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[debm55]

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[Tetrachloride]

1. As far as I know, wide wide open.

[debm55]

6. I thought the TOS said not to post things outside of the group that might trigger a poster? One

poster has not posted any mental health issues, but seems to lurk. IMO that is wrong. Both posters were wrong.

[Tetrachloride]

7. I can imagine that a major re-think of

DU privacy and manners is worthwhile.

[BigmanPigman]

2. I've always been able to read the posts

in this forum. So I don't think it is "private".

[debm55]

3. So anything a poster writes is free to used outside the group? And if posting a gut wrenching fact

of what they are going through, can be taken anywhere on the site? Because I saw it happen earlier this evening and I didn't agree with it. I feel that if there are things posted they should not be discussed beyong this group. Actually, both posters were in the wrong.

[BigmanPigman]

5. I think as with all social media,

Once it is written and posted it is part of the public domain.

[debm55]

8. Oh, it wasn't me. But why lurk in a Mental Health group? And put it out there.

[debm55]

9. Not being snarky, but unless you are having or know someone having mental health problems what would

be the attraction to such a group. Again, I don't want to be snarky. If I didn't have cancer, I would not go to the cancer group. And I did, out of common courtesy the information would stay there.

[Me.]

4. It Depends On THe Post

[debm55]

10. The thread is in GD and it is locked but still on the first page. It is about Storms in Florida and

the effect on his daughter. He was upset and tried to calm him down by telling him to swaddle his daughter and lightly sing or hum softly to her.It is on the first page of GD

[debm55]

12. I don't think I will be posting in this group. I don't want to bare my soul and risk the chance it

will be used.Yes, once it is on the internet it is public domain, My mistake.

[XanaDUer2]

19. Never post what you're uncomfortable with

Personally, minus one user, I don't care, but that's me. I doubt anyone is going to use my mental-health discussions against me.

It's a very niche forum

[debm55]

21. I will think about that, It has helped me. i told my psychologist about me finding a group and he

was glad. But I don't want to get involved with free for alls. Like I said I never answer those type of posts, felt sorry for his child.

[XanaDUer2]

22. Ok nt

[XanaDUer2]

11. I'm not sure I understand

As a frequent poster, I was allowed in. As for a personal thread being locked, it depends on the thread. If it's the thread I think it is, I've seen nasty personal attacks from that poster.

[debm55]

13. Yes, I did too. But it seemed like more personal things were dragged in. On both sides. It got away

from the original post, and started to get mean on both sides. I don't want to take the chance that what I shared here will be used here. perhaps the original poster should have posted it here?

[BlackSkimmer]

14. Perhaps contact him and let him know your concerns.

Many people post here and even more lurk.

Many people lurk to learn from others, to find out if they're alone, to hear cheering thoughts, to gather their courage to talk, or maybe to realize others feel bad sometimes too. Forcing to people to talk would be the complete opposite of what this forum is about.

The TOS of this forum is clear.

[debm55]

16. I got an mail message this morning from said poster, I really don't want to be invoved, I was just

offering suggestions. I have seen other posts from said poster and don't comment unless it it here, Learned my lesson.

[debm55]

27. The TOS is clear about using the information outside of this group.

[XanaDUer2]

15. There's always the lounge

That's more appropriate for those types of posts.

I had to block certain people due to being flooded with inapproprate PMs. That's all I'm going to say on that matter.

[debm55]

17. I don't even think the lounge is appropriate. That is why this group is set up.

[XanaDUer2]

18. Well, yes

Even though the person who was harassing me posts here, I'm not going to stop.

[BlackSkimmer]

20. And nor should you!

Good on ya!

[XanaDUer2]

23. I still have the PMs

Yuppers

[BlackSkimmer]

24. Probably the same poster.

Which is why I had to block him too.

[debm55]

25. I got one this morning. Usually don't engage on PM. just said thank you.

[XanaDUer2]

26. Smart

Take my word for it.

[debm55]

28. But you did not have to mention it. It should have been personal --between him and you. You walk the

line wheen you belittle people as is habit. As were your posts last night to me, You get off making fools of people, but it is you that comes across as the fool.

[XanaDUer2]

29. I suggest there be no PMs

Between a certain poster.

The only history anyone can look up on DU is what that poster posted. And whatever a DUer chooses to put on their profile.

Always keep in mind anything put up on DU then can be referenced by a search or googled.

MHS was my safe space, and now it's becoming less so. That makes me angry.