understood what I call the bed wetting mama's boy drunk. Anyone that thinks a few drinks is a reason to go on a bad trip and cause trouble. I've been that way especially since I was a trustee at our Eagles lodge about 20 years ago. There was no end to the problems with drunks in the lounge. Grown assed men that couldn't handle it.

I got the idea that whenever someone had to be booted for a 30- or 90-day suspension, if something like that could be reported and have the guy's alcohol license yanked too, they might learn something. Sure, they could get someone to buy for them but maybe that would help improve their behavior. They wouldn't want to be too mean to the person they need to give them their baba.

XanaDUer2

(13,829 posts)
7. If only
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 06:28 PM
Jun 2024

Hed just find some way. He's an addict. He got cut off his opioids playing little games. They finally cut him loose.

Now its booze instead. Oh and he stuffs himself with food. He'll eat a jumbo bag of chips overnight

mountain grammy

(27,271 posts)
6. I'm sorry, I love you
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 06:25 PM
Jun 2024

I've been there. One day at a time. You'll make it. I'm 40 years past it and it still affects me but not like being in it.

XanaDUer2

(13,829 posts)
8. Ty
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 06:30 PM
Jun 2024

He's 72 and killing himself and I'm after trying for decades which i shouldn't have, done. I'm just trying to get through this . I'm supposedly on his pension for ten yrs. Now he's limping around looking for good and I'm ignoring him

XanaDUer2

(13,829 posts)
9. My sister doesn't want to hear anymore
Sun Jun 30, 2024, 09:00 PM
Jun 2024

I apologized. Its horrible to hrar an abused person upset you with their domestic situation.

I'm staring down months of already paid dental work. I'm pretty. Much stuck. No one wants to hear this anymore.

cate94

(2,888 posts)
10. I'm sorry you are going through this.
Mon Jul 1, 2024, 08:03 AM
Jul 2024

Maybe Alanon could help. Sometimes talking with people who have a similar situation can help. If nothing else it can get you out of the house for a while.

MotownPgh

(359 posts)
11. I have mentioned this before too.
Wed Jul 3, 2024, 07:33 AM
Jul 2024

I went to two meetings and after listening to everyone's heartbreak and stories, I left my (newly discovered) addict. But the meetings were obviously so helpful to the members. They had great advice and were obviously wonderful support to each other.

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