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PasadenaTrudy

(3,998 posts)
Thu May 21, 2015, 11:14 AM May 2015

An old friend was recently diagnosed...

Stage 4 rectal cancer with mets to the liver. He's 47 and lives in Japan. So hard that he's so far away! He's American, teaching English there, married to a Japanese woman. He had surgery a few days ago to remove part of his rectum and install a colostomy bag. He will start chemo soon and we go from there. He's determined to fight it. Keep your fingers crossed for him, if you can! Thank you..

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An old friend was recently diagnosed... (Original Post) PasadenaTrudy May 2015 OP
My fingers will be crossed for him. In_The_Wind May 2015 #1
another pair of fingers crossed olddots May 2015 #2
Sorry to hear that! Tab May 2015 #3
Thanks! PasadenaTrudy May 2015 #6
End of 2008 Tab May 2015 #7
Just heard PasadenaTrudy May 2015 #9
Ports are better Tab May 2015 #10
That's good to know PasadenaTrudy May 2015 #11
Hi again PasadenaTrudy Jul 2015 #14
On-line support charin May 2015 #4
Thanks for your replies PasadenaTrudy May 2015 #5
There are two issues Tab May 2015 #8
stage 4 mCRC patient is xing fingers for your friend wordpix May 2015 #12
Thank you! PasadenaTrudy May 2015 #13

Tab

(11,093 posts)
3. Sorry to hear that!
Fri May 22, 2015, 05:16 PM
May 2015

Almost same diagnosis as mine (except my mets went to my lungs). Surgery, colostomy, the whole bit.

If he's interested in chatting to someone with similar stuff, have him PM me. If he's not on DU, but wants to chat, you can PM me privately and I'll pass along my email.

I wish him the best.

Tab

(11,093 posts)
7. End of 2008
Sat May 23, 2015, 12:42 PM
May 2015

It has an 80% mortality rate after 5 years, and I'm past that. Of course, I don't know if that means I have 1 year or 20 left. I've been through surgery (colon resection), radiation, most chemo regimens, etc. Actually this version normally mets to the liver, so I'm a little unusual in that it went to my lungs, but that's really secondary.

Anyway, if he'd like to chat, let me know and we can connect.

Best,

- Tab

PasadenaTrudy

(3,998 posts)
9. Just heard
Sat May 23, 2015, 03:09 PM
May 2015

he's still in the hospital. He's in a very good cancer unit in a new hospital in Japan. He will probably be there for 2 weeks. They are going to install a port for the chemo, they can't use his veins for some reason. I think in Japan they keep people in hospital longer, unlike here in the US where they kick you out as soon as possible. I get info from his mom here, I haven't talked to him yet.

Tab

(11,093 posts)
10. Ports are better
Sat May 23, 2015, 06:03 PM
May 2015

I have a port. They *could* use my veins but a port is much more comfortable and I could see on some people how you might need one. I don't *need* one, but it would have sucked more without one.

PasadenaTrudy

(3,998 posts)
14. Hi again
Wed Jul 22, 2015, 12:44 PM
Jul 2015

My friend in Japan is writing a blog now, about his cancer. He's been in hospital again for almost two weeks. No appetite, so he's on IV pumping in nutrition.. He had fluid and pus drained from abdomin, and now there's a cavity left. Drs are waiting for it to disappear I believe. He hasn't been able to have chemo in a while.
This is his blog http://cancerdiaries13.blogspot.jp/
I'm sure he'd love some comments if you are up to it.
Hope you are feeling good this summer!

charin

(62 posts)
4. On-line support
Fri May 22, 2015, 05:26 PM
May 2015

I have recurrent rectal cancer, two resections, radiation, chemo. Thank God no metastasis! I've got a TON of good information from this discussion board:
http://coloncancersupport.colonclub.com/viewforum.php?f=1

PasadenaTrudy

(3,998 posts)
5. Thanks for your replies
Sat May 23, 2015, 12:32 PM
May 2015

Last I heard, he got through the surgery fine. Still not on solid food yet. I know very little about this type of cancer, how fast or slow it moves. I lost my sis to pancreatic and dad to lung cancers and that was so damn fast!

Tab

(11,093 posts)
8. There are two issues
Sat May 23, 2015, 12:45 PM
May 2015

One is how fast it moves (how aggressive), the other is when you detect it. I detected mine late, but it is a relatively slower-moving cancer (persistant, but slow). Sorry about your sis and dad. I lost an aunt and uncle to lung cancer, an uncle to leukemia, and have various relatives with breast cancer (now treated). It's very pervasive and persistent.

wordpix

(18,652 posts)
12. stage 4 mCRC patient is xing fingers for your friend
Sun May 31, 2015, 01:22 PM
May 2015

After my surgery and chemo, all is well about a year later. Wishing the same for your buddy

PasadenaTrudy

(3,998 posts)
13. Thank you!
Sun May 31, 2015, 10:58 PM
May 2015

Hang in there yourself! I heard he started chemo last week, having side effects. I get news second hand from Japan so I don't know details. I know he's still hospitalized and not up for writing back.

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